Peanut9330 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 The more I talk about how I feel the better I seem to be doing, I still have my highs and lows but their not as bad as they use to be. Just to fill anyone in I recently got out of a really bad relationship boyfriend cheated and I took him back and he cheated again, and yet right now I feel bad and hurt even though I know I dont want to be with him and I am doing NC i'm still hurting but the more I talk about these feelings the better I feel so here I go again I know i'll make it but I also know its gonna take time to heal. Anyone else going through something similar? or has anyone been through this and got past it, if so any advice, I would apprecaite any insight.
brock9911 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 yeah this situation is very similar to mine. me and my ex were together for a lil under 7 years when she cheated on me. she got caught by my friend hooking up wit 2 guys from her job at a bar. than another friend caught her hooking up with some kid at my house party right after my father passed. long story short, i kicked her out (we lived together for 4 years) and after a few months we started seeing each other again. i than moved into her place, and almost a year after she cheated on me, she broke up with me because she thought i was cheating. which i never did. im still hurting, and feel betrayed. but all i try to do is stay positive. be around friends and family who care. and i deffinitly have been blessed with good friends and parents. go out. have fun. think about how if they are that selfish that they can hurt us like that, than why dwell on what could have been. we both can find some one better, and we will. it just takes time. good luck and hope someone elses pain helps yours haha
Road To Joy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Yeah, it's normal. I went through exactly what you explained. I didn't get passed it, though, because my ex broke NC and sent my ass back to square one. Ugh. Now I'm just getting through the 'harder' days, you know? Can't wait to get back to where I was, though. someone elses pain helps yours haha Funny how that works, huh?
Author Peanut9330 Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Thank you both for sharing it does help to know that there are people out there who been through or are going through the same thing and its nice to hear that somehow we all are coping with this in some way. We do have are good and bad days but its nice to know that in time we will heal and everything will be better wish it could happen sooner than later but gotta stay positive and know that this pain will go away. Its ironic though that we did nothing wrong and that we are suffering so much.
jlr Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Yeah, it's normal. I went through exactly what you explained. I didn't get passed it, though, because my ex broke NC and sent my ass back to square one. Ugh. Now I'm just getting through the 'harder' days, you know? Can't wait to get back to where I was, though. Funny how that works, huh? God, I hear that. Just when you get to a point, they break NC and knock you back a few steps. Hang in there.
brock9911 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 peanut- yeah its all a vicious cycle in the beginning. little things can set you back. but you can always do what i did, disguise your pain with a different pain, like a tattoo haha. either way do what makes you comfortable and happy and helps keep your mind clear
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