love_fool Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 My bf and I broke up in March, almost 2 years into our crazy, jam-packed relationship. Here's the story summed up.. we went fast, and fell hard, and was just so crazy over each other, until we both entered college and faced other problems of our own. We realized that our lives are going separate ways, and got caught up in a confused struggle. This resulted in a break up, and less than a month later we reconciled because we were having such a hard time apart, and was so safe being with each other. Other than that, he distanced himself away from me, cutting our time together from at least 4 times a week to a few hours once a week. Our phone calls were shorter, and sex was pretty much out of the question. He still told me he loved me, and just said that he needed this space to figure things out, but I think the damage has been done - we started off to quick and now can't find anything to spice up the staleness. From all of this, I started losing hope and resenting him and hoping that someday I will get over this, but for some reason, all I have to think about is his face, or his touch, or his voice and I can't leave him... I love him still even though we're fading, I feel as if there's still something we can save. What do I do?
boogieboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Youre doing the right thing, Only time and determination will help you get over this. You have to want to get over him though. You already know the spark was doused, it was stale, and it couldnt work anymore, so youre in the right direction. You dont seem in denial, so youre doing good. All you can do is hang out with your friends, have a good time, build up confidence with flirting with new guys at school... its still summer, theres plenty of outdoor activities to do with friends. BTW he might come crawling back if he sees you dont need him, so be prepared for what you might have to feel about that.
Author love_fool Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Telling this story to my closest friends have only ever led to one direction - just break up. I feel sometimes when I go out I don't have fun, or I just end up thinking about what he's doing. He'll be turning 19 in about a week, which is the legal drinking age in BC, and I feel like if I broke it off now I'd have a hard time dealing with him going out, and not being able to fathom that I wasn't there for his birthday. We're going to spend the day together tomorrow.. I told him that we'll know if we still have feelings for each other if our day tomorrow felt like we were two high-schoolers completely head over heels for each other. By the way, his facebook reveals his new encounters with some girls that he met at a party. I have confronted him about it, and he has told me that he will not talk to them anymore if I feel uncomfortable about it..
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