New_life Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 So after 5 days of NC, Im was feeling powerful. However she texts me a text asking if I was going out of town... I dont respond, and she also asks via Facebook (i dont have her as a friend) Dont answer, then she leaves another FB Message saying: she is fed up always contacting me, that she is tired of it and how boring to do it more. bye Dont answer that one. And no texts saying again how she is fed up and how she tried, and that at least she can say she moved a finger and i didnt. that if i want her to be a bitch she will be, and she will treat me like she doesnt know me. that she promises that. bye. I am soo pissed, that she tried? What going out with other people, telling me that her new bf was 10 better than me after our 4 years?, texting me stupid things like if I visited our friend in common (he had an accident, us 3 were like brothers).. I wrote letters, emails calls texts that were unanswered stating how i felt for her, how I would change and work it out and put everything... And she tells me I didnt do anything?? I know she doesnt want me back, only as a friend or just a person that helped her out when she was down and now out of guilt doesnt let me goo. Man, I was doing good... Now this? I know everyone will say I was stupid in answering the text. But I felt my blood boil, and answered: I am not being mean, its for my own good. I cant keep crying, you dont want me in your life but you do at the same time? I already told you how I felt. What do you want from me? No answer... ANother text from me: Nothing. Well at least I want you to be happy. Take care. Bye Still no answer... God she just did it to crack me down and let her have the pleasure of not answering my text, she is soo proud. Man, I cant believe she treats me so badly. I helped her out in all her problems, did her homeworks, helped in school, etcc. I can accept I didnt take as much time as I could to go out with her, but I had school, work, family pressure. Also, I didnt give her as much gifts but the few I gave cost me alot (she is rich, Im paying school and helping family). She made it sure to let me know when she helped me, I helped her without rubbing it in her face... But she left me for someone else and all the defects she told me everyday have now traumatized me and I feel like trash, when I know it wasnt all my fault. And now she is going to treat me horribly (i go to university)... She was everything, I left my friends for her! Just got a text: Why Im I going to answer if you never answer. Bye. Sorry, if its long, I feel better just comming here. Thanks.
boogieboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Dont sweat it, you got to her. All this time she was manipulating you, and once you ignored her it drove her nuts. Shes pathetic, she wants attention from you that she didnt deserve and she didnt get it. She WILL text you again, and you gotta keep ignoring her. Be empowered by it! It will drive her nuts again, and dont answer her because she is just seeking validation for herself. You did good until you answered her.... hope that answers your question.
CaliGuy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 She can only hurt you if you LET her. Her cries for attention are merely for her own SELF VALIDATION. She doesn't genuinely care about you. She just wants to feed her ego. When you respond, that is exactly what you're doing.
smookie Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I did the same thing to my ex yesterday. I text him. I was not rude and I did not say anything that would imply me being rude... however Right after I did it I felt really bad... I think to myself why did I contact him, I broke up with him and he is trying to move on who am I to do anything to stop that? Some people learn and some people never do. But one thing we all have in common is that we hate silence, We hate it when there is no responce. Keep on going yesterday you fell today your your back up again... If and when she texts ignore it. It will get her more then anything else.
love_fool Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 She is definitely doing this to get self satisfaction, to get the upperhand over this break-up. The more you cling onto it, the more she will get her self validation. Don't let he do this to you, because without all this I'm sure you can do just fine with your progress. I could say I am guilty of doing this, and so is my bf.
boogieboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 She is definitely doing this to get self satisfaction, to get the upperhand over this break-up. The more you cling onto it, the more she will get her self validation. Don't let he do this to you, because without all this I'm sure you can do just fine with your progress. I could say I am guilty of doing this, and so is my bf. QFT Yeah btw NewLife my ex did this to me for months, so it NEVER gets better. She is just pathetic needing this validation.
Author New_life Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 I know, she is very proud of her just wants the last message. She texted right now: Mmmmm. Im not going to answer, so at least she wont have the last message. It hurts because I think everytime she will tell me she regrets it and wants back, instead she hurts me with a sugarcoated indiference or a mean text saying she will treat me like a bitch... Thanks for the replies, the true test comes next week. After 3 months of not seeing her, I will probably cross ways in college....
ssj4trunks09 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Don't answer it anymore, you'll only regret it after. I'm going through the same thing right now, they will say something that will get to you just so that you can respond. Whatever you say won't get to them. You told her you tried and did your best and she still says that the only reason you're not picking up is cuz you don't care. I know, I'm going through the SAME THING right now of my ex saying that to me. They're just trying to find anything to say to get to you. Silence kills a person no matter who it is because they want to know what you have to say. Makes them wonder. It's hard I know, when my ex calls me I want to pick up. I say to myself man the only reason she calls me is because she misses me n still loves me. But in the end, she's prolly only doing it to feel good about herself. Whooped. Like "yea I got him whooped thats why he picks up". or something.. point is dont pick up. If she really wanted you back she wouldn't be with that new bf. SHE moved on and maybe you should too... as hard as it sounds but it's the truth...
Author New_life Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Trunks, it sucks where in this situation.... I wish they would just end it nicely and let us move on... But I dont know what would be worse I she just out of the blue left my world withour saying a word or what she is doing right now. At least right now she for a second thinks about me?? dont get me wrong I know its over, I am trying to move on... Right noww Im in such pain..
DustySaltus Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 everything ends badly otherwise it wouldn't end. Don't believe that "new bf is better than you" ****.....it's the oldest trick in the book. Get out there and be the big man on campus.
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