Notsogood Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Ran in my ex who I was with for 5 and a half years today. Its been 6 weeks since our breakup, and just when I thought I was getting some progress, I feel like I am back where I started again. Saw her on the train this morning and we had a small chat - basically just hi, how are you kinda thing. She tells me she misses me, and for some reason I pretty much gave her the cold shoulder. I just abruptly told her I had to go and walked off, and now looking back, I was probably being a bit rude. Man it hurts so much. The most painful thing is that I had just about given up all hope, hence me giving her the cold shoulder, now I have some hope again and think I may have ruin my chances again. I hate these mind games. LOVE SUCKS
dianna Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 many hugs from me I know it sucks..for example yesterday I thought I saw him ( every boy looks like him since the break up ) . Imagine this, 20 years old female hiding in a bush all of the sudden. I felt terribly stupid ( the boy wasn't him of course)..many people saw me ..a stray dog came to sniff me ..damn .Love sucks
Author Notsogood Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 I'm am just feeling so down right now, cos I still love this girl dearly. I've tried everything in the past and now its sad that I have to act like I don't care anymore around her as I hate playing mind games. Today surprised me as well, cos it was the first time she actually iniated with the "I miss you" and was all touchy and such. ARRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH! Now all the what-if scenarios are playing through my head and are driving me crazy!
Taucher Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 My GF dumped me. I ran into her 5 weeks later, she was chatty, happy to see me, and like you, I was rude to her. She was shocked that I was rude and walked out the shop we were in very upset and crying. I felt awful afterwards. Similar to you. But it was how I felt. She saw me in a shop and she could have walked on by, but she came in! I didnt see her. I was angry that she thought that it would be ok to make chit chat with me. Love does, indeed, suck. T
ssj4trunks09 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I'm am just feeling so down right now, cos I still love this girl dearly. I've tried everything in the past and now its sad that I have to act like I don't care anymore around her as I hate playing mind games. Today surprised me as well, cos it was the first time she actually iniated with the "I miss you" and was all touchy and such. ARRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH! Now all the what-if scenarios are playing through my head and are driving me crazy! One step at a time... don't rush into things. Don't think things are going to get better just like that if you talk to her..
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 If your walking around with your heart broken, why does she expect you to be happy about it!? WTF of course your gonna be pissed, it's only natural!!! Dont be ashamed by it, your emotional state was normally ok.
ATR Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 You handled the situation amazingly well, well done. You acted like you didn't care about her and that is the direction you should be heading, so once again, well done!
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Ran in my ex who I was with for 5 and a half years today. Its been 6 weeks since our breakup, and just when I thought I was getting some progress, I feel like I am back where I started again. I'm sorry that this happened. Saw her on the train this morning and we had a small chat - basically just hi, how are you kinda thing. She tells me she misses me, I am gathering that she dumped you. If that is the case, she is currently infected with a virus strain known as EVWO1. That's, evil woman strain type 1. It's a terrible virus in which the affected party begins to play head games, makes attempts to buff their own ego, and basically just does evil, crappy **** to set another party back and cause them undue pain and questions. and for some reason I pretty much gave her the cold shoulder. I just abruptly told her I had to go and walked off, and now looking back, I was probably being a bit rude. Good for you. At least you didn't fall for the trap she set. You're smart. I like that about you. Man it hurts so much. The most painful thing is that I had just about given up all hope, hence me giving her the cold shoulder, now I have some hope again and think I may have ruin my chances again. I hate these mind games. LOVE SUCKS Do you want to be with a person who puts you through prologned pain and anguish? Do you? I mean come on, people make mistakes don't get me wrong. I might say things that hurt the one we love, we might be forgetful or momentarily selfish. That happens, we're human. But it's been 6 weeks, she said she missed you. She didn't say "Look, I'm sorry I feel like I made a mistake, could we talk about this?" No, if she had I might think she had some redeeming quality about her. However, I miss you or any other semblance is all a mind game, and I have no respect for the people who do that to others. You're smart, keep on you merry way.
Author Notsogood Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Finally gave in and called her Basically just said that I didn't mean to be rude but I had to walk off because it hurt too much to see her again and I didn't want to have a complete breakdown at the train station. I asked her why she tells me she misses me and that it doesn't mean anything, because its either she wants to be with me or she doesn't and it just hurts me more to hear these things. She tells me that she does really miss me, and she has been thinking about getting back together with me because she misses me so much but she doesn't know if that is a good reason to get back together. At this stage, we're both in a very emotional state so can't remember the exact words but she says she is not going to call anymore. Man this hurts so much.Should not have called, now I'm back to square one and hurting like hell. LOVE SUCKS
Peanut9330 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I'm sorry that your going through this I made the same mistake and called my ex yesterday and yes it did set me back but somhow today i'm doing really good I just keep reminding myself that I didnt deserve what he did to me and I'll find someone better someone who will actually care about me, I know its hard but in time it does get better and we can only take one step at a time and heal.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I ran into mine too. With my car. ... Then again in reverse.
Peanut9330 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I ran into mine too. With my car. ... Then again in reverse. Ha lol too funny makes me feel better!!!!
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 mine goes to the same gym i do i speak then dip we are too emotional right now to talk...good for u i guess dont be so rude next time but u got the gist of it...say a few words then end the convo u cant handle it rt now so peace out to her
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