seb01 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 been with my girlfreind for 4 yrs we rowed and stuff like u do over stupid things really no cheating or anything llike that the last few months did go a bit strained but i thought things were fine ....any how we had aweeks break just to clear the air really ....when i was out one night i was told she had been seeing some 1 else ..i asked her and she said she was...I.didnt see that coming as we did love each other ...i dont know how long she has been seeing this bloke for but i am so gutted cos 4 years is a long time and dont know how u can just jump into another relationship so quick ..its like a meant nothing to her....should i try an get her back or leave it ..dont know what to do.....any advise thanks:(
vring81 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 My ex immediately started dating someone else, moved 14 hours away to be with them after only speaking on the phone for a month. I believed it was a rebound. I still do but trying to get them back is fruitless because they don't see it as a rebound, they think of it as the new love. I would not recommend trying to get her back. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. So sorry you are going through this.
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 This was the worse experience of my life. Ex and I had a terrible fight because of his insensitivity and disrpect towards me. I didn't hear from him in a week. Called him, he was dating someone else and said "he thought I broke up with him" even though I never said that. Worst experience of my life. Sorry you feel gutted. I understand how incredibly hurtful that can me. I dont' know if this relationship with my ex and his gf is a rebound. He never put any effort into the relationship, he was emotionally distant, and I barely saw him. I'd like to think this is just a rebound for him, but I don't know. My advice to you is don't have any contact with you ex. NONE. It will help a great deal with the healing process.
fiser360 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I feel like I am reading my own post, word-for-word. Except I was only with her 3 years. And we were on a break of a couple weeks, and just when I thought we were getting back together she starts seeing this new guy, and they have been together for 3 weeks. Wow, crazy how alike our situations are. We should chat. I feel like crap...still. Best of luck to you mate.
Author seb01 Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 nathan i know mate its s..t we can have a chat anytime mate
Beardy Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 This has just happened to me too. With a girl for nearly six years, she breaks up with the "love you but not in love with you" line. Three months down the line and I think I'm doing fine only to learn that she's been seeing someone and it started right after we split and maybe even before. To make matters worse, the guy is a reasonably famous US actor (we're both based in the UK) she met a convention, so it's extremely weird and hard. I don't whether it's a rebound or not, but, as I suspect with your case too OP, the person I fell in love with doesn't really exist anymore. The person I thought she was would never hurt me the way she has or lied to me. I'm just working on forgetting her.
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