milltownboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 So as cliche as it is, I'm falling for my best friend/roommates gf. its a very weird circumstance and id like some opinions. my friend is in a popular band and gets girls all the time. me being single, i never minded or put any jealousy into it cos sometimes it meant there'd be a friend of his girls i could hook up with. but his new gf, (who he's nuts about) and i spend a lot of time together. we talk about how we're twins, she calls me her 100% (due to some online love survey they did where they matched up every pairing they could think of and her and i ended up with a perfect score!) she buys me drinks at the bar w/o me asking and once made me dinner and left it at the house for when i got home out of the blue. hes on tour right now and tonight she cooked me dinner and we danced to some of our mutually favorite records. this is painful for me bc as much as i want a girl of my own, i would never **** over a friend like that. ive been on the other end of this equation. it hurts. i just really feel a connection for her and shes always telling me im cute and its weird. my friend has made more than a few drunken comments on this but in the end says he wants me to watch her while hes away more than he wants me to not hang with her. i dont like being a third wheel, but i love being around her. i know this is unhealthy. if i dont plan to ever cross the line, but is it right to hang out with her? i know i need to find my own girl, im just crushing hard. its not a competitive thing cos i havent cared for any of the other girls my friend has dated. this is weird and i want it to be natural. any insights?
Author milltownboy Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 i think about it all the time....ive had a friend **** the girl i was dating and it devastated me. i just cant do that in good conscience, tho i want to!
utterer of lies Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 i think about it all the time....ive had a friend **** the girl i was dating and it devastated me. i just cant do that in good conscience, tho i want to! Then why is this posted in the Other Man/Woman subsection?
Author milltownboy Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 ill pack it up and take it to another forum on here...my bad!
Teslacoil Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Just make sure that if something happens down the road and your friend writes a song about it that you get royalties. Seriously though. She'd break up with him if she really wanted to. Move on. Quit hanging around with HER so much, and put your time and effort into finding a girl of your own. You'll never get past the girl if you just keep constantly hanging out with her and wanting it to happen.
whichwayisup Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 No, you're in the right section..Your situation has the possibility of you being the OM if you choose to be. But, I'm glad to see that you don't want to go down that road since you know what it's like to be cheated upon and the pain it brings. If this girl is lonely and needs company, she needs to rely on women friends, not you or any other guy. The more you hang around her, be alone with her and bond, the more feelings you're going to develop and in the long run that's not good for you! Somehow you need to detach yourself from her, don't spend as much time with her, especially alone.
Author milltownboy Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 cos i thought i could just hang out with her and have a cool friendgirl, but id really like her to be my cool girlfriend, which isnt healthy! shes actually tried to talk to me about some stuff where ive said, you need a woman friend to answer that question for you! and teslacoil, you dont know how right you are! my friend is always talking about who gets royalties for what....hahaha. ironic. yeah, im just gonna do my own thing and hang out with them together. not one on one.
carhill Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 IDK, I could get used to her cooking dinner OP, why not just keep your emotions and penis in check and enjoy, mindful of other women who cross your path? Make her into your wingwoman. If she's hot, you'll attract babes like a superconducting magnet
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