LB85 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I know its long but I really need advice..as much as I can get because this has bugged me long enough...I am actually getting restless enough to post about this!!!!Thanks to everyone who is willing to take out the 5min to read this and respond:)! There is this guy who definitely shows interest in me. We have met 5 times in the past year and not much has happened, I looked at my own behaviour and noticed many reasons for him to doubt my liking but also he didn't help me become much more confident about the situation either. These are the course of the events which i do find important to mention: -First time he flirted and it was at his mum's 50th birthday but I added him on facebook -He always initiated contact and flirted more than I did but I did let him know that I did like him -He left his friends at party to hang out with me but never took my number -Flirted with a girl (I later...only recently realised they grew up together and are really good friends) -Msgd me next day online and i replied after a week. He then replied and asked when the next party is and jokingly said he needs to clear matters. Because I wasnt sure about the whole flirting thing with another girl I dismissed it by saying I already have him figured out (or the sorts). -Asked a common friend about me 2 weeks after and said he hadn't seen me in a while and asked how I was doing, also mentioned he likes talking to me - The common friend tells me stories about him and that he said this (everyone said he had his own jealousy factor but it did influence my behaviour towards my crush) -He offored help in a course without me asking and really wanted to go out of his way. Also always took interest in what I do - Even though he initiated contact by msging first, he always takes about a week to reply so I started doing the same to not seem desperate - Met the 4th time at a club and he didn't just dare to come upto me until I smiled his way (even though he is a real casanova and not shy at all) - Gave a kiss on my cheek at the club and dared because he was drunk, did it in front of my brother and in a more Indian setting where people would talk about it if they saw even this. -5th time we met and I confronted him about it and he apologised asking how he can make it up to me, i said the apology is ok but he insisted that he wants to have dinner with me and my brother to make it up to us (his younger brother is my brother's bestfriend). -He says he would give a good friend a kiss and i said 'yes a good friend but are we that?' and he says 'i see u as a friend' and i say 'really?' for which he asks what we are then and I just say we are actually acquaintances since we never hung out just like that and he says its true that we don't see each other often -The whole party we are together and stick together and he says "i have yet to see the real you, you act like a traditional and conservative indian girl but i thinku can be crazy and ur open because u so easily talked about the kiss'' and i agreed - His friend recognises me but doesn't know from where and asks if i am his girlfriend (the same girl he had flirted with at the party). - She asks in front of him as a joke about why we dont hook up and he looks at me and smiles and i try to break the silence by turning it into a joke -My brother told me earlier that my crush was seeing someone and I asked my crush but he denied it and I told him that I knew about this incidence and he just tried to avoid it and said he didn't have a girlfriend:S:S. - Afterwards he tells my brother about dinner plans but both are going abroad so it couldn't work out soon. At the party we were both finally acting as ourselves and not pretending, we laughed a lot and talked about many things - The next day I msgd him myself (for the first time) and just joked about the hard time i gave him since I teased him and wished him a nice trip -From the trip he replies and jokes as well and himself asks when i have time to meet up (knowing my brother wouldn't be there) -I reply and ask for him to let me know since i have one exam left and then holidays - he doesn't reply for a little over two weeks which makes me definitely think hes a jerk (and believe everything the common friend said) so to forget all of this I book a flight to go on holiday. - He suddenly replies asking if i have time the coming weekend, apologising for replying so late whereas he had been online in those two weeks to upload photos from his trip and he even msgd someone else in that time (I know, I couldn't help checking!). He always takes long to reply and I do send mixed signals..i noticed that i wasn't that easy either and still he stayed nice but if he really liked me he would have done more right? I thought he might have finally dared to ask me out because he realised I could just date and wasn't all old fashioned. However, the fact that it took and always takes him so long to reply makes me insecure about what he's upto. Everytime we see each other we flirt a lot but the fact that he can go so long without having any contact makes me wonder if I am about to invest in the right guy.
carhill Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Well, he almost, maybe, probably, might, perhaps, someday, sometime, somewhere, somehow ask you out. When the last three words happen, get back to me
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