Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Hey. I'm a young, good-looking (I'd like to think) guy in his mid-twenties who's been trying to play the field a bit in the last few months. Got out of a relationship about 8 months ago and eventually felt ready enough to get out there again. The problem is, I've not been successful. I think my game is pretty sharp - I'm funny w/ trying too hard, easygoing, etc. I've gone out with two girls in the last month who have both told me they recently got their hearts broken and thus couldn't see me anymore. I guess one of my questions is for the ladies. Do you consider it irresponsible for a girl to go out and date, only later to tell the guy she was not over her ex-boyfriend? I certainly feel that way. Or is there something I am doing to entice these rebounders? Or, is this just a kiss-off line? Anyway, I just want to stop. I have enough going for me that my life is productive. It's that need for companionship that won't go away, and I don't think it ever will. I am finding myself more dejected every day. So, I think I am really, truly going to give up dating (or trying to date) from today onward until I meet someone where I know for a fact that she likes me.
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Do you consider it irresponsible for a girl to go out and date' date=' only later to tell the guy she was not over her ex-boyfriend?[/quote'] Yes, I do. And a definite lack of self-awareness and maturity.
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 I'm funny w/o trying too hard' date=' easygoing, etc... [/quote'] is what it's supposed to say.
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Yes, I do. And a definite lack of self-awareness and maturity. I agree with you. I only had one date with her so no biggie.
carhill Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 So, I think I am really, truly going to give up dating (or trying to date) from today onward until I meet someone where I know for a fact that she likes me. To plagiarize a movie line (Alien), it won't make any difference. The best thing to know about women is that you'll never really know. Even after you're married. If it were me (and it will be, once my divorce is concluded), I would just ask out those ladies who capture my attention and see where it goes. Plenty of other things to do in life so it's not a be-all, end-all. IMO, you're your own best companion
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Thanks for responding. I don't think I'm going to ask anyone out for a while w/o clear signals of interest. Two girls both leading me on in the same month is a bit much for now. (I do love Alien, though.)
carhill Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 The key is working on your perspective to where them 'leading you on' becomes irrelevant to your happiness in life. Enjoy each moment without expectation of continuation. Good luck in your journey
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 So you're saying I should masturbate more?
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