SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 *sigh* Hello everyone! I want a little help from all of you that are willing to give. Okay, so I met this girl through a community website (no not myspace or facebook...or any of them other popular ones...) ok, so I actually didn't meet her, she just grabbed my msn info and added me. We started talking and all that good stuff, when she told me that she just broke up with her BF/husband, im not sure who he was to her. Anyways...we talked and we were really hitting it off, we have a lot in common. I really do think I like her...problem is that she lives in Canada...(I live in Texas...) now when we first chatted I'm sure she was kinda lonely so she was being a little flirty I guess you could say. Now here comes the interesting part the baffles my mind...A couple of days later we talked a little more, got to know eachother more, all that good stuff, and when we finally got off to go to sleep, she started putting little hearts when she would say bye. I figured, okay maybe she just uses hearts, I don't know, I'm here asking you guys/gals for advice haha. A couple of days later I went to hang out with some friends so I told her to text me on my phone, and I gave her my cell #. So we texted, and she was getting flirty again. But then...the next day, she tells me that there are two guys that live near her that she likes...When I heard this I was devestated...but I kept my cool and just gave her advice about what she should tell them, probably a mistake on my part...huh?.... Anyways, even after she told me this, the next day we didn't talk, I think she was working. So I decided to sleep early, sure enough at 2 am I get a text from her saying, "Hey I haven't talked to you today. Miss you." Now at first I was thinking, what is she doing? She says she likes two guys near her, but then she says she misses me? Am I digging to deep into this? was that "miss you" just a plain saying or did it mean more? My emotions are running f****** wild right now, depression, love, confusion, etc. I just want some honest advice, even though we live so far away should I ask her if we should start up some sort of long distance relationship, leading to meeting up? Should I just drop it, and forget about her? Please help...I'm so damn confused... -Robert
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Talk to her and straight up ask her. You will find out if she wants to continue an LDR that constant communication and honesty is the key to survival.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Talk to her and straight up ask her. You will find out if she wants to continue an LDR that constant communication and honesty is the key to survival. Thanks for the quick response, I failed to mention an important detail doh! While she was asking me for advice about the other 2 guys, she also said that she wasn't quite ready for a relationship yet, but she doesn't want it to be too late. I realize though that a LDR would be a good way to go right? because theres not as much pressure with a LDR as there would be with a local realtionship, and when shes good and ready thats when I can head on over with her...does that sound about right? haha. anyways, any thoughts on how I should bring up the topic for a LDR? Cuz were not together in any way yet, that I know of. So should I be subtle with asking? Okay, update, we just started talking and shes feeling like crap...breaking up with her ex is finally hitting her, being alone is hitting her...do you think this is the right time for me to ask?
Mikau Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I'm in a similar situation to yours atm. She's giving mixed signals and I don't know where I'm at atm. It's driving me crazy. I can't stop thinking about it, and it's not pretty. The only way to solve it though is to talk to her. Tell her about you feel and asks what she feels.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 I'm in a similar situation to yours atm. She's giving mixed signals and I don't know where I'm at atm. It's driving me crazy. I can't stop thinking about it, and it's not pretty. The only way to solve it though is to talk to her. Tell her about you feel and asks what she feels. It does doesnt it!? Its like one of the worst feelings ever! =/ My main concern now though is that shes in that lonely mood cuz of her ex, so im like would it be right to ask now, etc.?
Mikau Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I think you're better off waiting untill she feels a little better. You don't want to be some rebound guy, and she might say things she wouldn't say when she's happy again.
northstar1 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Talk to her and straight up ask her. You will find out if she wants to continue an LDR that constant communication and honesty is the key to survival. He should meet her before he can consider this an LDR. They are chat buddies as it stands.
lovers69 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Why don't you jokingly tell her that instead of asking you on how to deal with the other 2 guys; ask advice from you on how to make you happy.
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 He should meet her before he can consider this an LDR. They are chat buddies as it stands. I simply said that he should straight up ask her to start up an LDR. Never said it was an LDR. I said that if she wants to continue an LDR then constant communication and honesty are the key to survival. Sorry for not being specific enough.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Oh boy, four different answers O.o now...which one to follow, yea I was thinking that, rebound guy...not cool with me...haha...but I also don't want her to be fine then she doesn't show up on msn or something then she tells me that one of the dudes asked her out already. I would like to meet up with her, but it seems that there aren't really any flights from texas to the part of canada she lives in....I'm probably gonna call the local airport and ask them if and when they will have flights... lovers69, Im not quite sure I get what our telling me to do, could you elaborate a little more? Or should I just ask her regardless of the mood shes in...? bah Im so confused haha.
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I simply said that he should straight up ask her to start up an LDR. Well I have to correct myself, again. You should just talk to her and ask her what her thoughts are on those guys and even LDR's. Feel out her responses and take it from there.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Well I have to correct myself, again. You should just talk to her and ask her what her thoughts are on those guys and even LDR's. Feel out her responses and take it from there. Haha , well I know for sure she likes one more then the other, and they have been friends for a long time she says, but shes not ready for a relationship with the one she does like, so where does that leave me standing hahahaha... And back to the whole she feels lonely right now thing, if I were "to take it from there" I don't want it to be like mikau said, being the rebound guy...
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 And back to the whole she feels lonely right now thing, if I were "to take it from there" I don't want it to be like mikau said, being the rebound guy... However you dont want to miss your chance either. This has been the only LDR that I have ever and will ever be in. (Im moving to be with her in a couple of months) I never would have ever known what could have been unless I took a chance at the Olive Garden in Branson MO that afternoon 15 months ago.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 However you dont want to miss your chance either. This has been the only LDR that I have ever and will ever be in. (Im moving to be with her in a couple of months) I never would have ever known what could have been unless I took a chance at the Olive Garden in Branson MO that afternoon 15 months ago. Haha, well congrats to you =) did you ask her at the olive garden in person? should I try to meet her in person and ask her? Bah, im getting all emotional again, haha...
Lovin a scrapper Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Haha, well congrats to you =) did you ask her at the olive garden in person? should I try to meet her in person and ask her? Bah, im getting all emotional again, haha... Here is my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2149531#post2149531 Just talk and see what happens. One never knows where love will find you.
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Cool, seeing the success of yours and other peoples LDRs gives me a fizzle of hope =) Thanks so much for all the advice...just gonna wait for her to get back on msn, and talk to her.
lovers69 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Lolz... Here's the elaboration...hehehe... Change the topic from 2 extra guys to YOU like... SgtCorpse: I can't give advice to you on how to deal with the 2 guys, but I can give some hints on how you can GET me. Is that a bit clearer?
Author SgtCorpse Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 oooh, ;P much! haha, thanks for the advice!
Author SgtCorpse Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 Okay, well I finally mustered up the courage to ask her *god it was hard xD* and while she didn't come out and say yes, she said that she'd keep me in mind. Better then a bold-faced, no, right? hehe.
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