Dlyrica Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I posted this in coping too..but I guess its better off here..I dont know.. So I found love shack back in november when my ex and I broke up for the first time after 3 years. Here's my initial post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t170485/ Well we were broken up for 6 months then got back together until tonight. He broke up with me because he said he had to move on with his adult life and his career was more important than me. I'm crushed. I should have listened to ya'll to begin with. Where do I go from here...
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I posted this in coping too..but I guess its better off here..I dont know.. So I found love shack back in november when my ex and I broke up for the first time after 3 years. Here's my initial post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t170485/ Well we were broken up for 6 months then got back together until tonight. He broke up with me because he said he had to move on with his adult life and his career was more important than me. I'm crushed. I should have listened to ya'll to begin with. Where do I go from here... Honey, you're going to be okay. I have some wonderful news for you. The good new is..that this man told you that HIS life and HIS career were more important to him than you. How is that good news? Well! Can you imagine or picture the person you spend your life with, thinking HIS life and HIS career are more important than you? I'm hoping the answer is NO. In which case, you are not losing. You are gaining, gaining a chance to one day meet a man who loves YOU.!
Author Dlyrica Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 I know..I'm so dumb for getting back with him to begin with. He's such a prick... I feel especially bad because this time around I bought a puppy for him a couple months ago and now he gets to raise her with some other girl.
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I know..I'm so dumb for getting back with him to begin with. He's such a prick... I feel especially bad because this time around I bought a puppy for him a couple months ago and now he gets to raise her with some other girl. You followed your heart and it led you to a warty toad. You wouldn't be the first, you won't be the last to do that for a guy. When we do this kind of thing, we look back and say "UGH. How could I have!" but the reality is, if we DIDN'T make the mistakes to find out the truth about these arses sometimes, we might have a regret about "what might of been". At least, now we have an answer. We have closure to our feelings, even if they were misguided. When you feel that strongly about a person, you have no other choice but to follow it and see where it leads. It doesn't always lead where we hoped, but at least we know that. You gave your heart to this guy, you saw what would happen if you picked him, and now you know. You know it can't work, and that he isn't right for you. He isn't a good guy for you. About the dog, don't be too envious over the next poor sucker that he's going to take for granted. She's going to be the one stuck with the dog, and I don't mean the one that goes on poopy pads and barks.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Smile D, you COULD have been the deaf, blind kid who got cancer for Christmas. You look good. Cheer up, or I'll take you on a date to forget him.
Author Dlyrica Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Smile D, you COULD have been the deaf, blind kid who got cancer for Christmas. You look good. Cheer up, or I'll take you on a date to forget him. haha true
boogieboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 You needed an full answer and closure, you got it all in one shot. Now you know if he contacts you to ignore him because you know how he feels about you. I think you have to choices on where to go: * Sit and wallow in self pity for months until it goes away * Start flirting or taking flirts from new guys to get your confidence back. That will help you get over him pretty well. Party baby! Get out there with your friends and have fun..its still summer.... too bad you live in virginia.
love_fool Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I'm exactly at your point, except cut the time down to two years, and only apart for a month. I can help but think that the second time around will be better, only to realize that I don't fit anywhere in his future. I know what we should do, and what we should do is to move on. My heart still denies it, and I pretty much feel lost and confused as well but I'm willing to do what it takes to get over it. Like everyone said, get out there and party, keep yourself busy, get a great new haircut and a new outfit.. because I'm definitely going to try that myself.
moo Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I think you should get a puppy since you can't raise the other one with him. Believe me, I know how hard it is when people don't value your heart. My mom told me to think of what my life would have been like if I got in any deeper with my ex. My life would have been terrible....just terrible. I think when the break up hurts sooooooo much, if forces us to examine ourselves, the relationship and what we willing and not willing to put up with the next time. Be well.
Author Dlyrica Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Thanks for all the responses ya'll.. He parked in front of my house this morning for class (I'm talking right outside my window..it was the first thing i saw when I woke up) When I got upset and asked him why he did that he said "You overanalyze everything. It's a public road." How does he expect me to give him space and not talk to him when he pulls something like that? He was acting like it was no big deal but I was crying all night and the first thing I see when I wake up is his car?? I really think he doesn't care about me. It blows my mind...
fiser360 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Wow. Really? That is completely tacky. I'm really sorry to hear that Dlyrica. You sound like a really sweet girl, and he is being a complete ass to you. I know it's hard not to be upset because Im going through the same thing. But you should really try and meet someone else, he is...wow. What a lame excuse too!
nomoregummybears Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 He parked in front of my house this morning for class (I'm talking right outside my window..it was the first thing i saw when I woke up) When I got upset and asked him why he did that he said "You overanalyze everything. It's a public road." Next time he does that, be sure to "park" a few thumbtacks in front of his tires. It's a public road....
moo Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 I don't think you should flirt to get your confidence back. Concentrate on yourself. You don't need other men's approval to make yourself strong. You look toward yourself and make your life better. Don't depend on a man to boost your confidence; depend on yourself. Take care hun.
Author Dlyrica Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Next time he does that, be sure to "park" a few thumbtacks in front of his tires. It's a public road.... Haha that made me laugh, thanks:laugh:
nature Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 What is this fabulous career of his that is so much more important than you? And when you really think about it, what kind of a dim witted, airhead is he that he cannot balance a career with a girlfriend? Duhhhhh...doy yoy! From what I've seen in the world, even people with the most intense, professional, dedicated careers (rocket scientists, brain surgeon's, fire fighters, teachers, doctors, lawyers, business developers, etc, etcccccc!!!) manage to ACTUALLY have spouses, kids, families, etc. He sounds a bit like a "challenged" half wit to me if he can even let those words come out of his mouth that he said to you! Why does a career or you have to be more important than the other?? Duhhhh!!! It's actually kind of funny if you can find some humour in it. He sounds like a dumb dumb dummy!!!!
Author Dlyrica Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 What is this fabulous career of his that is so much more important than you? And when you really think about it, what kind of a dim witted, airhead is he that he cannot balance a career with a girlfriend? Duhhhhh...doy yoy! From what I've seen in the world, even people with the most intense, professional, dedicated careers (rocket scientists, brain surgeon's, fire fighters, teachers, doctors, lawyers, business developers, etc, etcccccc!!!) manage to ACTUALLY have spouses, kids, families, etc. He sounds a bit like a "challenged" half wit to me if he can even let those words come out of his mouth that he said to you! Why does a career or you have to be more important than the other?? Duhhhh!!! It's actually kind of funny if you can find some humour in it. He sounds like a dumb dumb dummy!!!! I honestly don't know what his problem is. I think he may be going through some crisis since he just graduated college, has to grow up, etc. and he thinks his life is so much more important now that he needs to do all those things. He is(and has been for two years) an assistant manager at Dick's Sporting Goods...who knows what's up.
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