ppink1567 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hello. I have been in a relationship now, almost 2 years. The guy and I are complete opposites, he's extrovert while I'm introvert. He's logical, I am very emotional. Anyway, when we are together, it is GREAT, and I emphasis great. We laugh, goof off, have fun. But when times are bad, they are BAD! Each time Iend up with insults, degrading adjectives to describe my behavior, such as childish, bitchy and crazy. Also, he gets so defensive (as do I) that I cannot speak otherwise or just end up crying. He calls me names, finds so many other faults for MY behavior that he never admits to his. A friend of mine called it Emotional Domestic Abuse, which I think it is. The controlling aspect the power aspect and leverage against me. Now this last fight, I went to my parents house because I could not go back to our place. Well, the fight started after I told him I did not want to go to California for our trip. He went balistic, yelling at the top of his lungs at me. He parked the car and left me there. I called my mom and went into a store. As I was walking there, he stole my purse and ran off. I came out, he gave it to me and told me he was going. I told him I was waiting for my mother and he said, well I'm going to wait and tried to take my purse. I got mad and grabbed it from him and pushed him in his chest and walked away. Then my ride was there and it's complicated, but I shut off his debt card (in my name) because he had taken my keys to my car. Anywho, this fight was initally his fault... extreme yelling at me, but it all ended up being MY fault because I took his money. Now he is playing this leverage game against me because he won't let me back to our place. He won't talk to me because I kept his money... last night it was I waited a day without money, you can wait a day without talking and stuff. Anyway, my best friend thinks I should lose this guy and part of me wants too... but the other part of me doesn't. That same old story... I need help everyone. Any advice would be great. Thank you!
Thomas X Forever Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I need help everyone. Any advice would be great. Thank you! Buy a shotgun and leather jacket. He won't want to play games anymore once you look like Terminator.
hoping2heal Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Buy a shotgun and leather jacket. He won't want to play games anymore once you look like Terminator. He's right. I did that to my mailman once. My packages were expedited in 2.2.
Author ppink1567 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 He's right. I did that to my mailman once. My packages were expedited in 2.2. Oh my goodness, you both are awesome.
hoping2heal Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 TY dear. That's very nice of you to say. LUCKILY, I switched my avy to something that's a little more plain and hides my face better. That way I can take the focus off me for once and get back to helping posters. Whew.
Author ppink1567 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 TY dear. That's very nice of you to say. LUCKILY, I switched my avy to something that's a little more plain and hides my face better. That way I can take the focus off me for once and get back to helping posters. Whew. Yeah, I think a lot of people here are so gracious of the help from others. And in return they try to do the same.
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