revo Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I am kind of in a confused state right now. I’m 16, and i met this girl. We started talking everyday through texting and calling eachother, we went to the movies and mall togethor. I thought everything was going great. Until today, we were suppose to go to her house to hang out. She texted me saying she would rather just be friends, even though i have not asked her out yet. I am taking this a bad way you can say. I have no idea what i did wrong, and what made her to change her opinion of me so quickly, like i said i thought things were going great. My friends think she is scared of the relationship because she is unsure about a relationshipbut i want your opinion. I just can’t get the topic off my head, i keep thinking about it. I really liked her and thought to far ahead into the future i guess. I have yet to talk to her since the other day when she told me. I thought i would give her some space, but i just really want things to get back to what they were. Do you have any idea on what possibly could have gone wrong, and maybe some tips on how to stop thinking about her? I am currently unable to fall asleep easily with all these thoughts, and i just cannot get my mind off her. Thank you so much everyone.
samspade Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hey man, Well, let me lead off by telling you that not every girl you take out will develop feelings of attraction for you. It's that simple, and once you accept it, you will save a lot of time and energy chasing girls who aren't into you that way. In that regard, she did you a favor. As for what you may have done wrong, well, maybe nothing...but keep in mind some fundamentals for the next time you have a date with a chick: 1. Make her laugh 2. Touch her from time to time (but not inappropriately). An occasional hand on the back, shoulder, or arm, for instance. 3. Keep the conversation light and non-controversial. Ask her questions about her to get her talking and feeling comfortable around you. Make sure you ask her questions that build intimate rapport, but keep them innocent at first. 4. Don't spend TOO much time on the date. Leave her wanting more and give her the gift of missing you. 5. Close with a kiss. Don't ask, just do it. If she rejects you, don't apologize. Just smile and say "well, maybe next time" or laugh it off. 6. You can stop thinking about her by meeting other girls. Keep yourself busy with hobbies, sports, your buddies, etc. A woman can be a part of a man's life, but should never be his entire focus. Good luck!
boogieboy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hey Revo, Theres a number of things you might have done wrong to make her lose attraction for you. One of them was being too nice when you were going to movies and such. if you didnt make any moves to show her you were interested, thats how she friend zoned you. Could also be that she never actually liked you like that. I will tell you now that there are girls that will use you for company so they dont feel lonely, and they wont tell you that you wont have a chance with them, because they know you will bail. So watch out for these girls. A girl that really likes you will look you in the eyes, touch you lightly and playfully, she will show you interest when she really truly likes you. Dont get used to girls that youre hanging with that seem aloof, otherwise you might not recognise when the ones that really like you come along. Its not supposed to be difficult.
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