t0ri Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I am shaking. I cannot believe he just text me. He just put, "hey." I haven't heard from him since he dumped me over 3 months ago. What do I do?! I'm so shocked and shaking! Over a little, "hey" ?? I'm really scared of what he'd have to say if I reply. Should I? Oh man it's tempting.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Tell him you were hoping he was dead. Then don't reply again.
aloneanddepressed Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Reply back and say "hey, your number looks familiar, do I know you?" joking :)He dumped you. Unless you really want to get back with him, I wouldn't respond. If you need answers or whatever, I guess its hard to ignore him. You could respond with a simple hey back and go from there slowly, or wait at least a few days then do so. I'm not sure if I would respond immediately. I am shaking. I cannot believe he just text me. He just put, "hey." I haven't heard from him since he dumped me over 3 months ago. What do I do?! I'm so shocked and shaking! Over a little, "hey" ?? I'm really scared of what he'd have to say if I reply. Should I? Oh man it's tempting.
hoping2heal Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Because you are shaking, the answer is NO. You don't need to get sucked back into that situation, if ANYTHING I would tell him to not ever contact you again. This really just poured salt into the wound and you don't need to keep that wound open any longer. No good, I mean NONE can come of you getting back into his life using ANY means.
LostInLimbo Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Tell him you were hoping he was dead. Then don't reply again. To The Point Again...... lol, although I have to agree with ya on that one.....
LostInLimbo Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Because you are shaking, the answer is NO. You don't need to get sucked back into that situation, if ANYTHING I would tell him to not ever contact you again. This really just poured salt into the wound and you don't need to keep that wound open any longer. No good, I mean NONE can come of you getting back into his life using ANY means. In All Honesty, Take H2H advice, I been there if you read my old posts, it was a F***ing nightmare after that, I got a text said " Hey How Are You" don't get emotionally sucked back in, but as it happened to me, im sure you may have already replied back, before even reading the advice...lol (its only human if you did...but.......) LiL
northstar1 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I am shaking. I cannot believe he just text me. He just put, "hey." I haven't heard from him since he dumped me over 3 months ago. What do I do?! I'm so shocked and shaking! Over a little, "hey" ?? I'm really scared of what he'd have to say if I reply. Should I? Oh man it's tempting. Ignore this fool. Didn't he break up with you via facebook and then text? He's fishing to see if you will still bite. Don't..
Saudade Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 This is a difficult one and a situation I am in myself. I choose not to text back, but this is of course your call I can only offer you advice. Because it sounds like you are still pretty emotional about this, my safe bet would be to ignore it and if he texts again then maybe think about it. I think if he wanted you back there would be more to the text than just 'hey' but what do I know.
huck Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hey Tori.. Just out of interest - what time of the day was it when he sent it... Not sure where you are but if it was at night/in the evening - he might of been on the sauce ?? Either way - delete it - ignore it !!
dianna Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 lol..i'm i the only one here that is gonna say this? ..uhm..text him back..but not now...a bit later..
Thomas X Forever Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Yes, diana, you will be the only one to say that, because you're wrong.
NightLord1 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 That all depends on what you want. If you would like to try it again with him then send him back something simple like "whats up" and see what happens. If you don't want anything to do with him anymore then leave it be and ignore it. If you still have his number then i would think you were hoping he would get back to you at some point so I would think just a little reply back would not do any harm. Again its all about what you really want. Regards
boogieboy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Damn Thomas, youre beginning to sound like me.... Tori dont respond to him. You are still not over him, and you would hope that he takes you back. But if he does, it will probably only be for a FWB situation, and nothing more, which will torture you.
Author t0ri Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Yes, Northstar1, he's the one who dumped me through facebook and then through text the second time. He text me at 12 in the afternoon today, Huck. So he wasn't sauced lol. Well I'm sure you all can guess what I did. Curiousity and temptation got the best of me because I had to go straight to class and sit there for FOUR hours, so all I thought about was his text, so I replied. I said hey back, then he asked how I've been. I told him I've been excellent. He then said, "so I figure you probably don't wanna talk with me or anything which hey it's understandable. I was just going to say I'm sorry for hurting you. I know I promised you when we first started that I would never hurt you and I did. I feel bad and that was never my intention, I just thought you should know." I replied, "I don't blame you for ending it, cuz I see things completely different now. But the way you handled it and treated me before and afterward was seriously horrible. I'm over it though." He then put, "Well ya I was an ******* but after the last night we saw each other I was really angry and bitter towards you but either way I'm sorry." I didn't reply. So then he texts me again asking how my summer is, how it is being an aunt, how my dogs are, how my family is, if I still hang out with so and so, told me he moved (I didn't ask where to), and told me he quit smoking pot AND cigarettes (which is ironic because I had asked him to quit both of those while we were dating). Other things were said, but basically we caught up a little bit. He even told me that the week of our miscarriage 1 year anniversary, was horrible for him. I wondered if he even remembered that. Every time I wouldn't respond, he'd say something else. I kept it brief and didn't reply to his last message and then texts stopped. So we text for about 3 hours. We didn't talk about us, or anything personal like who/if we're dating. I know you all told me not to respond, although I only saw 1 response before I had to leave for class. BUT, I honestly feel fine about the convo. I was EXTREMELY shocked when I looked at my phone and saw "new message from DOUCHEBAG" (that's what he is in my phone), so I kind of freaked out and started shaking for some reason. It made me feel a bit better knowing that he wanted to express SOME kind of remorse for his actions towards me. It did make me feel better to know he has thought about me at least once in the past three months, because I figured he didn't ever and never would. I'm looking at what happened today as him relieving his guilt. I've read that on here so many times, so I'm assuming that is the only reason he text me - for himself, to feel better about how horribly he treated me. Correct? I don't expect to hear from him again anytime soon, and I don't care. Yay! It's TRUE what they say. The ex's pop up when you least expect them to, or when you've FINALLY reached a point of happiness, as in my case. I JUST posted a thread last night saying that a status on my ex's myspace would have upset me awhile ago, because it read "__ is loving being single and able to do whatev, whenev." My point of that thread was that I DIDN'T CARE. For once, something like that didn't hurt. Then he texts me today...hm.
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Yes, Northstar1, he's the one who dumped me through facebook and then through text the second time. He text me at 12 in the afternoon today, Huck. So he wasn't sauced lol. Well I'm sure you all can guess what I did. Curiousity and temptation got the best of me because I had to go straight to class and sit there for FOUR hours, so all I thought about was his text, so I replied. I said hey back, then he asked how I've been. I told him I've been excellent. He then said, "so I figure you probably don't wanna talk with me or anything which hey it's understandable. I was just going to say I'm sorry for hurting you. I know I promised you when we first started that I would never hurt you and I did. I feel bad and that was never my intention, I just thought you should know." I replied, "I don't blame you for ending it, cuz I see things completely different now. But the way you handled it and treated me before and afterward was seriously horrible. I'm over it though." He then put, "Well ya I was an ******* but after the last night we saw each other I was really angry and bitter towards you but either way I'm sorry." I didn't reply. So then he texts me again asking how my summer is, how it is being an aunt, how my dogs are, how my family is, if I still hang out with so and so, told me he moved (I didn't ask where to), and told me he quit smoking pot AND cigarettes (which is ironic because I had asked him to quit both of those while we were dating). Other things were said, but basically we caught up a little bit. He even told me that the week of our miscarriage 1 year anniversary, was horrible for him. I wondered if he even remembered that. Every time I wouldn't respond, he'd say something else. I kept it brief and didn't reply to his last message and then texts stopped. So we text for about 3 hours. We didn't talk about us, or anything personal like who/if we're dating. I know you all told me not to respond, although I only saw 1 response before I had to leave for class. BUT, I honestly feel fine about the convo. I was EXTREMELY shocked when I looked at my phone and saw "new message from DOUCHEBAG" (that's what he is in my phone), so I kind of freaked out and started shaking for some reason. It made me feel a bit better knowing that he wanted to express SOME kind of remorse for his actions towards me. It did make me feel better to know he has thought about me at least once in the past three months, because I figured he didn't ever and never would. I'm looking at what happened today as him relieving his guilt. I've read that on here so many times, so I'm assuming that is the only reason he text me - for himself, to feel better about how horribly he treated me. Correct? I don't expect to hear from him again anytime soon, and I don't care. Yay! It's TRUE what they say. The ex's pop up when you least expect them to, or when you've FINALLY reached a point of happiness, as in my case. I JUST posted a thread last night saying that a status on my ex's myspace would have upset me awhile ago, because it read "__ is loving being single and able to do whatev, whenev." My point of that thread was that I DIDN'T CARE. For once, something like that didn't hurt. Then he texts me today...hm. Honey, I'm glad it went well for you. I'm glad it didn't make you feel worse and that you were an exception to the rule, I really am. Good for you.
Author t0ri Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Thanks Hoping2heal I am getting a little worried since everyone told me not to reply, though, that maybe tomorrow or in a few days, I'll start feeling bad about all of this and start wondering if he's going to text me again, or some rippling effects from talking to him today will hit me later on. Hopefully that won't happen though, cuz as of now, I feel fine.
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 IF that does happen, we are here for you. Not only that, but it will pass in time also.
lorilynne Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 T0ri, I understand the temptation to respond. Just stick to guns on not expecting another text but I suspect he will text again. I think this was an attempt to feel better and see if you would respond. I predict the next one will be a request to meet. I definitely think you should decline or not respond to that.
ssj4trunks09 Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I'm glad everything went well for you. But.. it happened to me as well. She txted me and called me and I finally responded and she told me she was sorry for acting the way she has been acting. I thought to myself things would finally change, next thing I know I was proven wrong. I hope you're an exception. What happen to me after was that it showed that she didn't change. She was still the same even after being nice to me with the apologizing n everything. Hell. I see her status now and I see that it looks like she's moving on to some other guy.. yet she still keeps calling me... weird huh?
aloneanddepressed Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 This is interesting. I was wondering what happened with your situation. I'm glad things went well. I will always wonder if my ex will suddenly text me, and apologize like that. I have a feeling he is too low down to do something like this though. A person who truly has a conscious will apologize. I don't see how they can go on with the guilt. Yes, Northstar1, he's the one who dumped me through facebook and then through text the second time. He text me at 12 in the afternoon today, Huck. So he wasn't sauced lol. Well I'm sure you all can guess what I did. Curiousity and temptation got the best of me because I had to go straight to class and sit there for FOUR hours, so all I thought about was his text, so I replied. I said hey back, then he asked how I've been. I told him I've been excellent. He then said, "so I figure you probably don't wanna talk with me or anything which hey it's understandable. I was just going to say I'm sorry for hurting you. I know I promised you when we first started that I would never hurt you and I did. I feel bad and that was never my intention, I just thought you should know." I replied, "I don't blame you for ending it, cuz I see things completely different now. But the way you handled it and treated me before and afterward was seriously horrible. I'm over it though." He then put, "Well ya I was an ******* but after the last night we saw each other I was really angry and bitter towards you but either way I'm sorry." I didn't reply. So then he texts me again asking how my summer is, how it is being an aunt, how my dogs are, how my family is, if I still hang out with so and so, told me he moved (I didn't ask where to), and told me he quit smoking pot AND cigarettes (which is ironic because I had asked him to quit both of those while we were dating). Other things were said, but basically we caught up a little bit. He even told me that the week of our miscarriage 1 year anniversary, was horrible for him. I wondered if he even remembered that. Every time I wouldn't respond, he'd say something else. I kept it brief and didn't reply to his last message and then texts stopped. So we text for about 3 hours. We didn't talk about us, or anything personal like who/if we're dating. I know you all told me not to respond, although I only saw 1 response before I had to leave for class. BUT, I honestly feel fine about the convo. I was EXTREMELY shocked when I looked at my phone and saw "new message from DOUCHEBAG" (that's what he is in my phone), so I kind of freaked out and started shaking for some reason. It made me feel a bit better knowing that he wanted to express SOME kind of remorse for his actions towards me. It did make me feel better to know he has thought about me at least once in the past three months, because I figured he didn't ever and never would. I'm looking at what happened today as him relieving his guilt. I've read that on here so many times, so I'm assuming that is the only reason he text me - for himself, to feel better about how horribly he treated me. Correct? I don't expect to hear from him again anytime soon, and I don't care. Yay! It's TRUE what they say. The ex's pop up when you least expect them to, or when you've FINALLY reached a point of happiness, as in my case. I JUST posted a thread last night saying that a status on my ex's myspace would have upset me awhile ago, because it read "__ is loving being single and able to do whatev, whenev." My point of that thread was that I DIDN'T CARE. For once, something like that didn't hurt. Then he texts me today...hm.
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