bean1 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Yes, after 32 years, she has left my dad for a 26 year old man from Morocco. She has never met him and he is off Facebook. Since WHEN does that not reek of a scam? I could care less about dating younger men (even though new "BF" is only one year older than myself), but she is not divorced or even separated. How does one politely tell their mother to F off about talking about this stuff? I am fine with their divorce (dad is alcoholic/drug addict) but this is insanity. This is the icing on the cake - the Facebooking, the losing weight, the going back to school, that's fine. But this? Come on. How obvious is it that it is a scam? I spent a good deal of time in the Middle East. She was scared that I went, thinking women were disrespected. What sort of respect would a Muslim man from Morocco have for a married Canadian woman? Too bad she doesn't have any money, I suspect she'll be dumped as soon as that comes out.
Reggie Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Soorry you have to witness your mom acting like such an idiot. Is she on meth or something? I'm serious. This is way out there.
GorillaTheater Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 She's temporarily lost her mind, it happens. I picture it as something like a Jack-in-a-Box: years being pent up or at least feeling pent up in an unsatisfactory relationship, trying to make it work and hoping for the best. Finally one day she throws her hands up and mentally launches herself into the upper atmosphere. No reason to subject yourself to it, but sometime soon she'll come crashing back to earth. You might want to be there for her when it happens, because she'll probably need quite a bit of help with the wreakage and debris. Yes, this is a jumbled mess of mixed metaphors, but I hope you know what I mean.
carhill Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I think everyone is allowed to go crazy one time in their life.
Author bean1 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 You guys are right... I think getting married at 17 and having never been with anyone else in her life leaves quite an open world. I just don't want to hear about it. She has friends for that. As much of a boozer and addict he is, he is still my dad - we may not speak anymore because of that but I'm not about to get involved with their mess. I'm grown and have my own family to deal with. I just don't know how to explain to my little one why he has never met Grandma's boyfriend Mohammed??? Meh...
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 You need to do a family intervention or something, to wake your mom UP! This guy IS fooling her, and it's nuts for her to divorce your dad and move away. Just be there for her when this blows up..She is going to need you afterwards.
bdawn Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Omg! I just had to respond to this thread because I went through something similar with my mother about 10 years ago. According to my math your mom is about 50 years old right? Well my mom was 51 when she decided to pack up and move accross country to live with some guy she never even met. She had somehow started a relationship with him over the phone (I think it started as a wrong number dialed kind of thing) and within just a few months she was calling him her soulmate and making plans to move away to be with him. Barf!! Anyways she did indeed pack up and go much to the horror of myself and my brothers. Her soulmate ended up being a drug addicted, unemployed little creep. When she came back about a year later she was throughly disgusted with him and with herself and couldn't believe how crazy she had behaved. Sadly her actions did some major damage to her kids. Not me so much because I was 30 yrs old at the time, but my younger brothers were only 18 and 15 yrs old. The 18 yr old was very angry and hurt but it was the 15 yr old that I felt the worst for. He was deeply wounded by her abandoment. It wasn't just that she left, it was also that she had adopted this whole attitude of being sick of her kids. She wouldn't talk to us or see us, (she had already sent my youngest brother to live with his dad and kicked the oldes out to fend for himself) and if we did happen upon a chance to see her she was cold, defensive and angry at us for reasons unknown to us. Well the reason I mentioned your mothers age is because my mother blames this whole episode on menopause, and I did recently see a talk show that say some women really do go completely off the deep end. One woman on the show had sold her house, taken all of her savings and took off to live in Paris. Within a few years she came back but she was broke, homeless, no savings, no job....just completely destitude. Has your mom seen a doctor about menopause? My mom saw a doctor when she came back and she was given some counselling and hrt which really did seem to work wonders for her. What your mom is doing is really scary, but if she is anything like my mom was at that time, you won't be able to stop her. Does she have friends or collegues that she might accept advice from? Someone that she respects that can maybe talk some sense to her?
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