Thomas X Forever Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I'm too busy looking at my own beautiful face in my avy right now. God, we would make a perfect match. Drop your fiance, the end. Then move to PA. (Serious). I'd pick you up from the airport but I'd cause a huge car pileup on the way, on the highway, from looking at the rearview mirror too hard. People think I'm kidding, but then they hang out with me. LOL no I really am kidding. Well, somewhat. Maybe a little... Oh hell, who am I kidding. I'm serious. Stay off the road folks
hoping2heal Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 God, we would make a perfect match. Drop your fiance, the end. No. He know how to build things okay? One day, he is going to build me a house of mirrors. I can't let something like that just slip. Then move to PA. That's a hell no. I don't like anything about PA. Not the way it's spelled, not the states are next to it, and not that it rhimes with "transelvania" I'd pick you up from the airport but I'd cause a huge car pileup on the way, on the highway, from looking at the rearview mirror too hard. Tom, I take my car insurance rates very seriously. I switched to progressive for chrissakes. People think I'm kidding, but then they hang out with me. LOL no I really am kidding. Well, somewhat. Maybe a little... No, I'm serious. Stay off the roads folks What? Sorry got lost in my eye own sparkly green eyes again..What were you trying to say?
Thomas X Forever Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Lol touche, touche... Someone call the FBI, we just hijacked this topic
Author Adidas84 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 Thanks H2H. I do try to give off that "bad boy" image sometimes I guess..easy on the gel but heavy on the attitude and outgoing cocky ****. EVen though I'm a pretty reserved dude. Although now that I am out of school it is happening less and less. Just trying to be myself, 100%. Thanks for sharing your story. I think what your doing is great. I haven't considered getting help because I don't think my fear is THAT serious. In general, I just have a very hard time trusting girls because it is SO easy for them to dress hot, go out, get drunk and make a mistake. For guys, it is usually pre-meditated. Well I guess I am giving up hope of hooking up with her again. You guys are making me realize it doesn't seem feasible and I should just move on. I ***wish*** I was over her sexually, this would make everything so much easier (like my last ex, in which I was the one getting rid of her). It was SO easy to walk away.
hoping2heal Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Thanks H2H. I do try to give off that "bad boy" image sometimes I guess..easy on the gel but heavy on the attitude and outgoing cocky ****. EVen though I'm a pretty reserved dude. Although now that I am out of school it is happening less and less. Just trying to be myself, 100%. Good, this will be to your benefit. You can call me Misty btw. Thanks for sharing your story. I think what your doing is great. I haven't considered getting help because I don't think my fear is THAT serious. In general, I just have a very hard time trusting girls because it is SO easy for them to dress hot, go out, get drunk and make a mistake. For guys, it is usually pre-meditated. You're welcome. You shared with me some of your past hurts/causes for fear of intimacy, so I thought it would only be fair to share with you also. About the trusting girls and getting drunk/making a mistake issue. I don't drink anymore, but I did for a year or so socially when I was 22, let me tell you; My friend and I we drank on the regular A LOT. Never once, know matter how piss drunk I was did I sleep with any of the guy's who tried to proposition me/sweet talk me/take advantage of me. Ever. So to me? I think alchohol is an excuse to not take responsibility of one's actions, and a damn poor one at that. Only twice did I have sex while drunk; and I made the decision to do so completely sober, I had to get drunk to go through with it. Part of the reason it hurt me, because now I have to look back and see I did that to myself. But the past is the past, the redeeming thing is I am learning from it. As far as wether or not you need "help" I guess that's subjective. Me? Personally, I am very intelligent, I have a good sense of humor, I can be extremely charming and people love to be around me. That is part of who I really am BUT, at the same time it's distracting enough to keep people from trying to know "the real" me. I would use parts of who I am to deflect the pain and fear that I had inside. I knew how to get by but I never let anyone see the real me, I never had true intimacy with anyone else. I just had everybody fooled. I didn't want that for myself anymore. I wanted to get better, and stop letting someone elses big, dark, dirty secret (the people who had abused) become mine. It's a decision only you can make, but if you think you could benefit from learning a new skill set to help you process through your hang ups and mindsets, I highly reccomend it. Well I guess I am giving up hope of hooking up with her again. You guys are making me realize it doesn't seem feasible and I should just move on. I ***wish*** I was over her sexually, this would make everything so much easier (like my last ex, in which I was the one getting rid of her). It was SO easy to walk away. Of course it was easy to walk away. When you don't care it's easy. You're protected.
DidiLU Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Dude, you are a tool. I laughed out loud at this. Seriously, dude you are a tool-sorry. And if you were that good in bed, she'd still be with you, even if you lived far apart. A woman who loves sex and gets it's as good as you say- won't leave ever. So something must have happened away from distance. looks like someone else does it better.
Author Adidas84 Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Are you here to talk ****? 1st post? Like, really? I am not overestimating my skills in any way. If you read what I wrote --- we have been far less physical the past months since we moved home and live w/ parents. We would still be together if we were ****ing 10-25 times a week as usual. I know that.
Author Adidas84 Posted July 30, 2009 Author Posted July 30, 2009 Yeah Misty I agree with everyone you said. Alcohol is NEVER an excuse...but so many girls use it as one by saying they were "blackout" and made a mistake. HA....I can drink to the point of no return but would I ever bring home a whale? Ummmm....no. Help me with this one --- she has a bunch of my clothes and favorite shirts that I kind of want back. I am in complete NC mode and don't want to reach out to her but I want my **** back at some point. How do I approach?
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Yeah Misty I agree with everyone you said. Alcohol is NEVER an excuse...but so many girls use it as one by saying they were "blackout" and made a mistake. HA....I can drink to the point of no return but would I ever bring home a whale? Ummmm....no <----- Whale ..no wait, I've been losing weight so maybe now I'm more like a swordfish? Hmm.. . Anyhow, yes I agree that a lot of people male and female use it as an excuse for their UNexcusable behavior. These are not the kind of people you want in your life anyway. Believe me, that kind of atitude will run deep into much more than just their excuses involving alchohol. You don't want that kind of person mothering your children one day. Help me with this one --- she has a bunch of my clothes and favorite shirts that I kind of want back. I am in complete NC mode and don't want to reach out to her but I want my **** back at some point. How do I approach? Okay, do you think she could be mature about it if you contacted her about this? I'm betting on no, but you know her better than I. If you think the answer is no also, then I understand you like your stuff and want your stuff, but it's just stuff. Compared to the mental and emotional BS this girl will probably subject you to might not be worth it. So, it may be in your best interest to drop for right now.
DidiLU Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Oh I'm sorry I didn't realize I would be marked on my post quota. Good thing we're not taking count on anything else. It doesn't matter what your other posts say, or what other people have replied. Actions speak louder then works...she found someone else.
DidiLU Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 And no I am not here to start ****. I have my own **** to deal with. If you read my issue/post you'll see that.
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Thanks DidiLU for rubbing it in. Adidas my dear boy, don't lose focus here. Based on what I've read about her, she sounds like a party girl type. Dime a dozen. Don't let sex distract you. There are bigger fish to fry.
DidiLU Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Ley me tell you something, I met this man a while back, it was just for sex and this man was amazing. he just kept going. It was the best sex I have ever had-just crazy insane. But it was just sex. Now I've met someone who turns me on not because (minus a specific thing) he's so good but because he's so passionate. He takes me in and doesn't let go. That's the different between these two men. Sure mind blowing sex is awesome but what does any person want most? Passion, belonging to someone, intensity. If only the man I want would understand this. So saying she found someone else...maybe she found that extra bit she didn't have before. Sorry adidas ( which means all day I dream about sex) seriously- add passion and caring.
Author Adidas84 Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Misty, thing is, I was the party boy too. I mean I was right there with her...she used to get pretty nervous when I'd go out even though we shared a lot of the same friends @ school. I've now changed...but still. What sucks is I have to go back to those activities so I can be social/meet new girls.. DidLu..your not so bad after all. Thanks for the clarification - I thought I had both. Distance was our downfall. I have a new respect for LDS...even if they're only an hour away. In other news, I am getting over it. Thoughts are clearer and I am happy to be hanging out with the "boys" again.
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