hopperba2001 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 soooo.... he wanted me to move in with him and i did. we would argue about kind of dumb things about once a week and then said we'd both work on them. the short story is that neither of us tried 100% and rather than try now he's telling me he just wants to end it. can anyone help me with this? if you want more info i'll give it to you. but i'm awake right now because it happened about 2 hours ago and when i try to sleep i start to have anxiety attacks
doublescorpio Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 There is not much info here but perhaps you guys were just not 100% compatible with each other? Sometimes it is not always 'someone's' fault for the relationship failing, it could be that as a couple you were both just not right for it. Lots of couple argue about stupid things, actually quite frequently. It is how you deal with it, and if it is recurring arguments about the same thing that wrecks the relationship. You sort of addressed this when you say "then said we'd both work on them. the short story is that neither of us tried 100%". Have you talked together about why it is you both didn't completely try? Before you end everything with each other I would try and discuss this with him first.
Littlemadam Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Sorry that this is happening to you, and sorry you are having anxiety attacks. You need to grieve and get over the shock, but it is by no means easy hey. Just hang in there and you will be ok xxx
mickleb Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Just want to tell you I feel for you. Same sort of thing happened to me on Sunday. It's killing me right now but I've got to deal with it somehow. Don't know how but know I will. Is there ANYONE you can call right now to speak to? Do it. They wouldn't want you to be feeling like this. You must do what you can to make yourself feel ok. If it means not going to work tomorrow, or sleeping tomorrow instead of tonight and just watching some TV now, or making yourself a milky drink to help you sleep now or callling some helpline or WHATEVER - do it. You need to take care of yourself. Even though what happened to me has broken my heart in two and he means SO MUCH to me, I already know that - truly - if he wants to leave me, then he doesn't love me. You don't leave people you love. And both you and I don't deserve to be in loveless relationships, do we?! Being alone in a relationship is worse than being alone and single. Please take care of yourself and remember all the good things you have going for YOU. Take deeps breaths. Good luck. x
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