lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Most of you may already be familiar with this nutty guy I met on a online dating account. I only met him once and nothing even happened!!!!!!! He went crazy on me so I tried to be nice and make up an excuse after he didn't take my hints with ignoring his calls and texts. I had a feeling this would happen, but I did what I thought was right and frankly I don't owe the guy anything!!! he is nobody to me and he does not even know me!! so this is what I get today. "working out things with ur ex and still active on match. NICE.... " So I replied: "I am sorry but I do not feel that I need to explain myself to you nor do I appreciate 2, 3, 4, 5, or 6 am text messages. I don't really know you at all and your behavior towards me has been somewhat concerning. I did wish you the best and I sincerely meant it, but I will also appreciate you cutting off all further contact with me or I may need to take this to the next level, understood? I do not wish you any harm, I am not a bad person and if I feel uncomfortable around someone I should not have to tolerate it. Take care! " This guy is really starting to freak me out!!!!! if I get one more message one text if he crosses me on the street I am calling the police!!!!! I am flippin pissed right now! I think I handled it rather well, what do you think?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I can't say you really have grounds to call the police, given that he has not made any physical threats against you. He's just annoying. Take it from me. One of my best friends IS a police officer and very attractive. She started getting really perverted text messages (some included naked pictures) from her fellow officers from her same department, and another police department in the area. You don't think a police officer herself could get help from POLICE if it was an actual POLICE matter (her case was MORE of a police matter, IMO)? Yours isn't. Annoying as hell, yes. Creepy as all get out - absolutely. They're not going to do anything for you but file a report. Don't waste your time. Change your number. It's incredibly easy to do and you can notify only the contacts that you WANT to have the new number. Just call your wireless company.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 Yes I will have to change my number, that does suck I have had the same number for years!!!! atleast this number I have now if you look me up it shows where I used to live so he doesent know where I live now. I never told him nor did I ever give him my last name or told him where I live. This is really annoying and really creepy!
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I am slightly curious...how long did you know this guy online before you gave him your number and/or met him in person? I'm NOT judging. I am merely curious. I've dabbled in online dating and haven't run into any crazies, yet. I may be blessed because of the area I live in (no, I don't have a false sense of security...I'm still paranoid). I'm a little nervous to ever do online dating again because of the stuff I've read on here. And yet, my encounters with it have been nothing but positive. So, who knows. I was just curious on your timeframe.
Citizen Drawn Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 He hasn't crossed into stalker territory yet, nowhere near. He's got carried away with sending you texts, big deal, electronic communication is easy. Informing the police is a waste of time. Stop contact, stop overreacting. If he starts to harass you then you can react. You don't need to change your number, just delete the text messages and forget about it. This whole "crazy guy" drama is not really that out of the ordinary.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 I have a previous thread about this guy. I met him once about two weeks ago for about 1 hour at a public place, shortly after I met him he texted me saying he wanted to see me again and to open my door because it was hot out and he wanted me to let him in. I did say you are joking right he said yes. Then the next day I get a text at 2 am, then 3 am, then at 5 am. he was asking to come over and he wanted me to make him breakfast, I told him no and I would talk to him later. a day later the same thing happens. I do not know this guy and his behavior was creeping me out so I decided to just not talk to him anymore, then he sent a couple additional texts and some phone calls but I ignored them. I decided I should tell him something, so I said I was gonna try and work things out with my kids dad. I didn't want to say anything to him that might set him off, so I thought that would be understandable. That is pretty much the jist of it but I have other threads posted with more details. I could be overreacting but his behavior has been off and concerning to me. My gut tells me not to trust this guy!
Citizen Drawn Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I did read your other thread. And as I say, don't contact him again delete what he sends and he'll bugger off. These pathetic jerks are usually harmless idiots.
Crimson Tide Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 In a twisted way, maybe you like the attention. Just block or change your number and problem solved.
Talby Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Nuke the site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 No, I do not like that kind of attention at all especially when I have two small kids at home. I have decided not to use my account anymore, it was something I thought I would try out since I am newly single and I don't get out much doing online school and taking care of my kids, I really don't need to be on there anyways. Thank you everyone for all your responses, I was just really upset last night when I got his message.
You'reasian Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I have a previous thread about this guy. I met him once about two weeks ago for about 1 hour at a public place, shortly after I met him he texted me saying he wanted to see me again and to open my door because it was hot out and he wanted me to let him in. I did say you are joking right he said yes. Then the next day I get a text at 2 am, then 3 am, then at 5 am. he was asking to come over and he wanted me to make him breakfast, I told him no and I would talk to him later. a day later the same thing happens. I do not know this guy and his behavior was creeping me out so I decided to just not talk to him anymore, then he sent a couple additional texts and some phone calls but I ignored them. I decided I should tell him something, so I said I was gonna try and work things out with my kids dad. I didn't want to say anything to him that might set him off, so I thought that would be understandable. That is pretty much the jist of it but I have other threads posted with more details. I could be overreacting but his behavior has been off and concerning to me. My gut tells me not to trust this guy! If you don't trust, him - stay away. Plain and simple. Its not good that the two of you are in the same town and city either.
mortensorchid Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 He sounds like a psycho! Ask to have breakfast with someone you barely know in their house?!! Change you numbers and block him on the website you met him, or at least report him to the site. I did that with a few myself. I hope he doesn't know where you live, or he'll be showing up at your door before you know it.
You'reasian Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 He sounds like a psycho! Ask to have breakfast with someone you barely know in their house?!! Change you numbers and block him on the website you met him, or at least report him to the site. I did that with a few myself. I hope he doesn't know where you live, or he'll be showing up at your door before you know it. Agreed. Definitely call the police. Chances are this is probably not the first time this guy has done this. What if this guy shows up at your door? How close in proximity is this guy? Can courts summons phone records? emails?
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