Josh126 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I been with my girlfriend for four good years. I love my to death and I know she loves me too. But now she is telling me that she thinks that she needs break. I didnt even know how to respone to that. She said that she needs time to clear her mind and think things through, that she wants to have time to miss me and want to want to be with me. So I agree to this break and asked her if we still together on this break and she said yes we still are together that she just needs time. Should I be worried and its been one week already that we haven't seen on spoken to each other at all. And how long is this break going to be.. because I dont think I can handle it.
jc904 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hey Josh, Well it sounds to me that if shes saying your still together then all the rules of the relationship still apply, you should get that clear with her. Tell her if we are still together then we are not to act is if we are single. She could either be tied between you or someone else, and doesn't no how to break it or simply needs time for some unknown reason, just stay cool, let her call you, but tell her you still love her when she does. Women are like that very confusing . I remember my first love. We were around constantly 24/7 no lie. We lasted 2 years and I walked in her house one day and all of the emotions I initially had the whole 2 years were gone for her. It scared me, I needed a break to regain those emotions. I wasn't missing her , we never had space. Yeah it got annoying I guess you could say. And ultimatley we didnt work out. I still had love for her I mean it was just It never got anymore exciting and just turned into a big why?
adamt Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I went through a similar thing, she wanted a break. she emailed me a few weeks later to say she missed me. 2 weeks later she split up with me. I would just give her all the space she wants. There is not much else you can do. Don't contact her and let her think things through. She may come back but the chances are she won't. Start to keep yourself busy and think about moving on. Dont wait around for her. It is going to be hard for you. I've not heard from my ex since she did it to me and split up.
metro Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I hate to say it but it would be best to prepare for the worst & if the best happens it's a bonus. My girlfriend of of 2.5 yrs gave me those exact words right before I was about to propose to her. We were living together for 1.5 of those yrs and one evening she "We need to talk" 7 her demands of the relationship seemed so far fetched & unreal it seemed like a good way to flip it & make me say "Forget this relationship" but really she wanted out & told me she needs space so I ended up moving out extremely heartbroken & decided it would be best for me to move on..this happened at the beginning of March. I believe she was interested in someone else & becomes confused & needs space to see if the new person will work out. Of course they will say it isn't someone else because they know it will hurt you plus they don't want to blow their chances of returning to you if the situation doesn't work. It's awful when women get in this situation but it happens & you can't do anything about a woman's emotions because that's how they operate whether it makes sense or not,they react off of their raw emotions & the men who love them suffer the consequences..prepare to move on & give her her space gracefully so she will remember how grate you handled this situation.this may put you in the driver's seat down the line
boogieboy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Yeah make sure you dont contact her, but a break usually means break up slowly. So DO NOT contact her, let her miss you. If you contact her you will push her further away. Prepare for the worst.
NightLord1 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I'm in agreement with everyone else. Doesn't matter how long you are with someone when a girl says they "need time to think" then they are preparing to drop out of the relationship and they do that to prepare themselves so that when they do break up with you it comes as a "Softer" blow to them. This has happened to me in the past SIX relationships i have been in. Sure two times they came back around but it didn't last long after that and we broke up anyway. I know its going to be rough and killer on you but you have to leave her be and no contact unless she contacts you. Just be careful she doesn't try to take advantage of you during this period because given a chance anyone can easily take advantage of another person in a time like this. Regards
boogieboy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Just be careful she doesn't try to take advantage of you during this period because given a chance anyone can easily take advantage of another person in a time like this. Regards Well Nightlord after 6 relationships youve seen this horrid behavior, you know shes already taking advantage of him by doing the "take a break" approach anyway. What a trend thats going on, holy shyt!
NightLord1 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Well Nightlord after 6 relationships youve seen this horrid behavior, you know shes already taking advantage of him by doing the "take a break" approach anyway. What a trend thats going on, holy shyt! It is a trend Boogie thats for sure....and one i intend on stopping for myself no matter what happens with my current situation or beyond. But it always help to have other people's input on situations to help clear one's head. Whats that old saying? "Too close to the forest to see the trees?" Ya i think thats it.
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