Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Oh, yesterday I was walking down the street with a friend, and this supercutie walked out of the gym in his tank top, with his arms all activated and sexy. Without doing anything to hide it, I blatantly checked him out as we passed, slowly running my eyes over all his exposed skin, and ending with a look in his eyes and a little smirk. He cracked a huge grin and turned to watch us as we walked by.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Right I want to know too. Also, are you looking for a real relationship or just to have a bit of fun? Totally for fun right now. And I have been really impressed with the responses of these "targets". It's like a combination of shock, amusement, and arousal. Yesterday I was trying to cross a pretty busy street (jaywalking -- haha), and I tried this approach on a driver rolling my way. He immediately came to a quick stop to let me pass, and grinned at me really big. The guy next to him braked, too, and I shot him a smile and gave them both a little wave. I was thinking, "Woooaaah, I just stopped traffic." I used to be much more in touch with my feminine powers, though I wasn't even aware of it at the time. Now I have more knowledge, so I feel much more powerful. This is gonna be fun.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I don't understand why so many women have lost the ability to entice. There are a lot of younger women now, who don't even know how to WALK sexy. Has feminism taken the "feminine", out of womanhood? A deep, soulful look is like an electric shock straight to the libido.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 A deep, soulful look is like an electric shock straight to the libido. It really is! It turns me on to draw their reactions, too, soooo much! I have been strutting around like walking sex. It's so fun! And I think it's especially potent in a big city, where everyone has their walls up most of the time. They're not expecting something so personal and intimate.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Ugh. Sounds like just an ego stroke for you. Yes, guys think you're hot. And?
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Ugh. Sounds like just an ego stroke for you. Yes, guys think you're hot. And? It's an ego stroke for them, too. Gets their heart and mine beating a little faster. Nothin' wrong with that, my friend!
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 OK, but you said you'd never do it with intentions of it going anywhere. Therefore, you hold their eye for as long as you can, to affirm that you're sexy and have control over them. Once again, that's an ego stroke. Nothing more or less. To the OP - just smile at men and you'll be fine.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Another easy way to flirt is to subtly touch the person. Now, this works on both men and women. Just a little bit of contact, a touch on the forearm, or even a hug hello or goodbye, makes most people feel more comfortable and appreciated. Humans are social creatures, and we crave attention and human touch. This stuff makes everyone feel good.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 OK, but you said you'd never do it with intentions of it going anywhere. Therefore, you hold their eye for as long as you can, to affirm that you're sexy and have control over them. Once again, that's an ego stroke. Nothing more or less. I don't see it that way. Some guys that I make eye contact totally ignore me or look the other way! That doesn't change my enjoyment of searching their eyes and face. The men who do look back almost always give me a big smile. If a guy felt compelled to start a conversation, I would be game. I see no harm in harmless flirting. Guy gets on the train after a long day at the office, looking deflated and tired. I make eye contact and smile a little, and he perks RIGHT up. It's like a little shot of espresso to the heart and mind. I look his body over, then smile at him again. Then I go back to my reading or notebook or whatever, and continue making occasional eye contact until I reach my stop. Who is hurt here? If he came and sat next to me and struck up a conversation, I would respond. Who knows where it might go? It's harmless, it's healthy, it's fun.
OpenBook Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Here's my advice. If you're a woman, never EVER make the first move. NEVER. No exceptions. There are three major reasons why. First, men always know what they want. They don't need - nor do they want - anyone forcing it on them. And if you approach them, you are forcing it on them. Second, men are relatively simple creatures. They will take you at face value. If you approach them first, they will instantly start expecting you to do all the initiating, all the work in a relationship (if one develops). Third, men always want what they can't have. If you approach them, they instantly get the impression that you want them, and the challenge is gone. They believe in the Universal Law Of Supply And Return: the rarer it is and the harder to obtain, the more valuable it is. The best strategy for a woman is twofold: 1) look FABULOUS, as previously mentioned by another poster; and 2) look generally relaxed, positive, open and approachable in your body language and facial expression - i.e., smile a lot! A smile can melt men like butter. Especially men like boldjack.:laugh:
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Are you doing it to have fun, or to make a connection? The former seems sadistic, while the latter makes perfect sense.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Open and JB, you guys are wound way too tight. Can't you just enjoy sexuality? To look into the eyes of an attractive woman, who , in turn, finds you attractive, and both of you having the same awareness, is a total kick.!!
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 I guess if flirtation doesn't have the potential to go anywhere, I'm not too interested, and I can't relate to anyone who uses it as a means of self-validation.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Are you doing it to have fun' date=' or to make a connection? The former seems sadistic, while the latter makes perfect sense.[/quote'] Both. I broke up with someone a year ago, and that relationship really put me and my self-esteem through the wringer. Now, I am emerging from all that and beginning to play with the whole world again, like I used to. It's fun, and I'm making tiny little connections all over the city. It's making me feel sexier, more positive, and more optimistic about life, and this is a good and necessary thing. When I am out taking a walk and going about my business, and so is a man passing by, I have no expectations that he will want to stop and chat with me. But I assume he wouldn't mind getting a tiny bit of attention from a cute girl walking down the street. I mean, who would? If he should stop to chat, I'd be up for it. I am opening myself up to the possibility of fun AND connections again, and I am loving every minute of it. So quit tryin' to bring me down, dude! It's not gonna work.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Not trying to bring you down, Ruby, just trying to understand where you're coming from.
OpenBook Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Open and JB, you guys are wound way too tight. Can't you just enjoy sexuality? To look into the eyes of an attractive woman, who , in turn, finds you attractive, and both of you having the same awareness, is a total kick.!! Uh, I don't swing that way, boldjack... I'm a woman.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 It's all in how you look. There is a vast difference between staring, peeking and looking. Staring is when you look at a Lady's breasts or ass and nothing more. Like she is a walking pair of boobs . Peeking is glancing, then averting eye contact, like a perv. Looking, is more like "experiencing". A sexy, attractive Lady is a work of art. BTW, Ruby, I'm betting that you are a masterpiece.:D
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 No prob, Open. Just insert"man", instead of woman.
boogieboy Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Here's my advice. If you're a woman, never EVER make the first move. NEVER. No exceptions. There are three major reasons why. First, men always know what they want. They don't need - nor do they want - anyone forcing it on them. And if you approach them, you are forcing it on them. Second, men are relatively simple creatures. They will take you at face value. If you approach them first, they will instantly start expecting you to do all the initiating, all the work in a relationship (if one develops). Third, men always want what they can't have. If you approach them, they instantly get the impression that you want them, and the challenge is gone. They believe in the Universal Law Of Supply And Return: the rarer it is and the harder to obtain, the more valuable it is. The best strategy for a woman is twofold: 1) look FABULOUS, as previously mentioned by another poster; and 2) look generally relaxed, positive, open and approachable in your body language and facial expression - i.e., smile a lot! A smile can melt men like butter. Especially men like boldjack.:laugh: I dont agree...I have no problem with women coming up to me, and I could take them seriously and keep a balance going. I never felt forced. if a woman approached me that I didnt find attractive, i just turned her down, no big deal.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Now see, I don't think that at all. I was in a bar in Dallas, last summer , having a nightcap, and the waitress brought me another and it was from a very attractive woman at the bar. I didn't think she was "needy", or "desperate", I was flattered.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 The point I'm trying to make is that it was flattering Because she DID'NT know i was married. She just thought I was an attractive man. BTW, you can never have "enough", sexuality.
OpenBook Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 OMG OB you should start your own thread with that it was PERFECTLY stated' date=' so many young women need to read and know that They just DON'T get it. You worded that perfectly.[/quote'] Why thank you hook! It took me many painful lessons to learn this. And the "mating dance" wasn't intended to be painful. That's not what OB meant' date=' what you are describing is the natural dance between the genders and that is like an animal calling. Looking into a man's eyes and flirting with him and "comming on to him" with body language is EXACTLY what women should do. [b']What OB is talking about is the making the actual moves part.[/b] When women are the ones approaching men and doing all the "chasing" by asking them out or calling them or making all the first moves it's not very feminine and it does lower their worth. It makes a woman look desperate and a man who accepts that is more than likely a mand who never ever gets any action. Yes, that's what I meant. Boldjack and I are talking about two different things. I don't think that warranted him chastising me for being uptight and not enjoying my sexuality (as if he would know that anyway???)... but he is certainly entitled to his opinion, as I am to mine.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 How am I "needy", because an attractive woman , buys me a drink? And how is she "desperate", if she flirts with me? You remember, I initiated nothing. I think you are projecting your own morality here. Jeez, do you ever just have fun?
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 What you are saying is that I am needy, because I enjoy attention from pretty women. So I have " married", tattooed on my forehead, and I'm not attractive enough to have women be attracted to me. Gee, thanks.
boldjack Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 Open, I think that "chastising"', is pretty strong. I just don't think that sensuality should always be used as a commodity. BH, what she and I both got was good conversation, a little innocent flirting, and dinner companionship for two lonely travelers. Don't see anything wrong with that.
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