Brady_to_Moss Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I do this all the time and i shouldnt. I see a beautiful girl walk in a room and i use to think that shes so much better than me. He life ect. Everything. But as of late i am realizing that althought she may be a perfect 10 in the looks department, she has problems just like you and me. bad at sex? Psycho bitch? Who knows. I am trying to just go with the flow and let conversation flow with these girls and i am trying to get some practice in with talking to random girls but it isnt working. Why do guys put girls on pedestals like i did for so long? Is it becasue they think they are perfect and they arnt?
Porn_Guy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Why do guys put girls on pedestals like i did for so long? Is it becasue they think they are perfect and they arnt? no its because generally the better looking a woman is the more messed up she is in the head. these girls have multitudes of problems and neuroses. the only thing different about them is that they can manipulate 95% of men but they tend to be attracted to the 5% they cannot manipulate.
Leoni Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 They like to look up their skirts? Now that's desperate! Putting anyone on a pedestal, is silly if you think about it. What's on the outside, doesn't guarantee what's on the inside, from either side of the coin.
Hkizzle Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 What's the surprise here? Women do the same to men except it's less about looks, but they do it to outgoing, confident and fun to be with men. It's all about relative value. We have an internal measure of how attractive we are to others. When we meet someone that's more attractive then we're likely to put them on a pedestal. So the key is to elevate your internal perception. Which is why naturally confident people are more attractive.
Lizzie60 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 because... because.. we are little princesses.. and we deserve to be on a pedestal..
boldjack Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I would put Lizzie on a pedestal, about waist high, with a good downward angle!!:D
Citizen Erased Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 because... because.. we are little princesses.. and we deserve to be on a pedestal.. Can you stand on mine for me? My legs are getting tired. I hate when this is done to me. I am so spectacularly not perfect it's funny. It's hard to be yourself when you're expected to be something you're not.
boldjack Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 CE, you know that you are feminine perfection:love:
Citizen Erased Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 CE, you know that you are feminine perfection:love:
colosseum Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 But as of late i am realizing that althought she may be a perfect 10 in the looks department, she has problems just like you and me. bad at sex? Psycho bitch? Who knows. Hah, that's great. Yeah, truth be told, to make things easier I tell myself: look, you wouldn't put up your guy friends up on some pedestal, would you? So why should you put this girl up on a pedestal? Just get to know her. Or even: She's just a human being with boobs and a butt. She's still a human being. Talk to her. I am trying to just go with the flow and let conversation flow with these girls and i am trying to get some practice in with talking to random girls but it isnt working. I just recently began this venture myself--how long you been doing this? Because frankly, it takes a hellofalotof practice (and thusly, yes, a hellofalotof failures, but that's how you learn), so keep at it. Why do guys put girls on pedestals like i did for so long? Yeah, I've done that too and am still trying to get more confident. I think it's a culmination of things; part societal influences (what we perceive as beauty and what beauty amounts to, ie commercials), part reflection of how we view ourselves (if we think ourselves not "up-to-par" we may immediately believe we are incapable of attracting that woman or partner), and part how others view themselves (ie pretty people often get a lot of attention and sometimes are stuck-up/proud/arrogant, etc.;not always, but sometimes, and they carry themselves that way, sometimes.)
TheBigQuestion Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 no its because generally the better looking a woman is the more messed up she is in the head. these girls have multitudes of problems and neuroses. the only thing different about them is that they can manipulate 95% of men but they tend to be attracted to the 5% they cannot manipulate. This guy nailed it.
Jilly Bean Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 So they can look up their skirts, I would imagine.
utterer of lies Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I do this all the time and i shouldnt. I see a beautiful girl walk in a room and i use to think that shes so much better than me. He life ect. Everything. But as of late i am realizing that althought she may be a perfect 10 in the looks department, she has problems just like you and me. bad at sex? Psycho bitch? Who knows. I am trying to just go with the flow and let conversation flow with these girls and i am trying to get some practice in with talking to random girls but it isnt working. Why do guys put girls on pedestals like i did for so long? Is it becasue they think they are perfect and they arnt? 'Guys' don't do this, you do.
Crimson Tide Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 No one should put anyone on pedestals. I see women doing this a lot more than guys do.
runner Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I see women doing this a lot more than guys do. i don't mean to fuel the whole gender war thing, but i've observed this as well - IME.
runner Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 So they can look up their skirts, I would imagine. chairs, step ladders ... it's all good
Lizzie60 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I would put Lizzie on a pedestal, about waist high, with a good downward angle!!:D Je T'aime aussi..
samspade Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I do this all the time and i shouldnt. I see a beautiful girl walk in a room and i use to think that shes so much better than me. He life ect. Everything. But as of late i am realizing that althought she may be a perfect 10 in the looks department, she has problems just like you and me. bad at sex? Psycho bitch? Who knows. I am trying to just go with the flow and let conversation flow with these girls and i am trying to get some practice in with talking to random girls but it isnt working. Why do guys put girls on pedestals like i did for so long? Is it becasue they think they are perfect and they arnt? Men are force fed a load of tripe from popular culture, women, and other pathetic men that they must treat all women as flawless, innocent princesses and worship them like deities...before even getting to know one thing about her. For those men who have broken free of this matrix, romance is a lot more clear cut. I recommend you talk to ALL females, regardless of physical beauty, as if they are ugly. This does not mean that you should be mean-spirited. Just refrain from giving her automatic status based on her looks. This will help keep you from slipping up and giving them generic, pandering compliments, and it will keep them in check so they know not to expect the same beta worship they get from all the other male orbiters in their life. Women love being playfully teased and taken down a peg - as long as you keep it light and not mean. Note - they will tell you the opposite, but go by empirical evidence, not someone's ego-driven word.
thegoodlife Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I'm not sure why this happens either. I'm a female and I've had relationships with both male and females and it's happened to me with both genders that because of my looks I was put hiiiiiiigh up on a pedestal. I can't tell you how many times I've heard from a partner "You're better than me, you're way to good for me etc." And I've tried to explain sooo many times that I'm not. It's a partnership, and both people should be on the same level. No one is above, or better than the other.
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