Soulmind Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hello to all again... As some here read my last threads, well, my relationship...I'll say my "ex-relationship" was suspicious. I didn't need to find any prove that my bf was hiding something...of course he used to deny it all the time. I got fed up with his eternal texts, his absent calls, and strange "antics" (a mysterious black eye with out a proper explanation, or a paranoid ex-girlfriend calling me from his mobile phone all mad telling me he was lying to me) OK at this point everybody agree with me that he was not a nice guy -even though, he had the classic skills of being a fantastic boyfriend when he was around me...! I've tried to break up with him twice and now I'm tired. I like him a lot but I know my boundaries and I have my pride. He is not leaving me any choice that the disappearing act! Now, what I want is some feedback, about WHY if he is not that into me, he insists to stay. Anyway, he for me is past, but I want to show you something that happened yesterday. For the last three days I decided to never, ever answer his texts or calls ...did I said calls? He rarely called ha ha... well. Then he was/is stubborn. The first day that I started the NC he texted me : "Hi baby! How are you? How's your day? -I didn't answer of course. Next day very similar text and I didn't answer. 3rd day He says : "Hiya baby, you are not talking to me now?" Then I answer with this: "Hello....I realised that I'm your back-burner girl, we saw each other once in one month. I was into you but you clearly don't. Then, I'm moving on." I think this is very clear, isn't it? Well... he texted me back : "I'm driving now, but I'll phone you later. You are wrong about me." OK... then, later on.. closer to 10pm I received a text from him, that said: "Hello honey, how are you? I'm just back from a long day" -tha's it! As nothing happened! As I never said anything! Of course I'm not answering that, and eventually he will get tired. My question is... why do you guys do this?? In this case I would prefer a guy that dissapears, but this one, has a better act than David Copperfield, is not there,I don't see him, but I can't make him disappear! Weird!
boogieboy Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 If he insists, then the last text from you should be "Im am done with you, do not ever contact me again, and I will be ignoring any texts you send me. Goodbye" That is clear cut, and if he still tries after that, he will stop after a while. He wants two women apperently, I guess thats why hes still trying.
lucy9216 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 He is obviously more into this other girl rather than you sorry his loss though!!! He is keeping you dangling just close enough in case things don't work out with this other girl. Like you said you do have your pride, so move on. You will be happier that you did and you can be someone else's #1 girl. What about the guy with the messy car? haha give him a shot, you might be surprised.
Author Soulmind Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 If he insists, then the last text from you should be "Im am done with you, do not ever contact me again, and I will be ignoring any texts you send me. Goodbye" That is clear cut, and if he still tries after that, he will stop after a while. He wants two women apperently, I guess thats why hes still trying. Yes Boogie, I think I'll need to use your tactic. If he texts me again, that would be my next shoot.
Author Soulmind Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 What about the guy with the messy car? haha give him a shot, you might be surprised. Ha ha... well Lucy, definitely I'm giving him a go. Maybe next time his car is clean? Ha ha... I'm going to try to not think about it and next time if I need to get in to his car I'll wear an astronaut costume
Enema Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hello....I realised that I'm your back-burner girl, we saw each other once in one month. I was into you but you clearly don't. Then, I'm moving on. Telling a guy that you're really into him but you don't wanna be number 2 is not being "very clear". It's saying: "Please write back and tell me that I'm the only one you want and that you really want me" Being very clear is not responding at all.
You'reasian Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Hello to all again... As some here read my last threads, well, my relationship...I'll say my "ex-relationship" was suspicious. I didn't need to find any prove that my bf was hiding something...of course he used to deny it all the time. I got fed up with his eternal texts, his absent calls, and strange "antics" (a mysterious black eye with out a proper explanation, or a paranoid ex-girlfriend calling me from his mobile phone all mad telling me he was lying to me) OK at this point everybody agree with me that he was not a nice guy -even though, he had the classic skills of being a fantastic boyfriend when he was around me...! I've tried to break up with him twice and now I'm tired. I like him a lot but I know my boundaries and I have my pride. He is not leaving me any choice that the disappearing act! Now, what I want is some feedback, about WHY if he is not that into me, he insists to stay. Anyway, he for me is past, but I want to show you something that happened yesterday. For the last three days I decided to never, ever answer his texts or calls ...did I said calls? He rarely called ha ha... well. Then he was/is stubborn. The first day that I started the NC he texted me : "Hi baby! How are you? How's your day? -I didn't answer of course. Next day very similar text and I didn't answer. 3rd day He says : "Hiya baby, you are not talking to me now?" Then I answer with this: "Hello....I realised that I'm your back-burner girl, we saw each other once in one month. I was into you but you clearly don't. Then, I'm moving on." I think this is very clear, isn't it? Well... he texted me back : "I'm driving now, but I'll phone you later. You are wrong about me." OK... then, later on.. closer to 10pm I received a text from him, that said: "Hello honey, how are you? I'm just back from a long day" -tha's it! As nothing happened! As I never said anything! Of course I'm not answering that, and eventually he will get tired. My question is... why do you guys do this?? In this case I would prefer a guy that dissapears, but this one, has a better act than David Copperfield, is not there,I don't see him, but I can't make him disappear! Weird! Your best bet is to tell him that you are no longer intrested. Period. Plain and simple. What are your text exchanges like? Call records?
mortensorchid Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I think she already told him that she wasn't interested anymore. If I were you, I'd pull the disappearing act. And take it to some extremes - change your cell number. He should get the message eventually. Sounds like his life is a real mess.
boogieboy Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Ha ha... well Lucy, definitely I'm giving him a go. Maybe next time his car is clean? Ha ha... I'm going to try to not think about it and next time if I need to get in to his car I'll wear an astronaut costume theres a guy with a messy car? cool! make a date with him to go to a hand car wash...they'll clean it up nice....
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