dianna Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hello there, im new here and well just like a lot of you guys I was dumped..20 years and dumped ..not a pretty sight. So let me tell you my story..short version of course The story goes like this ( short version ) we were a couple for 2 and a half years and 2 weekes ago we had a fight and he said to me that he had enough he can't stand this anylonger he wants some time alone. Ok, let's skip the part where im begging him, crying my heart out,etc etc etc ..we all did that ..We talked today like A LOT and he said the same thing over and over " no relationship, no ..no..bla bla " and after a while of talking he told me that yes, he still loves me ..yes he misses me and it hurts so much because we end up like this ( this is still a mystery for me why is he stuborn to let go of this relationship) and he's jelous of a friend of mine who has a crush on me ..so he still has feelings for me but in the same time he wants to let go..he needs me like a friend now..he told me that he will always leave a "door" open so maybe..just maybe ..we will be togheter someday" and i started to respect .But 2 days ago a friend of mine tried a trick and made me call him because my friend said I NEED YOU TO CALL HIM URGENTLY..And we talked again and I said to him that ok, we are done, i dont want to beg,cry,hope anymore and he started to cry and i said to him don't cry..why the heck ARE YOU crying? , you wanted this and i said THERE IS NO HOPE, I'VE LOST IT and he screamed crying DO YOU REALLY BELEIVE THAT ?? and I said ..YES..and then the usual thank you for the moments..hope you have the time of your life.Today ..he called me to meet and to bring me a dvd I requested a few days ago and I FELT PROUD when I said to him " Yeah well..you know what? I don't want to see you right now, so i'll recover my cd another time.I played it cool and he felt ok with that....Now I felt ok that moment but right now ..im kind of a mess..blah..miss him like hell but he treated me bad even though our relationsip wasn't perfect. Just a few facts..he's a scorpio and stuborn as hell, and he loves Into the wild movie and I THINK ( actually I KNOW ) that he wants to feel like that dude..leave everything and search his soul..i think he lost his mind a bit. So there ya have it dianna from europe
smookie Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I so understand about the break up anad what he was feeling at the time and what you are feeling... I broke up with my ex 2 months ago... I miss him so much... it is crazy.. I am the one that said we are done and yet i am the one missing him (he never contacts me) like everything else that happens in life there ill be the good days and bad days... How sis the friend "trick" you into calling him? I am just wondering... it seems like with myself when my ex is "ok" with things I feel sad because I want him to miss me and I want him to think of me and when he is ok then I feel like I wasted time with him if he can just go on with his day... No matter what think of it this way .... he misses you as much as you miss him .... he thinks of you as much as you think of him ... men just think inwardly as woman want to talk about everything... I do nto know if this helps but I can tell you that I too am having a crappy day missing him like crazy ... I think of things he has done to help cause this break up and i start to feel better however today I can only think of the day that he went so out of his way to beg me to stay and how happy he was when he walked in from work to see me sitting there... it's a sad one.
mickleb Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yeah. Mine's gone soul-searching. He's probably right - he's seeming pretty soulless to me now. You're doing well Dianna. Good on you. But really: 20 years and dumped is a LOT prettier than 37 and dropped. Take care.
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