lucy9216 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 There is a nutbag that I met on a dating site, I did post a previous thread about him and his crazy ways. I got some good responses saying I should just tell him I am busy with school and my kids and I just don't have the time right now. I was gonna go with that it is a great idea, then I realized that I did meet him on a dating website he is going to know I am full of ****!! so I decided to just ignore him. I mean we only met once and there is nothing invested between us, except for his 2, 3, 5, and 6 am text messages???? asking to come over and wanting me to make him breakfast. I started ignoring him on friday, he has sent two texts and called once since then. I have not responded to any of them, it appears he is not taking the hint but atleast he is not crazily persistant about it. 2 texts and one call in 5 days is not too bad but it could get worse. Any other ideas please?
Thaddeus Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 "Do not contact me anymore. No emails. No text. No phone calls. No smoke signals. Further contact will be grounds for me to inform the authorities."
huck Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Deffo tell him straight - that your not interested. Either that or lie and say your you've met someone else.. Im not a fan of lying (honest!) but youve only met once.. Good Luck !!
hoping2heal Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 There is a nutbag that I met on a dating site, I did post a previous thread about him and his crazy ways. I got some good responses saying I should just tell him I am busy with school and my kids and I just don't have the time right now. I was gonna go with that it is a great idea, then I realized that I did meet him on a dating website he is going to know I am full of ****!! so I decided to just ignore him. I mean we only met once and there is nothing invested between us, except for his 2, 3, 5, and 6 am text messages???? asking to come over and wanting me to make him breakfast. I started ignoring him on friday, he has sent two texts and called once since then. I have not responded to any of them, it appears he is not taking the hint but atleast he is not crazily persistant about it. 2 texts and one call in 5 days is not too bad but it could get worse. Any other ideas please? LOL He texts you to inform you he wants YOU to make HIM breakfeast? LOL wow he is crazy, and has a lot of nerve. By this time he's hung himself luckily. I.E displayed plenty of in appropriate behavior that you could simply say "look I've lost interest, I don't want to see you again, I don't want you as a friend."
WTRanger Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Ignoring him in the hopes that he "gets it" will only increase the chase for him. Ignoring never works, because you can't control how that other person will perceive the ignoring. Some people are nuts and assume that if you ignore them, then that means you need to be contacted double the amount. Thaddeus's advice was the best and extremely forward and oh so simple. Warn him to stop or else it's the cops. Make sure you save his texts, voicemails, etc incase you were to need to show those to the cops. Remember, this is a nut you are dealing with. Not a normal functionting, adheres to logic, human being.
Author lucy9216 Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Okay, I just responded to his text message saying "Sorry I didn't respond sonner but I hope you understand that I am gonna try to work things out with my kids dad. Wish you the best and take care" I was really worried about being being too rude and I think anyone would understand family. Uh oh just got a text from him saying "lol if I had a dime for everytime I heard that one i'd be a rich man.lol. understood. take care"
boogieboy Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Okay, I just responded to his text message saying "Sorry I didn't respond sonner but I hope you understand that I am gonna try to work things out with my kids dad. Wish you the best and take care" I was really worried about being being too rude and I think anyone would understand family. Uh oh just got a text from him saying "lol if I had a dime for everytime I heard that one i'd be a rich man.lol. understood. take care" if he keeps trying after that, you have to be straight up and tell him what Thaddeus said, you cant worry about being rude, hes crazy remember? "Do not contact me anymore. No emails. No text. No phone calls. No smoke signals. Further contact will be grounds for me to inform the authorities."
Author lucy9216 Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 I know I hate lying, I felt really bad doing that. I also felt that if I was completely honest with him he may have gotten crazier if i pointed out his flaws. If I do hear from him again I will just have to be completely honest with him. In actuality i did not tell a complete lie because I am still not over my ex soooo..... it is almost kinda sorta the truth right? haha
amymarieca Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Don't worry about offending him. You were actually pretty nice. I would have bitched him out for texting me at 2am, let alone the other times! Don't be afraid to put your foot down when someone else is making you uncomfortable. If they can't understand that they are wrong, then that is their own problem!
You'reasian Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 There is a nutbag that I met on a dating site, I did post a previous thread about him and his crazy ways. I got some good responses saying I should just tell him I am busy with school and my kids and I just don't have the time right now. I was gonna go with that it is a great idea, then I realized that I did meet him on a dating website he is going to know I am full of ****!! so I decided to just ignore him. I mean we only met once and there is nothing invested between us, except for his 2, 3, 5, and 6 am text messages???? asking to come over and wanting me to make him breakfast. I started ignoring him on friday, he has sent two texts and called once since then. I have not responded to any of them, it appears he is not taking the hint but atleast he is not crazily persistant about it. 2 texts and one call in 5 days is not too bad but it could get worse. Any other ideas please? Same response as the other poster (are you the same people?) Don't give him a hint. Tell him face to face. Text him, email him or call and leave a message that the two of you are over. Done. No more. What are your text exchanges like?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Okay, I just responded to his text message saying "Sorry I didn't respond sonner but I hope you understand that I am gonna try to work things out with my kids dad. Wish you the best and take care" I was really worried about being being too rude and I think anyone would understand family. Uh oh just got a text from him saying "lol if I had a dime for everytime I heard that one i'd be a rich man.lol. understood. take care" :lmao: HAHAHAHAHAHA....LMFAO - I'll bet he has. What a prize. You're obviously not the first woman to brush him off. LOL
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 :lmao: HAHAHAHAHAHA....LMFAO - I'll bet he has. What a prize. You're obviously not the first woman to brush him off. LOL Exactly what I was thinking! HAHAHAHA Good ridence, I hope to never hear from that wacko again!
Talby Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 On the plus side, at least he didn't turn out to be a crazy axe murderer!
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 CRAP!!! I have only been on this account for less than 2 months and I already got a flippin wacko, I am ready to delete this account right now!
WTRanger Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 CRAP!!! I have only been on this account for less than 2 months and I already got a flippin wacko, I am ready to delete this account right now! Online dating is the same as writing to state prisons and mental wards asking random people if they want to date you. In fact, I bet you'd probably meet more socially adjusted people that way.....
Author lucy9216 Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 Online dating is the same as writing to state prisons and mental wards asking random people if they want to date you. In fact, I bet you'd probably meet more socially adjusted people that way..... You are right, I really am not going to use that account anymore. I thought I would try it out and it just isn't working, Thank you everyone for your responses
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