dlzjmpr Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I tried breaking up, but she wanted me to stay for a day or two, which I did. We talked and I agreed that we could try again. I shouldn't have even stayed, I was so stupid. Now I feel like I'm giving her false hope. I won't go into too much detail, but we have some serious problems with our relationship and I'm 100% sure that we should break up. She doesn't want to end it though and she wants to be with me all the time. The problem I have right now is that I'm going to move to another country to study next month. She's working at another town and the next time we can meet is two weeks from now. Which is also only a bit more than two weeks from my flight. I could meet her before, but then she would get really excited to see me and I would really disappoint her. I don't want to finish this on the phone either. What do you think is the best option? I want to hurt her as little as possible. This is also the reason I failed last time. It hurt so much to see her cry, so I gave her another chance to make her feel better, but I know that that was wrong and I feel really bad about it. I was an emotional wreck back then, so I screwed up, but this time I have to do it right. That's my story. Any help would be highly appreciated!
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 the truth hurts we all know this but it is for the best. tell her whats on ur mind dont be weak against her crying fits. if she crys she crys(drago frm rocky voice).....
georgia girl Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 End it. Nicely, but firmly and you can do it over the phone this time. Don't see her in two weeks, either. Just go no contact from now until you leave and then when you leave you'll have enough distractions. But tell her that there is no chance you will reconcile. Tell her that you're sorry and that she's a good person but the feelings aren't there any more. Then, get off the phone and leave it be. She doesn't want to move on - no dumpee wants to move on. But you have moved on. The nicest thing you can do for her now is to leave her completely alone. She will be fine - if you stay away from her.
Author dlzjmpr Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 Thanks. Any more input on the phone or not phone thing?
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