fooled once Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 I'll bet there are many smug folks around here that are taking a perverse pleasure in your unhappiness... The only advice that anyone seems to be able to give is NC... . What a cruel thing to post! WHO are these smug folks and WHY in the world did you feel this helpful to the OP? WHY do you choose to stir the pot?
fooled once Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Everyone is different. It takes some people more time than others. Have you talked to a counselor about your R? It might help you if you could work through everything with someone else, if not just get your feelings out and be able to process everything. Someone who can give you ways to cope and strategies to use in your life that will be helpful to you. You might also need anti-d's if you're depressed. They will help take the edge off. This is a time for growth. It's a time for self-reflection for figuring out where you want to go and how you're going to get there. I myself am a very resilient person. I consider my failures as bumps in the road of my life. When I hit one, I regroup, figure out what I need to do to get where I want to go, and then begin again. I do not believe in wallowing and putting myself down. I simply try, try again. I think you need to ask yourself some questions: What is keeping me from moving on? And be honest with yourself. What was it about my R that keeps me from being happy that I am now free to pursue my needs? Why was I with an unavailable person? (I don't know your story, but I think you need to really pay attention to this one. Were you at a vulnerable point in your life? Were you lied to? Did you just get caught up in it?) Acknowledge your feelings. In these R's there are so many emotions. Intense emotions. Feel, so that you can grieve and you can move on. You have to say goodbye to what you had. Put the past where it belongs and move forward to a better future. I know this sounds silly, but talk positive to yourself. You are worthy of love and you are worthy of a happy life. Surround yourself with people who will support you. Use this as a learning experience. Take what you need from this R and learn the lesson you need to learn. You'll make it. It just takes time. (((HUGS))) Great post GEL; especially the bolded parts!
spiraling downward Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 What a cruel thing to post! WHO are these smug folks and WHY in the world did you feel this helpful to the OP? WHY do you choose to stir the pot? why? because this somehow offends you? I don't think that unhappylady really took it that bad... i just said she wasn't living and she agreed. Oh... btw, you are kind of smug.
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