Who Traded Down?

[LaGazelle]

I want some of whatever you're smoking, MistyK.

 

Let's get serious here. No woman wants her boyfriend or husband screwing someone else unless you're into some kinky crap. I don't have sex with more than one person at a time and certainly don't feel like having sex with a man who is 'doing' someone else. It is just plain gross. So, yes, MistyK, generally speaking someone's mate/partner would be curious who they've been sleeping with and generally get pissed off by it. Get serious. It isn't a competition. The OW goes into knowing she is having sex with a man who is having sex (oh, sorry, I know, I know... they NEVER have sex with their wives) with at least one other person. Not the case with their spouse. Sorry, I'd be just a tad bit curious where my husband's naked body was and where it was.

 

Telling the OW to back off is not competition. That's called a threat to a scavenger. Competition is something entirely different... it is two people vying for the same 'prize'. In this case a man. One woman already has him. Another takes cracks at him. A wife cannot 'compete' with someone she doesn't even know exists and... when she learns the OW exists... it is never competition. It is usually a demand that their spouse either *hits or gets off the pot and, if it comes down to it, a demand that the other woman find some other sort of recreation or means of financial support. In my case I told the OW to back off and would have cleaned her clock if she didn't obey... She crawled back under the rock she came out of.

 

And yes, MistyK, I was inferior to the women, the wives, of these men in every way a woman can be a woman. I was using their husbands like a boyfriend without any regard for them whatsoever. I never wanted them to leave their spouses and never... ever... discussed it. I was a free spirit but I was a selfish bimbo. The wives stood by these guys and they deserved better than for me to take anything from them.

 

And as for the sex twice... maybe it was just plain lousy and not worth the gas money to go back for thirds.

 

For the record, I've never 'competed' with any woman. When I found out he dropped his shorts and it was for someone other than me I laid down the law to him and her. Period. I don't take seconds and I don't take any crap from anyone.

 

If I have to live in reality I want company.

 

Oh Gamine, you took the words from the tip of my lips. I read Misty's post, and but for the fact that I've seen more of this ilk coming from many OW here, I would be amazed.

 

As an example, take a peek at Nocontact2's latest threads...full of mind-bogglingly delusional declarations along the lines of "his wife is destroying our family" "I'm not going to leave a man I'm in love with, who I have a family with!". Good heavens! There are sadly a lot of women on the loose who have lost their grip on reality.

 

How on earth does one compete for something they already have? Surely it is obvious that the OW can be the only one competing for a committed relationship - afterall she is the only one in the triangle without it!

[MistyK]

Telling the OW to back off is not competition. That's called a threat to a scavenger. Competition is something entirely different... it is two people vying for the same 'prize'. In this case a man. One woman already has him. Another takes cracks at him. A wife cannot 'compete' with someone she doesn't even know exists and... when she learns the OW exists... it is never competition. It is usually a demand that their spouse either *hits or gets off the pot and, if it comes down to it, a demand that the other woman find some other sort of recreation or means of financial support. In my case I told the OW to back off and would have cleaned her clock if she didn't obey... She crawled back under the rock she came out of.

 

Yes, you're just proving my point that BS's engage in the competition set up by the MM. What about all those BS's who wait around for years while the MM stays in contact with the OW? She isn't enforcing the demand to choose and yet tries to find ways to put down the OW to feel better about her H's indecision. I've seen that happen ALOT. If the W and the M is so great, there should be no choice, it should be easy right?

 

And yes, MistyK, I was inferior to the women, the wives, of these men in every way a woman can be a woman. I was using their husbands like a boyfriend without any regard for them whatsoever. I never wanted them to leave their spouses and never... ever... discussed it. I was a free spirit but I was a selfish bimbo. The wives stood by these guys and they deserved better than for me to take anything from them.

 

If these wives truly "have" their H's as you say, how could you possibly "take" anything from them?

 

And as for the sex twice... maybe it was just plain lousy and not worth the gas money to go back for thirds.

 

Not worth the gas money or not worth the alimony he'd have to pay you? And isn't it conveinient that the OW is a bad lay according to your H. Obviously he went back for seconds and since we already know he's a liar, probably many more than just 2.

 

For the record, I've never 'competed' with any woman. When I found out he dropped his shorts and it was for someone other than me I laid down the law to him and her. Period. I don't take seconds and I don't take any crap from anyone.

 

Apparently you do take sloppy seconds, because you took your cheating H back.

[MistyK]

 

How on earth does one compete for something they already have? Surely it is obvious that the OW can be the only one competing for a committed relationship - afterall she is the only one in the triangle without it!

 

Ok, so let me get this straight....Your H is f-ing someone else and you call that a committed relationship? It's a relationship alright, tidy and legal, but not committed.

[LaGazelle]

Ok, so let me get this straight....Your H is f-ing someone else and you call that a committed relationship? It's a relationship alright, tidy and legal, but not committed.

 

 

Oh Misty, you are now starting to split hairs...must we not just state the blindingly obvious, but also reiterate it?

 

And must you constantly be so crude?

[MistyK]

Oh Misty, you are now starting to split hairs...must we not just state the blindingly obvious, but also reiterate it?

 

No splitting hairs at all. If your H is cheating, no ONE in the trangle has a committed R. Period. When he stops cheating or the OW /BS leaves, then the possibility exists for a committed R again, but obviously not during the A.

[MistyK]

 

And must you constantly be so crude?

 

Go back and look above, the crude train left the station a long time ago, and it started with a BS. This thread was started by a troll and pissing me off royal. Enough of this crap, I'm out.

[LaGazelle]

No splitting hairs at all. If your H is cheating, no ONE in the trangle has a committed R. Period. When he stops cheating or the OW /BS leaves, then the possibility exists for a committed R again, but obviously not during the A.

 

Misty when a MM is cheating, usually his wife doesn't know, and the moment she finds out he is given an ultimatum of sorts. As a result of said ultimatum, the vast majority of MM happily throw the OW under the bus.

 

A situation in which a wife permits her husband to have meaningless rolls in the hay with other women, is really a sort of open marriage.

[Tony]

This thread has run its course. Many of the posts contain veiled lectures and material that has been discussed in hundreds of previous threads. Thank you for participating.