mammax3 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 After a bit of confusion where I made more of our casual relationship than it was in his mind (due to the words I was telling him, trying to keep it low) we 'broke up' for 2 weeks (given we weren't actually in a relationship, can it be called breaking up?). After that, there were a few days of brief online chatting, and on the third day I called him. He said he hadn't wanted to break up and that he still likes me, but isn't sure if this is the best time. I said I still liked him too, and it all seemed great. I saw two guys while we were broken up. After the 'i like you conversation' i asked about committment, and we were keeping it just casual. After a week of thinking, I don't think I can be in a casual open relationship, despite how much I like this guy. So I asked him to decide - relationship or friendship. I told him to take his time, he alluded to a date when he would tell me. There have been a few texts, limited online chatting, and one face-to-face meeting. He's acting as he always had. I'm trying not to overanalyse all his comments or actions to determine what he's feeling for me. I don't like this feeling of waiting for the decision of whether he finds me worthy or if he can make time for me. a) I told him to take his time, so I can't call and ask him to hurry up. b) I don't want to call him and chat, and interfere with any thought process he's working through. c) I almost want to end the agony by calling and saying nevermind - I decided we're just friends. Since what sort of guy makes a woman wait this long? It's been DAYS! If it helps frame the situation, he's a contemplative, quiet and fairly self contained individual. I guess I just need to wait, but oh man it's hard. I wonder if this could even be called a 'second chance' since we weren't really together before (as I see that now, I thought we were). Is there any input on whether I should do a), b) or c)? Is there another thing I can do? Even if he's a quiet guy, is this inappropriate behaviour from a person who says they like someone? Thanks.
Author mammax3 Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 It wasn't a second chance. It wasn't a relationship. I have the same options that AloneinTexas has, due to a person who doesn't want to or can't commit to a relationship at this time. FWB opportunities. Hm.
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