aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Every day I wake up with this knot in my stomach, and its like I still CAN NOT believe how my stupid ex ended things. I was at his apartment last June. We had an argument the night before, but after leaving the next day, he never spoke to me again. I remember he said "ill talk to you later", and never did. I called the next day...nothing. I tried to call from that Thursday until Sunday...nothing. I finally saw him on AOL messenger that Sunday evening. I sent a message, and the worst thing happened. He appeared to be sitting right there and no response. That B******. How could he do this to me? I had known him for eight months. I thought maybe he just doesn't want to talk right now, but still should have responded to me. So, yeah he never spoke to me again, and I realized it was over. I'm sick of waking up feeling sick to my stomach. Its not so much its over, but the way he ended it. Its the strangest feeling. Anyone else's relationship end like this? I know someone might think its better, instead of him telling me something hurtful, but this feels pretty horrible. Its like he disappeared, and acts like I don't exist. I wrote him for WEEKS, and nothing. I know I have to move on, but I'm so full of anger. I hate him for this. How could never say anything to me? GRRRRRRRR:lmao:
moo Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hey a and d. Waking up for me use to be terrible. My first thought was of him and I would be so upset and anxious. Not anymore. Every morning I do square breathing. Then after square breathing, I do a few minutes of just regular deep, slow breathing (inhale thru the nose and out thru the mouth, but I don't hold it and I don't count). I saw a site that has square breathing on it. They do a 3 count. I do a 4 count. And I sit on the bed, not on the floor. Anyway, it's at: http://www.womans-work.com/stress_busters.htm
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Thanks Moo. I need to start doing some breathing exercises. I was trying to do some before because I have anxiety. OK, I was just on my MYspace account, and I shouldn't have but typed in my EX's screen name. It makes me sick. Why did I do this? His mood has changed to BLESSED?? Ok, how is this jerk blessed? I feel like he thinks I'm nothing to him now, and he is over me, and blessed for god knows whatever reason. For some reason, he is logging on there daily now. Before he wasn't. I wonder if he is doing it on purpose, because he knows I may be looking at his profile. Do you know how awful that is to see it says blessed. I'm even more upset now. I want to do something bad to him. Hey a and d. Waking up for me use to be terrible. My first thought was of him and I would be so upset and anxious. Not anymore. Every morning I do square breathing. Then after square breathing, I do a few minutes of just regular deep, slow breathing (inhale thru the nose and out thru the mouth). I saw a site that has square breathing on it. They do a 3 count. I do a 4 count. And I sit on the bed, not on the floor. Anyway, it's at: http://www.womans-work.com/stress_busters.htm
Thaddeus Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 When I discovered I was being betrayed by my now-ex wife, I felt exactly as you did. I awoke and it felt like a a black fog enveloped me. I didn't do any breathing techniques or anything of the sort, I just lived through it. And I distinctly recall a morning when I awoke expecting the iron ball in the pit of my belly - and it wasn't there. It was almost peculiar, as if a weight had been lifted. I guess I had got to a point that I truly didn't care. But like I said, I hadn't done anything different, it pretty much just left on its own. I wish I could explain it and give you some quantitative process but I can't. Hey, if I can do it...
Exit Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Rough mornings still happen to me over 3 months since the breakup. But I am good at forcing it out of my head in a minute or two now. Just yesterday I decided to go NC for good, but this morning I woke up missing her and feeling crappy. But I quickly reminded myself that she isn't worth missing, and that I have other friends to hang out with today. I hope some day I can wake up without having to think about it at all.
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yup, I can relate. For a good 6 months I woke up every day and within 10 seconds I would think of her and would experience that sinking feeling in my stomach. That was in combination of also dreaming of her a good 5 nights a week. It was very hard to drag myself out of bed during those days, particularly when it was dark and cold in the fall months. I began to get up and go for runs in the morning, which definitely helped. Then I began to wake up and not think of her right away. And the funny thing was that I was so conditioned to it, that I would sort of actually mentally seek out the thoughts, since in a perverse fashion, those thoughts kept some bizzare thread alive to her. A month or so later, I was waking up and not thinking of her at all. It does get better, that i can guarantee.
adamt Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Its 2 months since my ex broke up with me. I am generally ok, but i find sundays the hardest. I also sometimes find driving a hard time for a few minutes when my mind wanders and i go past things that remind me of her. But i am learning to control it and put it out of mind. My way through it is just keep busy so no time to sit and think about her.
moo Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 A and D, you are going to have to stay away from his myspace page. you really should block it. Maybe you should just stay away from myspace in general right now. Go to facebook, meet new friends, or give out you email address to your friends (an email address that is not part of myspace). Facebook is nice. I like it. You can join groups that are really worthwhile like saving the enviornment, etc., or just join a group that is BS but friendly. It's time to start healing. You left his heart along time ago. I know that sounds horrible. I'm going to be a little though the way my roommate has been on me. It's time to let that bastard go. Let him live his life. You have yours to live.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 He's on FACEBOOK too! A and D, you are going to have to stay away from his myspace page. you really should block it. Maybe you should just stay away from myspace in general right now. Go to facebook, meet new friends, or give out you email address to your friends (an email address that is not part of myspace). Facebook is nice. I like it. You can join groups that are really worthwhile like saving the enviornment, etc., or just join a group that is BS but friendly. It's time to start healing. You left his heart along time ago. I know that sounds horrible. I'm going to be a little though the way my roommate has been on me. It's time to let that bastard go. Let him live his life. You have yours to live.
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 He's on FACEBOOK too! Stay off all those sites, problem solved
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Stay off all those sites, problem solved NO the problem isn't solved! I have friends on there, and I like having myspace. I shouldn't have to give that up because of this JERK. I don't know what to do then. Maybe he will delete his account, as I thought he was leaning towards Facebook more so.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 or just join a group that is BS but friendly. A.k.a., any group related to global warming.
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 NO the problem isn't solved! I have friends on there, and I like having myspace. I shouldn't have to give that up because of this JERK. I don't know what to do then. Maybe he will delete his account, as I thought he was leaning towards Facebook more so. Well, if you are going to run into info on him on those sites, what is better? Feeling crappy for months, or moving on?
moo Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 well maybe you can just take a break from myspace. If you think you absolutately have to go to myspace, then block his particular page.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 well maybe you can just take a break from myspace. If you think you absolutately have to go to myspace, then block his particular page. You can block the person from sending messages, but not from viewing their page. I guess eventually I'll not have the urge to view it, but its difficult knowing he is suddenly back on there. I wish I could block my memory from ever knowing the jerk lol
Thomas X Forever Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I wish I could block my memory from ever knowing the jerk lol Yeah, join the club. Let's take turns hitting our heads off the wall till we smell pancakes and forget what colors are.
moo Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 a and d when I say block his mypage, I'm not talking about via a myspace blocker. I'm talking about via mechanism like the firefox brower or windows user account. Remember...what we talked about before?
Thaddeus Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yeah, join the club. Let's take turns hitting our heads off the wall till we smell pancakes and forget what colors are.I know this is a serious thread with serious consequences, but jeez... this made me laugh out loud.
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