moo Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Weekends were very bad for me. I fell apart on them. This past weekend I cried, but very little. Yesterday a great thing happend, I was actually looking forward to next weekend. Next weekend I would like to take a nature walk, take pics, do crafts, and watch Dr. Who. Sounds pretty nice. Hurray for me!
New_life Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 thats great moo, def hard to get over the weekends... to me theyre the worse, and I used to love them! plus this next weekend is the last before I go to classes again and will probably see my ex from a distance having fun!! i do love dr. who though.......
marlena Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 That´s the spirit! No one deserves to live better than you!!
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Weekends were very bad for me. I fell apart on them. This past weekend I cried, but very little. Yesterday a great thing happend, I was actually looking forward to next weekend. Next weekend I would like to take a nature walk, take pics, do crafts, and watch Dr. Who. Sounds pretty nice. Hurray for me! Hurray for you.
Author moo Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Thank you so much all of you. Utterer, I like this side of you. I knew there was a nicer side to you. Thanks for showing it to me.
aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Thank you so much all of you. Utterer, I like this side of you. I knew there was a nicer side to you. Thanks for showing it to me. He's only nice when you are happy. He doesn't sympathize with humans who are going through a BAD time.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Thank you so much all of you. Utterer, I like this side of you. I knew there was a nicer side to you. Thanks for showing it to me. People see what they want to see.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 He's only nice when you are happy. He doesn't sympathize with humans who are going through a BAD time. How did you get that idea? You are mistaken. The correct version would be: I do not sympathize with humans who wallow in self-pity and further their own suffering. But lets not change the subject of this thread, which would be Moo, not me
aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Doesn't mean someone is wallowing in self pity just because they are going through a rough patch. You don't seem to sympathize with LIFE period. But, yeah Moo...I'm glad you are feeling better and looking forward to the weekend. How did you get that idea? You are mistaken. The correct version would be: I do not sympathize with humans who wallow in self-pity and further their own suffering. But lets not change the subject of this thread, which would be Moo, not me
Thomas X Forever Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Lol utterer, let's not play games. You don't feel empathy and/or sympathy for anything. It's simply not within your brain chemistry. That doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person though. You can still help people.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Lol utterer, let's not play games. Oh, but I do like games. You don't feel empathy and/or sympathy for anything. It's simply not within your brain chemistry. That doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person though. You can still help people. Funny how well you seem to know me. You must have used your amazing powers of remote brain scanology to detect this implied lack of serotonin in my brain. I wish I was that awesome. Seriously though, just because you don't agree with my opinions or my behavior doesn't make mean I have a defect. But feel free to continue mentioning it, because as you know, as soon as you write it 13 times, it becomes true. Also, I like attention, even from you.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Doesn't mean someone is wallowing in self pity just because they are going through a rough patch. That's true. But if that someone e.g. is purposefully seeking out situations or experiences that bring them down and make them feel bad, sweet words aren't going to help. You don't seem to sympathize with LIFE period. Exactly, I Am Become Death, Destroyer Of Worlds. Or Darth Vader. Or maybe even the Dark Lord Of Mordor.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Utterer, your tired attempts at sarcasm and humor fail in very regard aside from cynicism. Its so easily predictable, so expected. It was also expected that you wouldn't simply defend yourself and say you do feel sympathy or empathy. Because you don't, so why would it even occur in your head that you should defend yourself there. And I know you DO like the attention. Because after all, when you're so synical that your anger escapes on people who arehurtng (aka people who you think are weak), you surely don't have anyone by your side. So some attention is better than none.
aloneanddepressed Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I'm not doing this on PURPOSE. I'm not deliberately finding things to bring me down. I can't control my emotions at this period. In time things will get better, and it hasn't been that long at all since the relationship ended. The way my Ex parted with me, I feel that I have every right to be this angry. I honestly think I would have felt better if he had flat out told me how he felt and said goodbye. It feels weird. He's treating me the way it would be if I had dropped DEAD. Utterer and Boogie seem to purposely want to bring people down and make them feel worse about their problems, and talk to them like they are non human. now why in the world would someone respond with SWEET words back. why would they feel any better about themselves or the situation. honestly, your advice is POINTLESS in my opinion That's true. But if that someone e.g. is purposefully seeking out situations or experiences that bring them down and make them feel bad, sweet words aren't going to help. Exactly, I Am Become Death, Destroyer Of Worlds. Or Darth Vader. Or maybe even the Dark Lord Of Mordor.
Author moo Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 A and D, I felt my ex treated me like I was dead to him. It hurt horribly. Tell me, what do you need from us? What would you like us to say to you? Maybe that's a better approach. We don't want to make you feel worse.
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Utterer, your tired attempts at sarcasm and humor fail in very regard aside from cynicism. Stop the brown-nosing. Its so easily predictable, so expected. It was also expected that you wouldn't simply defend yourself and say you do feel sympathy or empathy. Because you don't, so why would it even occur in your head that you should defend yourself there. Exactly. Your accusations are so empty and void that even taking them serious is pointless. Because after all, when you're so synical that your anger escapes on people who arehurtng (aka people who you think are weak), you surely don't have anyone by your side. My synicalism is arehurtng-ful, indeed. You will most likely not believe me, but I am not angry. Why should I be? I'm here to help people. But as you might have already guessed (using your supreme mastery of pop-psychology), I do like the concept of responsibility for oneself. This includes actively working on yourself for betterment. Yes, I do think people who refuse to do that are weak. Why? Because it's a choice they make. Being lost in this mind-loop of sadness and depression is addictive, and wallowing in self-pity and continual suffering is the easy way out. Not a nice, comfortable one, but it's still easier than getting a grip on yourself. You should know this by now. Oh, and please remind me to tell my friends and family to leave me alone, because only then I can truly base my self-esteem on the approval of random strangers on the internet. Oh, I just noticed that I seem unable to stop the thread-jacking. Why, oh why does it make so much fun to argue on teh internets. http://xkcd.com/386/ Sorry, Moo!
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I'm not doing this on PURPOSE. I'm not deliberately finding things to bring me down. Then stop facebook and myspace-stalking your ex. I can't control my emotions at this period. In time things will get better, and it hasn't been that long at all since the relationship ended. The way my Ex parted with me, I feel that I have every right to be this angry. I honestly think I would have felt better if he had flat out told me how he felt and said goodbye. Yes, you have every right to feel angry. But you can't change what and how it happened. You can change how you react to it, now, how you handle it. You saying you are powerless and not able to control yourself doesn't make it so. It feels weird. He's treating me the way it would be if I had dropped DEAD. Utterer and Boogie seem to purposely want to bring people down and make them feel worse about their problems, and talk to them like they are non human. Oh, believe what you want, and go back to your self-pity. I'm done wasting my time with this.
Narf Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Personally i like to hear everyones advice... You take each and make them make sense to you.. Taking offense is just silly everyone is different and is trying to help in their own way... I like Utterer's reality check... When i read his posts i like his humour. Yes it can be a tad harsh but really when i was down that is what i needed, people telling me yes he is an idiot didnt help and saying they know how i feel helped a little bit but, didnt stop the feelings...The reality of focusing on me is what helped me... Focus needs to be on you.. If you are sad and depressed what can you do to help yourself? See a counselor? Doing things you enjoy? Anything to take your mind off what the ar*se did Anyways Moo that is awesome! I hope you get to do everything you planned on the weekend!
Author moo Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 Thanks. You know, all the stuff I did really help, the therapist, hobbies, journaling, etc. But I believe the thing that helped me the most was NC.
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