redant Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Any suggestions? He's going to bar with friend. I'm pissed because I imagine he could be friendly or flirty with a girl. She could think his accent is cute!!! Should I follow him!! j/k. I guess I will do something fun for myself. Why does he have to go anyway.
Trimmer Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I'm not sure if you're really pissed or if the j/k applies to that... Assuming that you are actually upset, may I point out that you are wound up about what you 'imagine" he "could" do? And even more interesting, you're upset about what someone else "could" think of him... Now I'm not saying that this is a risk-free situation, but it depends on who he is and why he's going out. I've had friends come into town that I wanted to see, and we've gone to a bar or a restaurant, no big deal. If he's going out to socialize with a friend, that's one thing. On the other hand, if he's going out looking for entertainment and companionship, that's another thing. Have you talked to him about this? What is he like? What is your relationship like? How old are you both? Is this the first time or has this happened before, and how did it turn out? Has he given you reason to be concerned in the past?
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Any suggestions? He's going to bar with friend. I'm pissed because I imagine he could be friendly or flirty with a girl. She could think his accent is cute!!! Should I follow him!! j/k. I guess I will do something fun for myself. Why does he have to go anyway. Because he probably wants to go out with his friend and relax over a drink? Well, people should have lives outside a relationship no? I doubt you have anything to worry about
Jersey Shortie Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 You could shackle him to your bed and let him drink some beer out of a straw..but I fear that's a little to "Misery". Sometimes guys need to have other male companionship. That's all that is going on here. Do as you suggest. Get yourself out of the house and do something you enjoy as well.
Author redant Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Yea I'd like to shackle him. Yea Trimmer I think he's going out to socialize not looking for companionship. We are in out 30's. I'm not very upset only a little. I will be ok, but I hate to "imagine" things . I'll get out and buy myself a treat or something and finish watching the Bachelorette. Thank you guys. But don't you guys get bothered if your gf goes out? What is the attitude you have?
northstar1 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yea I'd like to shackle him. Yea Trimmer I think he's going out to socialize not looking for companionship. We are in out 30's. I'm not very upset only a little. I will be ok, but I hate to "imagine" things . I'll get out and buy myself a treat or something and finish watching the Bachelorette. Thank you guys. But don't you guys get bothered if your gf goes out? What is the attitude you have? Well, I trust her to go out with her friends from time to time. If she didn't ever want to see her friends and just stay home, I would find that far too dependant. Unless she gives me a reason to feel mistrust, I don't mind in the slightest.
Author redant Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Yea if he was too dependent I'd be annoyed too. When do I win??!! OK Thanks!
Nemoralis Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Gah, so vastly different from my own relationship. lol People need lives outside of their relationships. No offense but it's a little rediculous of you to get upset when he wants to go out without you. Ever heard of "poker night?" Sheesh.
Author redant Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Well if only if my relationship could be as wonderful as yours! Sheesh!!!!!!!
JustLooking123 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Relax. It's good to have time away from each other, with your own friends. Do you not trust him for some reason? Why?
Author redant Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 I'm being silly, but I don't trust girls! I do trust him. I'm just venting. I guess I hope all goes well. Yea I just have to relax, I get worked up. So instead of annoy him about it I annoy LS. It helps.
LittleGuyBigIssues Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 But don't you guys get bothered if your gf goes out? What is the attitude you have? My girlfriend is a real club girl, being friendly and talking to as many guys/girls as possible, dancing with everyone, getting hit on a dozen times each night, etc. She doesnt flirt with them though. Although she does flirt with her closest male friends now and then, but its all innocent. And it doesnt bother me as much as if she was flirting for real with a stranger. Me on the other hand, im more of a calmer, geeky person who prefers to stay home. So she often goes without me if i dont feel like coming along. She had a few moments now and then where she got a little bit too friendly. (including snogging a guy while she was drunk, i was pissed off at that.) I trust her not to let anything bad happen. If something does i know she will tell me as soon as possible and feel extremely guilty. So overal i can safely trust her. Her being out dancing in those stupid clubs gives me more time to play my favourite videogames in peace.
Author redant Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Thats interesting LittleGuy. What's snogging? Kissing?
Jersey Shortie Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Yea I'd like to shackle him. Yea Trimmer I think he's going out to socialize not looking for companionship. We are in out 30's. I'm not very upset only a little. I will be ok, but I hate to "imagine" things . I'll get out and buy myself a treat or something and finish watching the Bachelorette. Thank you guys. But don't you guys get bothered if your gf goes out? What is the attitude you have? He might like the shackling..if it's not on guys night out. I know you asked the guys but as a girl, I will answer. I actually *like* when he goes out with his friends. Because I think it's important that men have other relationships outside of me, with other men. I like that I can have some me time by myself. And when he comes home, I am all that more happy to see him. of course, that's when I am actually dating someone which I am currently am not. You say you don't trust other women but you trust your guy. If this is really true then you trust him to make the right choices despite what other women might do. And to be honest, It's *really* important to men that they can have other male relationships without feeling like his SO is going to be alienated for it. It's something I have heard men talk about alot. That their women don't understand their need to get out with the guys. As long as he isn't going to strip clubs or is the type of guy not going out for the male companionship and really is going out for other women, then you don't need to worry. And you know what kind of man your boyfriend is.
Thaddeus Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 It's *really* important to men that they can have other male relationships without feeling like his SO is going to be alienated for it.+1. Quoted for truth.
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