Sophie123 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Hi Me & my boyfriend have been together for just over a year now & for the past couple of months we have been arguing more than normal. My boyfriend has just finished the first year of his second degree so when he came back we spent quite a lot of time together for the first couple of weeks. Previously, we have talked a lot about of religious conflicts concerning our future & children etc so every now and then these issues reappear. This came up again recently & he said that he was 99% sure that he actually wanted to marry someone the same religion as him a.k.a basically we have no hope lol. From talking about this it came up that he wanted to see other people and felt 'trapped' in our relationship. So we broke up. The following day he text me saying that he felt he has made the biggest mistake of his life & he wanted to get back together?!!!!! He said that the reason he felt trapped was that he felt we had spent far too much time together but he never mentioned this when we were together- he wasn't honest with me at all. If I didn't want to see him for any reason (like if I just couldn't be bothered cos I was tired) I would just be honest & tell him! We got back together a week after all this happened but I'm just unsure as to whether this was the right thing to do. When we did break up I actually felt some relief because our relationship hadn't felt secure for some time because of his feelings towards wanting to marry someone the of the same religion. He says he loves me & wants to be with me but I am very unsure. I have spoken to friends about this & a few said that more time apart would have been better to see how I felt without him cos a week is nothing (which it isn't really!). As this has all happened I have found myself questioning everything about my boyfriend & I have even made pro/con lists about him. I find myself concentrating more on the bad parts of him & i'm thinking this may be a sign that I should move on?! If we did have a future together, then all the compromising in terms of religion & beliefs would be done on my part & I'm not sure whether I would grow to resent that! We do have many differences in general & sometimes I find he can be petty and childish for his age. As you can tell I am very unsure about this relationship at the moment. Could this be a sign that I should end it, even though we have been back together for only approx 2 weeks or should I give it longer to see how it goes? We are still meeting up etc but not as much as we used to. Thank you for any advice!
wow123 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I have been in the same exact situation. We were together for 3 years...great relationship...still friends today. We could not agree on how our children would be raised so we broke up. Got back together but the issue never went away as we still could not agree. If you are going to stay together you need to make sure you agree with one another on issues like these before continuing the relationship. I would have married her if it were not for that one big issue.
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