rod_in_gtown Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 So I have a date with a woman tomorrow. Her profile looks spectacular, she's cute, smart, traveled, European, open minded, funny, loves motorcycles, scuba, claims to be looking for a genuinely nice guy, and seems to know exactly what she wants. I started the communication last night, and she replied this morning. We've been emailing all day and we have set up a date to meet tomorrow afternoon. I'm thrilled! But I'm getting this nagging feeling that it's "too good to be true". I can't really put my finger on why...
HsMomma Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Maybe the best way to approach this is: expect the worst & hope for the best. I wouldn't put too much emphasis on the whole "she could be THE ONE" thing - meet for your date tomorrow afternoon with the expectation that this is someone you might enjoy spending time with...and that's it. If you set your expectations too high, you're bound to be disappointed. However, if you go into it with the expectation only that this is someone you might to be able hang out with & maybe it might lead to more, I think you'll find yourself enjoying it more. Keep us updated though as to how it went, ok? Good luck & have fun!
JustLooking123 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 You're basing your assessment of her on a profile and some email contact. It's easy to appear awesome in that limited of a setting . She certainly will have flaws, like everyone else in the world. Just get to know her and see where it goes.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 Oh I'm not idealizing her at all, I certainly don't think she's THE ONE. But her profile does stand out way up high above the rest. and I've read a LOT of profiles. I'm anxious to see if she's for real. She's also VERY cute. I'm cautiously optimistic and hoping for the best. I won't expect the worst because if I do, it'll reflect in my behavior and I want to have a nice fun date regardless.
Teslacoil Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 That's great that she's been replying to you so much and you setup a date to meet sooner rather than later. In my experience if you spend a week or two emailing before you get around to meeting, one of the people involved isn't that excited about the other one. The turning point will be whether or not she emails you after the date or not. It annoyed me to no end that at the end of a date some women will say, "We should get together again," when they really have no intention of calling you or emailing you again.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 I agree, I'm all for meeting early to see if there is chemistry. Plus that way one is not interested into the other, there is a lot less invested and no feelings are hurt. I do find it annoying when women decide to "disappear" by ignoring emails/calls. It's never better than to tell the truth. But that is a topic we discussed in another thread (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2255895#post2255895). Well, we're set for 7 PM and she's bringing her dog so we're doing outside seating and then a dog park that has an off-leash area afterwards (my idea). It's going to be really hot outside, I hope I don't sweat too much... I hate our hot and muggy summers.
Jilly Bean Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Rod, rub your deodorant all over your torso and back. Seriously. Dancers will use it on their whole body, so they won't sweat through a costume. It works. And just have fun. Don't set the expectations too high, but maintain a healthy excitement. And report back, or IM me, or whatever.
Kamille Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Have fun! could be too good to be true, but really, there's no sense in worrying. Oh and ps: don't worry about sweating too much. Once went on a park date with a guy who refused to play freesbie for fear of sweating. While I understood he wanted to smell good, it was actually kind of a turn off that he would let that concern get in the way. I mean... well... if things work out in the long run, I do expect to see - and taste - my partner('s) sweat.
HsMomma Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hey rod - have a terrific time! Do come back & let us know how things go, though, ok? Hey, we old married folk have to live vicariously through somebody, right?!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Rod, it's merely the jitters. The beset thing is not to have too much expectation and just enjoy yourself. Looking forward to your update.
samspade Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Find out more and have fun. Maybe she's cool, maybe not. One thing I recommend is to get rid of the "hot" classification in your head. It almost automatically gives the girl inflated value in your mind before you even get to know her. Treat her like a cute to average chick, or better yet, an ugly chick. You'll get a much clearer idea of her other qualities, and you'll have her qualifying herself to you (instead of the other way around).
Author rod_in_gtown Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 It was definitely different. I was a little nervous and a little late, so I texted her I was running behind to which she responded "no problem, don't speed". I loved that. It really put me at ease. Got there and this stunning woman was sitting there with her dog outside on a table. we sat down and talked, shared some bar food and beer and then paid the bill and went to the park. Chatted some more, talked about her and her life here and abroad, about our friends and a little about our jobs (very little). played with the dog and she even chatted with a little boy who wanted to play with her dog (she was being kind of motherly to him which I though was a bit unusual but very cute). This first date was definitely shorter than my average first date. She empasized from the beginning (even before we met) that she wants to be friends first, talk and hang out before being romantic. She's eastern european with a thick accent (even though she's been in the states for almost 20 years). Spent a few years in the Air Force and her military definitely shows. Also she's a bit like one of the boys, which I find confusing because she says she likes tons of affection. Maybe she was just a bit nervous. I really want to see her again but I'm definitely used to a more feminine type of woman. Double cheek kiss goodnight and a very nice "An absolute pleasure meeting you" in italian. Jilly, I did put deodorant on everywhere. It definitely helped, maybe I should've put some on my forehead as well! We talked about maybe doing something on saturday, so we're keeping the day open tentatively (pending confirmation of previous plans).
Jilly Bean Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 she's a bit like one of the boys, which I find confusing because she says she likes tons of affection. Trannies need love too, Rod. Oh, I neglected to mention. Even if you dip your entire body in anti-perspirant, leaving any part untouched will become your Achilles Heel, and the sweat from every other gland will pour out of that one spot. Shoot. Sorry, bro.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 Trannies need love too, Rod. Oh, I neglected to mention. Even if you dip your entire body in anti-perspirant, leaving any part untouched will become your Achilles Heel, and the sweat from every other gland will pour out of that one spot. Shoot. Sorry, bro. You're a rare mix of evil and brilliant
HsMomma Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Also she's a bit like one of the boys, which I find confusing because she says she likes tons of affection. I really want to see her again but I'm definitely used to a more feminine type of woman. Rod, sounds like it went well. Glad to hear you weren't disappointed. I had to comment on the above, though. When I was younger & in the dating pool, I was a bit like one of the boys as well, in that I've always been athletic & did things like shoot pool/throw darts, etc. Didn't mean I didn't like tons of affection or that I wasn't feminine (maybe not your typical girly-girl, but feminine nonetheless). I've found that there are men who really like the ultra-feminine women (nothing wrong with that) who aren't so much into just hanging out & doing stuff with the guys, but there are also those men who like women who do like to do that kind of thing. If she's not what you're used to, that's one thing. If she's not what you're into that's something entirely different. Sounds like you could have a good time Saturday, though...did y'all discuss any kind of plans or just keep it light with a "maybe we can get together" kind of thing?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 We left it off as "we'll be in touch". She emailed this morning saying she was really glad she got to meet me, so I told her that I would like to see her maybe sunday or monday, since I will be in NY over the weekend celebrating my sister and her husband's birthdays. She said that she would love to see me again and that we should talk saturday to plan something. So we'll go from there.
HsMomma Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 We left it off as "we'll be in touch". She emailed this morning saying she was really glad she got to meet me, so I told her that I would like to see her maybe sunday or monday, since I will be in NY over the weekend celebrating my sister and her husband's birthdays. She said that she would love to see me again and that we should talk saturday to plan something. So we'll go from there. Whoo-hoo...sounds good. Enjoy it!
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