bills53082 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Ok, i'm a 27 year old male who got out of a 6 year relationship about 9 months ago. Since then i've been doing my thing and having fun the whole time. I met this really cute girl not to long ago, who shares so many interests with me. We've been on 6 or 7 dates and each one is great. I just like spending time with her. Now here's my dilemma. I can totally see myself falling for her and I'm told myself to just take it slow. The other day we were laying in her bed and she asked me about my past relationships which i proceeded to tell her. She then told me she hasn't been in a serious relationship since high school and that it's not really in her personality. She said she likes me and likes how things are going. I didn't give it a lot of thought at the time, but now I can't stop thinking about what she said. Does that mean she doesn't want a long term relationship with me ever or does it mean she just doesn't have a lot of experience in it. I feel like if I were to ask her what she meant and to elaborate now would be weird. Please help, suggestions, comments, etc. Thanks
samspade Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Question: Have you had sex with her yet? She could be signaling that she doesn't want an LTR with YOU. She could be testing you to see how you react. Or, she could just be commenting on her past behavior, which means nothing. Apply the George Clooney test: Would she turn down a long term relationship with George Clooney? Otherwise, if things are going well, just enjoy it. You shouldn't be thinking LTR after six dates, anyway. Relax, and wait for her to bring it up again. Then you'll know she's comfortable with the idea.
boogieboy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Since she asked you about your past relationships it wouldnt be weird to ask her. Theres a few options here 1.) she just doesnt like you enough to have a LTR with you 2.) SHe has some screws loose in her head and nothing can keep her interest long enough This is a BIG red flag and you shouldnt get your feelings involved. Keep her as a FWB, but dont let yourself fall for her, she will smash you in the end. MAtter of fact, if she sees that you start falling for her, I predict she will drop you like a hot potato.
Phateless Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 It means she's just not that into you. Either that or she tends to lose interest quickly or mess up relationships she's been in. None of these scenarios bode well if you want to make a LTR out of her. If I were you I would try not to get emotionally involved with this one. She's giving you fair warning. Take heed.
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