EmptyPromises Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 i havent really talked to my ex in two weeks after he embarassed me in front of all his friends. weve been broken up for 3 months but have never really let go of eachother. i used to always block him on facebook after i would try NC or after a break up , but i would always just wind up looking at his profile through one of my friends.so i figured im just gonna leave us as friends on facebook this time. i think it actually helps me looking at his profile and seeing him with other girls. lets me know he doesnt care about me anymore. anyway on friday he contacted me and told me he never loved me blah blah blah even tho we dated for over a year. i gave it right back to him and told him thanks for his honesty now i can finally move on. he then texted me 5 times saying he meant he wasnt in love with me anymore, im a control freak he wishes the best for me, and to unfriend him on facebook... i didnt answer. if he wanted to unfriend me he can do it. im okay with being friends on this stupid thing. anyway last night he imed me like 8 times on it saying "aw were still friends!" " thats so sweet " " if your not going to respond then unfriend me" "how do i unfriend you then" " ok tough guy" i didnt respond. he knows how to unfriend me hes done it before. is he just trying to get my attention ? make himself feel better?
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 i havent really talked to my ex in two weeks after he embarassed me in front of all his friends. weve been broken up for 3 months but have never really let go of eachother. i used to always block him on facebook after i would try NC or after a break up , but i would always just wind up looking at his profile through one of my friends.so i figured im just gonna leave us as friends on facebook this time. i think it actually helps me looking at his profile and seeing him with other girls. lets me know he doesnt care about me anymore. anyway on friday he contacted me and told me he never loved me blah blah blah even tho we dated for over a year. i gave it right back to him and told him thanks for his honesty now i can finally move on. he then texted me 5 times saying he meant he wasnt in love with me anymore, im a control freak he wishes the best for me, and to unfriend him on facebook... i didnt answer. if he wanted to unfriend me he can do it. im okay with being friends on this stupid thing. anyway last night he imed me like 8 times on it saying "aw were still friends!" " thats so sweet " " if your not going to respond then unfriend me" "how do i unfriend you then" " ok tough guy" i didnt respond. he knows how to unfriend me hes done it before. is he just trying to get my attention ? make himself feel better? Are you two still in high school? I'm hoping so, because that would be the only time he could be that immature and not that it would be "okay" but it would be.."understandable". Don't worry about what his reasons were, just keep this guy out of your life.
Author EmptyPromises Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 no were actually seniors in college, and yes hes been immature our entire relationship. always putting me down and trying to make me feel so low. im trying to keep him out of my life
boogieboy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 no were actually seniors in college, and yes hes been immature our entire relationship. always putting me down and trying to make me feel so low. im trying to keep him out of my life No youre not trying! because youre answering him on the IM....the only way he can get to you is if you answe him. Why cant you ignore him?
CaliGuy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 The simple fact you haven't deleted him from FB and you go around it by seeking his profile out through friends makes it obvious you aren't over him. As long as you leave him on FB, as long as you circumvent the NC healing process by not blocking him, he's going to drag your healing process out far longer than it should be. Respect YOURSELF. Block him and be disciplined enough to not seek out info on him. It doesn't matter what he's doing now. You have no control over him and what he does should have no effect on your life anymore. He's old news. To quote Picard: "Make it so." He's not doing this to you. You are doing it to yourself.
Author EmptyPromises Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 i didnt answer him on IM, i answered one of his calls. which is prob much worse. cali...couldnt i just learn to stop checking his profile without blocking him on facebook? i feel like by defriending him its showing him im weak and cant handle it and hes getting what he wants from me : a reaction.
boogieboy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 i didnt answer him on IM, i answered one of his calls. which is prob much worse. cali...couldnt i just learn to stop checking his profile without blocking him on facebook? i feel like by defriending him its showing him im weak and cant handle it and hes getting what he wants from me : a reaction. He already knows he can easily get a reaction from you. But its OVER. Youre not going to see him ever again. it doesnt matter what he thinks if you delete him.
CaliGuy Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 i didnt answer him on IM, i answered one of his calls. which is prob much worse. cali...couldnt i just learn to stop checking his profile without blocking him on facebook? i feel like by defriending him its showing him im weak and cant handle it and hes getting what he wants from me : a reaction. Block him. Just do it. Then, when you feel the urge to check up on him, think about some other fun things you like to do. A hobby. A game. Eating something you like. Some hot guy you just met. Anything to take your mind off him. Like I said, he isn't doing this to you. You are doing it to yourself by not having enough self respect and discipline.
smookie Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 He is so just trying to get your attention you know what though... it's so working ... You do not want to block him... you want ot know whats up in his life.. But really why do you care? If my ex was doing that i would block and delete him so fast.. I do not want to know things about my ex... he is my ex for a reason. I have went through alot of posts that I put on here. I went through them all tonight and I love the responces I got from everyone of them (even if at the time I hated it) it so makes alot of sence now. Block and delete him. You are making him very happy by not doing this.. Think about it this way. He logs onto facebook and see's that he has no status updates about you, then he goes into his friends list and see's that your not even there.. How shocked would he be. And you my dear would be so much better off. 2 words BLOCK AND DELETE!! godd luck
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