samspade Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Certainly there are a million reasons why she has decided to not yet have sex with you. And those are her personal reasons, not steadfast rules, tricks etc. whatever. But what about your personal "rules?" If you feel that after X amount of time a relationship should advance to intimacy - and it hasnt...Be honest with her. Tell her you respect her and enjoy her company. Tell her that you are sorry she does not feel comfortable enough to be intimate with you, but that you dont see the relationship progressing without it. Seems fair. She isnt being pressured to compromise her morals, simply being asked to consider yours. Either that or she may have an STD and she is waiting for the antibiotics to kick in OR waiting for a good time to tell you. If you are providing most of the entertainment as far as dating goes...she may be trying to friend zone you. Great post!
carhill Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I think respondents would do well to read the backstory... Here's a bit of it, in the OP's first post on LS about this lady: About two weeks ago, I am going to get something to eat and stop by the gas station to pick up some cigarettes. After I make my purchase, I turn around and see this girl who is really cute in line. I smile at her, she smiles back, and I head back to my car. As I am going down the road, I notice this red cavalier tailgating me. I'm going about 10 miles over the speed limit, and getting fairly annoyed with this driver behind me. As I pull up to the red light at the intersection, the car behind goes into the right lane next to my car. All of a sudden I hear the driver yelling something to me from the car. I roll my passenger window down, look over, and notice that it is the cute girl who I smiled at, in the gas station. Without any hesitation, this girl asks me for my number Go on to read his subsequent threads and a picture emerges.... I'll suggest to cut this one loose.
alphamale Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 So here's what I think; 1) she really is into me and doesn't want to rush anything, or 2) she is seeing another guy. If there are more explanations, please provide because I'm getting kinda fed up at this point. option #3 is that shes really not that into you and is seeing another guy....
samspade Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Personally I like building sexual tension' date=' it's hot! [/quote'] I'm with you there. And too many men don't understand this and want to cash in right away. The key is to recognize if the tension is present or not. Most women I've slept with (via dating) I KNEW wanted me, and I respect the payoff that comes from building sexual tension. In fact, I'd add that this tension must ALWAYS be present in some way, or a relationship will go sour without it. But that's for another thread.
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