Soul Bear Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 and im feeling pretty sad today. only have one birthday wish... gonna hit the gym now and then go to work I wonder if she will even remember...
brock9911 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 happy birthday! she does, my ex did, but i got a bday wish from her, i wish i didnt. she tried to make me feel guilty, so i would have rather gotten nothing at all chin up, and go get drunk haha, feel better
EmperorR Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Happy bday I know how it is, just remember they do remember your bday
Nedved Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Happy birthday and enjoy the day the best you can mate. Its your day and not your ex's so don't let her get in the way of you enjoying it. The 1st birthday without the ex is always hard but today your starting fresh and hopefully this time next year you'l have another nice person to share it with. Keep the head up mate.
fabulous_chk Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I love ya my bear. *hugs* It's your birthday, you need sexy time.
bluewolf17 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I don't know if I'm to late to say it, but happy birthday! My ex didn't contact me on my birthday, but he remembered. I think it's better that why. Why spend one more birthday with the "wrong one". Enjoy your day.
Ariadne Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Happy Birthday Soul Bear! Hope she remembers and wishes you HB. Have a wonderful day today!
marlena Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Happy Birthday! Be glad to be alive and make the most of your days here on Earth. Don´t even wonder if she will remember. Let it go for your own peace of mind and well-being!
t0ri Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 My birthday is coming up and I think I'll be feeling like you on that day. But try and make the best of it. I'm sure she remembered, but you don't need to hear from her to make your day a good one! Happy Birthday! Hope you cheer up and enjoy it!
Author Soul Bear Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 Ithankyou all so much. I was actually starting to hope she wouldn't as it would make it easier for me to move on, but alas, she sends me a friend request on facebook with a not saying ' happy birthday soul bear. wish you all the very best. the-ex x. ' I don't know what to do now.... I still love this girl!! please please someone advise me ...what are my options, and the repercussions?
brock9911 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I dont know all your options cuz i dont know how the 2 of you left off, or if theres just a break with a chance of getting back together. if thats not the case than the reprocussion could be more heart ache. just the whole mess of feelings snowballing and making u feel worse than b4. be carefull of your choice, you dont want that
WTRanger Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Can you stand to hear her talk about her current love life? Can you stand to look at pictures of her and her new guy? If you answered no to one or both of those questions then I HIGHLY suggest you stay away from her Facebook site. Friending her with lopsided feelings could lead to immensely negative repercussions. You'll never properly be able to heal from her and you'll remain in this constant state of purgatory.
marlena Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 All I can say is let it go for now. Respond with a polite thank you. If she really wants to reconcile, she´ll let you know.
Road To Joy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Holy sh*t, whatever you do, DON'T reply. My ex broke NC for my birthday, too. I thought I was going to be fine and it made everything worst. I went back to square one and believe me it's worst than it seems. After improving just a teensy bit, you forget what it's like to be lower than low, and it is NOT pleasant going back. Take it from me. ← That was the outcome. Happy birthday, my Leo buddy. DO NOT let her mess this day up for you. I know it's hard but it WILL be a million times worst if you break NC.
angelface78 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 HAPPY bIRTHDAY!!! I KNOW HOW U FEEL. bOYFRIEND AND I BROKE UP 2 WEEKS BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY. I FELT HORRIBLE...BUT I HUNG OUT WITH FRIENDS. HE SENT A GENERIC MESSAGE SAYING BEST WISHES ON YOUR BDAY. aFTER 4.5 YEARS THATS ALL I GOT!! DONTLETANYBODY RUIN YOUR DAY TODAY!!! TODAY IS YOUR DAY!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
EmptyPromises Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 happy birthday!! dont reply! your always giving me the strength to keep in no contact so listen to us! if you do just keep it simple like a thank you!
Nuala83 Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Hi SB, Remember me? Sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch. Belated birthday wishes to you. It will get better
Author Soul Bear Posted July 29, 2009 Author Posted July 29, 2009 So as much as it goes against every grain inside me, i have decided to stay NC...why? Because those are not the words i want to hear.... it pretty much said 'happy birthday and will you be my friend and forgive me for treating you so badly post-breakup and jumping into a rebound relationship claiming im in love? ...no hard feelings ' happy birthday and be my friend on facebook...er...NO!lol...hard feeling...er yes, deeply. I know this girl, and she needs closure.... I made my own closure when she said she was in love with someone else. thats was it for me and i have been NC for almost 2 months...this is her 2nd contact. 1st a lame generic apology that was not sincere in any way july 12th (ish), 2nd- a happy birthday message tied in on a note with a friend request on facebook....lame oh and yes, i still want her back, one day. not now. we both have some changes and growing up to do if that ever happens again. im sure there will be relationships inbetween, it may never happen. In order for water to flow from you, you must first let it flow from you...- it took me 2.5 months now to figure that out....can you grasp the concept? No change can take place until i let go, and stay NC....i think
Nuala83 Posted July 29, 2009 Posted July 29, 2009 Glad you've decided not to contact her! For what it's worth, there's no way she's in love with this new person. You don't fall in love with someone in a month or two. That's only the first stage. In the beginning everyone's always on their best behaviour and everything's all fluffy hearts and roses...but then the problems start! Happens in every relationship, no exceptions. Real intimacy only comes years down the line in my opinion. Staying away really is the best thing you can do. For what it's worth, I'm going through a rough patch myself. Yesterday was the anniversary of my dad's death and I didn't even get a call from my ex. I think that says a lot about why we don't conact them don't you think?
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