enchanted771 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I called my boyfriend tonight, left a v/m to call back. We spoke 20 min then he had another call and said he would call me back. He never did. What is your opinion of this, and do i wait till he calls me now which obviously wont be tonight.
aloneanddepressed Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I called my boyfriend tonight, left a v/m to call back. We spoke 20 min then he had another call and said he would call me back. He never did. What is your opinion of this, and do i wait till he calls me now which obviously wont be tonight. How long has it been since he said he would call back? never know what happened, maybe he has a logical explanation. its probably nothing to worry about, but if he keeps doing stuff like this, it is.
Thornton Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 If your relationship is fine in every other way I wouldn't worry about it. You already talked for 20 mins; maybe he just forgot to call back or was busy with something. Are there any other issues - does he regularly ignore you? If this is an isolated incident I'd probably say something casual like "Hey, did you forget to call back the other night?" but I'd let it go after that and wouldn't make a big deal out of it unless he makes a habit of it.
Confusedalways Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 As long as this isn't something he always does, he probably just had something come up or maybe just fell asleep. Cut him a break, and say something about it if you want, but definitely not what I would consider 'inexcusable.'
New Again Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Did he actually say WHEN he would call you back? It was late.
jtaime Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Ummm.. sometimes I do it to my bf too.. if i am moody i'd rather not talk, just so i dont try to pick a fight with him.. so i dont call and let that phase pass..
utterer of lies Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 I called my boyfriend tonight, left a v/m to call back. We spoke 20 min then he had another call and said he would call me back. He never did. What is your opinion of this, and do i wait till he calls me now which obviously wont be tonight. Just yesterday you complained about always being the one to initiate contact, with him being evasive and basically not doing anything for you. And now you called him again, and he did the same thing again. Notice a pattern? Didn't you resolve to stop always doing the first step? Back off, this guy does not want you at the moment...
saira Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 he forgot! give him a break I have learnt this the hard way when I posted something in the same lines as you and at that time one reader posted 'if i was the one dating you and i knew u were hypervenerating over a call back i woudl freak out and leave'
Jersey Shortie Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Cut him some slack here. If this is the worse thing you need to worry about, you're in good shape.
NotNow Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 Honestly, I'm a little torn on this one. I think it's rude to say you'll call back, and then not do it, since then the other person is waiting around (presumable) expecting a call. Unless of course this happens all the time, then you should know better. On the other hand...he didn't give you a timeframe for when he'd call back. It was late, and you'd already been on the phone for 20 minutes. If I'd been on the phone that long with someone already I'd have my fingers crossed he didn't call back. And for all you know he got of the phone at 2am and it was way too late to call you back. Of course, I didn't read your other thread. I had a bf in hs who did this, and it drove me crazy. This was before every 12 year old had a cell phone, and very few high school kids had them. So, we'd talk for 5 mins, he'd be getting another call or had to do something "real quick" or whatever and would say he'd call me right back....and I'd be hanging around my house waiting and he never would. So, I told him he was terribly rude, and to never say he was going to call me back. There: I stopped being pissed that he was wasting my time and being unreliable.
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