writergal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I can't believe it! 3 weeks ago he told me that he couldn't juggle his ex-wife and me, when I called him up to talk about the night I slept over. He said, "I don't want to talk about that anymore. I can't juggle you and my ex-wife." I knew this statement was a lie -- he told me so many when we dated -- and I just passively took it, responding with "Well, I don't want to stress you out. I'll call you in a couple of days." Of course, when I called him, he screened me and didn't pick up. And he never returned my voicemail, either. So I deleted his email address and phone number from my cell phone. He knows he broke my heart because I told him that back when he broke up with me months ago, before we started our on/off again dating dance; which resulted in total lack of emotional intimacy and lots of sleep overs. Your basic FWB trap that I always thought I'd safely avoid falling into. I joined match.com again and went out on a couple of first dates in the past two weeks since talking to my ex-boyfriend, in the hopes that it would help me move forward. Well, the two first dates I had did not lead to second dates with these guys, so I thought, just for curiousity's sake, I'd see if my ex-bf rejoined match.com (my gut said he had despite his plea to me that he couldn't handle me and his ex-wife at the same time...what a crock!!). So, like a good passive-aggressive ex-gf, I typed in his username and whala his profile popped up AND he was online at the time! I quickly hid my profile, but it was already too late because the way match.com works, is that you can see who views your profile. A big mistake on my part AND a sign that no, I have not emotionally detached myself and moved forward with my dating life, despite my rejoining match.com.
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