aloneanddepressed Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I was just reading a post from another thread, and something crossed my mind. OK, so if you know my story, its been over 3 weeks since I found out me and my BF are over. He didn't tell me anything he just disappeared, and I eventually got the idea that we were done. Yeah, a jerk. The last time we are together we had a big argument. Prior to that night; probably a month before this argument, we both had mutually agreed maybe it was time to move on. This was during another disagreement. Of course, a week later, my BF contacts me and says, he loves me, and wants me in his life. He admits he was being stubborn and should have apologized earlier for something he said. He did not want to break up. I am wondering if he only wanted to get back with me at that point because of sex/intimacy. I know I might be paranoid, but its highly possible. Anyways, back to the big argument we had, which was the last time I saw him. So, that night we were intimate, he appeared to be very selfish in bed, and like he was only in it for his "own" pleasure. I got very put off by this, and did not understand his behavior, in which I questioned. He had never acted so insensitive over my needs before. I got a feeling this was a sign something had changed on his part. Why did he seem so selfish and inconsiderate, and of all times during intimacy? I also had told him I was frustrated that night, and he didn't seem to really care. That night was the last night I was with him, and then we are broken up. I'm wondering, does it sound like he possibly was in it for the sex at that point? This is disturbing. If I had known this I would have told him to go to hell way before this happened. Do guys do this sort of thing often? Anyone experience it? thanks:mad:
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I was just reading a post from another thread, and something crossed my mind. OK, so if you know my story, its been over 3 weeks since I found out me and my BF are over. He didn't tell me anything he just disappeared, and I eventually got the idea that we were done. Yeah, a jerk. Anyone that treats another person like this, does not care about them. The last time we are together we had a big argument. Prior to that night; probably a month before this argument, we both had mutually agreed maybe it was time to move on. This was during another disagreement. Of course, a week later, my BF contacts me and says, he loves me, and wants me in his life. He admits he was being stubborn and should have apologized earlier for something he said. He did not want to break up. I am wondering if he only wanted to get back with me at that point because of sex/intimacy. I know I might be paranoid, but its highly possible. If he loved you, he would of treated you with respect, even being unsure about you, he still would of done it in a respectful manner. This is all words. Actions speak louder than words, there is a whole board on this site dedicated to men and mostly women, who end up in situations that are terrible for their hearts, because they simply have not grasped the concept of this simple but extremely true statement. Just go to the OM/OW boards, all these people stressed out and hurt because they choose to hang onto words and ignore what the actions REALLY mean. Don't be like that. Anyways, back to the big argument we had, which was the last time I saw him. So, that night we were intimate, he appeared to be very selfish in bed, and like he was only in it for his "own" pleasure. I got very put off by this, and did not understand his behavior, in which I questioned. He had never acted so insensitive over my needs before. I got a feeling this was a sign something had changed on his part. Why did he seem so selfish and inconsiderate, and of all times during intimacy? I also had told him I was frustrated that night, and he didn't seem to really care. That night was the last night I was with him, and then we are broken up. I'm wondering, does it sound like he possibly was in it for the sex at that point? This is disturbing. If I had known this I would have told him to go to hell way before this happened. Do guys do this sort of thing often? Anyone experience it? thanks:mad: He didn't care about you, so probably yes he was in it for the sex. It's no reflection on you that he didn't care for you or treat you right. He's the dirty dog here. Just stay away from him so you don't get fleas.
Author aloneanddepressed Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 Yeah, the more I think about this, I really think he may have stayed with me for just the intimacy. Its really sad.
hoping2heal Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Yeah, the more I think about this, I really think he may have stayed with me for just the intimacy. Its really sad. It is sad, but do what you can to learn how to avoid this type of guy, this type of relationship in the future.
nomadx Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 hey alone, i've read through some of the threads you made about dealing with this bad breakup and i'm going through the same thing right now. people aren't what they seem, and can lie to your face. i put my eyes right to my ex's after being intimate all night and had her swear to never leave. she swore to never leave and within a month she did. the guy that left you doesn't sound much better. from what i've read so far on this forum you can see your ex differently without the "rose colored glasses" after time has passed without contact. well if you'd like to talk you can contact me -from the love wasteland
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