Peter_G Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I work in a shop, I met this girl at work around a year ago she has always been friendly and would always laugh and touch me on the arm when I made the dumbest jokes. But she hasn’t done that in a long time Most of the time she smiles when she or I say hi and sometimes when I see her in the distance she would look up and smile back at me. She calls me most of the time to help her out and sometimes she comes over to use my pc even though I see her system working perfect with the same program. When I speak to her she always has the most cutest giggle but I double check myself to self if she wasn’t laughing at me. Sometimes I notice she does a kind of vertical scan when she walks past quickly. I do have the feeling that she likes me but maybe she just thinks I’m cute like most other girls do but they don’t act this way. As I liked her for about a year now and don’t know how or if to ask her out. As I know from a past Christmas party she’s single as she said she needs a man to another work college but it seemed it was directed at me Sometimes I notice now she does not go past my counter as much, she takes the long way around but when were together everything seems fine Also sometimes when we are in meetings she always adds more input to my answers in kind of a helpful way. we have never really had a personal conversation alone without being interrupted by another colleague as most of our conversations are about work. Sometimes she does tell her personal thoughts to me and things she likes and doesn’t like She has also introduced me to some of her family members and has gotten me to serve them and sometimes she gets me to serve her. I have never dated or got close to a girl so I need your option if I should ask her out. The flirting signs I have noticed: • Smiles • Giggles • Gives me a lovely look with her eyes when i complement her • Touches • Flicks her hair a lot • Very close when she speaks to me like only a 30cm gap our arms practically touch. • Looks and smiles at me from a distance • Asked if i had a girlfriend if that means anything?
Thaddeus Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I'm not sure what more of a green light you could possibly want. It's unlikely that she's going to ask you out. Ask already. "Hey, I'm going to see such-and-such movie on Friday/I'm dying to try that new Italian restaurant/I'm heading off to the city morgue on Wed. night to look for parts... care to join me?" OK, so maybe not that last example, but you probably get the picture.
burningashes Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Go for a short date- try a coffee! Say, "Hey, wanna go for coffee sometime after work?" Be chill about it and see how it goes!
Thaddeus Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Go for a short date- try a coffee! Say, "Hey, wanna go for coffee sometime after work?" Be chill about it and see how it goes! Whoah... Hold on. Don't ask her if she'd like to go for coffee. Suggest that you're going anyway and would like her to join you. Subtle, but distinct difference. "I'm heading out to such-and-such coffee place after work. Care to come along?"
kaiser2001 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Mate, ASK HER OUT for pete's sake!!! You're so much like me its painful to read your post, lol. Don't analyze everything so much and just go with the flow. Trust me, if you miss this opportunity you'll be kicking yourself for a very long time. Don't let this turn into a "I wonder what if....." Worst case scenario? she says no and you both continue to remain friends. You aren't going to die or get struck by lightning and if she doesn't want to be friends anymore or gets offended just because you asked her out, then well you don't need a person like that in your life and be glad she turned you down. I'd agree with Thaddeus approach except don't do the movie thing. Your first date should be interactive with lots of conversation, not two people stuck in a dark room staring sliently at a screen for two hours whilst surrounded by strangers. Good luck and in the words of Nike, JUST DO IT!
alphamale Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 i was following you until this section: She has also introduced me to some of her family members and has gotten me to serve them and sometimes she gets me to serve her.
Author Peter_G Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 i was following you until this section: lol sounds abit wrong :S because she can not serve family or herself at the checkout. Thanks for your replies
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