mickleb Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 We've been together for 14 months and been so happy. We were together this morning. We were planning the romantic break in Belgium we've booked for a month's time. We were laughing at the dog being silly. We were doing the crossword together. Then he started to get upset and thought I was 'getting at him'. We talked about things, including some subjects he usually avoids, but he seemed to want to talk about them today. Then, all of a sudden, he just broke down. He said he hated himself and he couldn't look me in the eye and he couldn't be with me, or anyone, and that he had to sort himself out. He had to do this alone. He was so upset, he couldn't hear me. Or wouldn't. He asked me to be his friend. He said he wanted me to come to Belgium with him still but as friends. I told him I couldn't do that and he told me to think about it. He said he would come over tomorrow. Then he went. And my world turned upside down. I called my friend. We agreed it wasn't possible for me to just be his friend. Then I called my mum. She said I should tell him this and tell him how much I loved him. She said he was having a crisis of confidence and needed to hear that I would stick by him. That sounded like sense, so I did it. I called him and told him I was his girlfriend, that I couldn't just be his friend. That if he needed time to sort things out he could do that, that was okay. He could have the space he needed but that, as far as I was concerned, I was his girlfriend, not his friend and that I loved him, and that he would find it hard to just get rid of me. He shouted at me. He told me that it was over and that I needed to accept that and he would stop taking my calls, if that's what it took. He said it was a shame I couldn't be his friend and that he'd drop off my key tomorrow. I spoke to my mum again. She said she was shocked, she couldn't understand what was going on, other than that he was having a mid-life crisis. She said I needed to think out what I needed to do about the situation and take care of myself. I called again and asked him not to come over tomorrow, that I was confused and needed some time to think about things. He said 'ok'. That's it. That's what happened today and it's broken my heart.
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