lbk Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 To make a reaaaaaally long story kinda short, broke up with boyfriend of three years three months ago. It was a mutual decision, and Ive since come to realise that it really was for the best. Thing is, I have major abandonement issues (who doesn't) and since the break-up I kinda threw myself at a really attractive co-worker. we've talked a lot on the phone and in person, he ended a relationship 8 months ago which left him very messed up, and we've been talking about our exes quite a bit. Thing is, he's more interested in talking about himself rather than getting to know me; something I have pointed out to him a couple of times. Also told him last week that I had feelings for him, but that I needed some time - to which he really didn't respond much. I officially am starting to hate my blackberry, as a lot of our communication goes over it, and it makes you a slave to it - will he respond or won't he? so anyways, saw him at a club last night where he performs, it's an hour away from where I live and I drove there with a female friend. After performing he would look for me and just stand in front of me with his back to me; I tried to initiate physical contact several times but he didn't respond. So I left at around 3am, and he didn't even say: "well drive safely and let me know that you got home allright" or anything:mad: So today I sent him a message - over the blackberry again - that I find it too difficult to read him and don't want to play games to which he responded that if I didn't want to play games I shouldnt, and should ask what's up instead. I responded that I thought I had several times, but didn't get a response out of him and that I need to focus on myself right now and suround myself with people who make me feel good which he doesnt. His reply was: you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable. AAAARRRGH!!! Problem is, I see him at work everyday, and have to see him tomorrow. Why does he not CARE??? and more importantly, HOW DO I GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD AND NOT CARE??????? any help is greatly apprecated :-))
Hkizzle Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I think a lot of people have this problem. They like someone so want validation. But they neglect to remember that just because they like someone that person doesn't have to like them back, or that person might be a jerk or bitch. You can't change people and expect them to be nice, or if you want someone to like you, you have to create the attraction. A lot of people have issues with how to create attraction because not being themselves is immediately viewed as game playing. But there's a fine line between game playing and making oneself more attractive. As for forgetting about him. You can do it by slowly thinking less about him, create negative associations about him. Think of the bad things about him instead of what you like about him. Get other things in your life so go out with friends and do things rather than thinking about him.
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