Shygirl15 Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Hey guys, This guy that I'm (seriously) interested in, just gave me his match.com password (do people even do that??), so that I help him delete his profile because he "doesn't know how" Anyways, so I get in there, and of course I check out all the back and forth emails and winks from some really hot chicks, so I'm feeling EXTREMELY jealous and angry right now. What the heck is the meaning of this? Is he purposely trying to get me jealous? By the ways he's 20 years older (in his early 50's), so mind games is the last thing I would think of in this situation. But I'm keen to hear your opinions. He will be here in a couple of mins, so I need to know the best way to react... thanks
OverThinker Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 IMO you sould have gone in and cancled the account and not looked at the rest of the stuff. Whats the big deal, if he was chatting with other girl's on match? That is what you do, you should feel good if he was chatting with all these hot chicks and he has picked you. He was showing you he has nothing to hide. I don't really understand what you are upset about. BTW I am a guy.
Author Shygirl15 Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 Thanks so much OT but it was a human thing, you know. I couldn't help check out the other stuff, and couldn't help feeling upset either.
redhighheels Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Given his age, he could be technologically retarded, but if he knows enough to set up an account and use it, I'm sure he's perfectly capable of deleting it as well. I guess the situation could be read as 1) he trusts you enough to give you your password, so he's got nothing to hide or 2) he's trying to test you and see if you react in an insecure manner after seeing his inbox. Is he the Gemini guy? Cause if he is, it's most definitely the second one..there's nothing they like better than a good old mindfu*k. I say play it cool and just let him know you deleted his account.
Author Shygirl15 Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 Great, thanks for giving my confidence back, BH. We had a great evening and I was able to keep my cool. I think venting here helped a great deal as well. I think I need to chill a little because he has mentioned a couple of times that he can sense I have a very jealous nature. Oh, well. Redhighheels, yep it's the Gemini guy. He's a cop, so I'm thinking he may not be playing with the internet as much as we regular people do, and perhaps it's true that he didn't know how. Still strange though.
Bayern Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 At his age I can see him having computer problems and not being able to delete other women himself. He gave you the password trusting you would just delete the other people, not read the e-mails back and forth. If you feel bad, it's your own fault. At least that's my read on it.
grogster Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Don't overreact. You're deleting his profile. As for getting winks and whatnot on Match, it's incredibly easy so long as the guy doesn't resemble a two-toed sloth and have the IQ to match.
Sam Spade Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 I can see a 50 year old dude having trouble deactivating his account - I'm a generation later and still had to fumble a bit, plus naturally any commercial site would make it as hard as possible to cancel a subscription. All that said, I can see the possibility of an ulterior motive here - i.e. "I'm super cool, check out all the hot chicks that emailed me", but even if this is true, there is nothing to worry about and other than mildly stupid, this is just mildly endearing. Don't sweat it. Delete his account and then rock his worlde .
Trialbyfire Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 This is both a test and a way to alleviate your concerns. Act as you would naturally, since that's who you are. Cloaking your true nature will lead to future conflicts since your reactions will differ.
Author Shygirl15 Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 Great advice, thanks y'all. Curiousity got me and now I'm paying the price. I couldn't help but notice he mostly concentrated on ladies in their late 40s/early 50s though. Also at some point last night, he asked if my sister thinks he's too old for me?? To which I said, no she doesn't (lie), but shouldn't my opinion matter the most? Then he proceeded to say, "well, then do you think I'm too old for you?" I said, nope. Frankly, I feel we have so much in common to notice the age gap thing. But then I flipped the q and asked if he thought I was too young for him. He said no. I'm thinking he's a bit uncomfortable with the age thing, but we'll see. BTW, he looks so much younger... like 10 years younger, and not a typical 52 old dude..
aloneanddepressed Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Am I the only one here who sees this as WEIRD??! Who would give someone their password to delete an account, especially for a dating profile. Yes, if he was able to set it up, he is totally capable of deleting it! Its not that hard, regardless of age. I think he is up to something, not sure what. Its almost as if he's trying to give you the assumption he is trustworthy-since he allowed you go access his account, but he may have something else he is hiding? Also, even if he didn't know how, he could log in himself, and you could help him through it, without you actually logging in yourself. I don't know, I just think its odd, he gave you the password. Hey guys, This guy that I'm (seriously) interested in, just gave me his match.com password (do people even do that??), so that I help him delete his profile because he "doesn't know how"
redhighheels Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Anyone would have looked, Shygirl. It's human nature. As an experienced cop, he's probably very familiar with that. I'm sure it was a test, he's trying to figure you out, especially since he's already picked up on your jealousy issues. Proceed with caution
gopher Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Great advice, thanks y'all. Curiousity got me and now I'm paying the price. I couldn't help but notice he mostly concentrated on ladies in their late 40s/early 50s though. Also at some point last night, he asked if my sister thinks he's too old for me?? To which I said, no she doesn't (lie), but shouldn't my opinion matter the most? Then he proceeded to say, "well, then do you think I'm too old for you?" I said, nope. Frankly, I feel we have so much in common to notice the age gap thing. But then I flipped the q and asked if he thought I was too young for him. He said no. I'm thinking he's a bit uncomfortable with the age thing, but we'll see. BTW, he looks so much younger... like 10 years younger, and not a typical 52 old dude.. He was doing that, because he's realistic, he's probably thought, why waste my time on younger women because he assumed none would be interested. Good for both you though for finding each other!! My situation is kind of similar, but not nearly the age difference. She's almost 9 years older, but she contact me first! Lucky me!!! Just go with the flow, since you have so much in common...
Author Shygirl15 Posted July 28, 2009 Author Posted July 28, 2009 The last two posts really made my day , but seriously I appreciate and take into account every comment that you guys made. As of right now, I'll just relax and enjoy myself. I don't see much to worry about.
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