lsb Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 When starting no contact, do you have to tell the other person that you don't wanna talk anymore, or do you just do it?
lorilynne Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 You just do it. If you tell them, depending on your situation, it could either give them another opportunity to hurt you or convince you otherwise.
Exit Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I think it depends. If you are not wanting things to work out and you seek to completely get over them, they don't need to know. If you are doing No Contact to heal your wounds but you still wish something could work out, you might want to quickly tell them why you are taking the action that you're taking, so later on they can't throw it in your face "you stopped talking to me, obviously you don't care".
georgia girl Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I agree. You do no contact for yourself - not the other person. If your motivation is to get a reaction from them, it will always fail. But if your motivation is to give yourself space to heal and move on with your life, there's no need to tell your ex.
redhighheels Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 No contact means you're not interested in any future interactions with the other person, for whatever reasons. In the case of a painful breakup, it means giving yourself a chance to move on with your life, which is something you don't advertise, you just do. I think you only need to spell it out when your ex keeps contacting you, because at that point he or she will keep on doing it - people don't like to be ignored. People with a shred of decency will get the message and leave you alone.
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