Thaddeus Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Originally meant to be humorous, but I have a sneaking suspicion that, like much humour, there's more to it than might be apparent on the surface. It seems to be based on the idea that we tend to want what we can't have. How to get the girl What's your take?
Els Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 LOL. Wouldn't have worked on me. I would've totally gone for the 'be yourself' guy, based on observing my past relationship history. I hate pretentious people who NEED to fit into the exact mold of what society defines as 'cool', more than anything else. Why don't you experiment with a few women and brief us on your success rates? .... Okay, maybe borrowing the friend's puppy might have worked too. Would be better if it was a ferret instead though. Or a chinchilla.
Tony T Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 The more attractive a female is the more it drives her out of her mind to be ignored.
MissHollywood Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 The more attractive a female is the more it drives her out of her mind to be ignored. It would bother me initially, then I'll cool off. It won't drive me to pursue a guy that ignores me because I have too much pride.
Author Thaddeus Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 Why don't you experiment with a few women and brief us on your success rates? Actually, I have and have come up with my own hypothesis. But I wanted to get the board's input first, including yours.Would be better if it was a ferret instead though. Or a chinchilla. Naaahhh... ferrets are kinda smelly, even when their scent gland are removed.
Els Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I like the smell. I am guessing that your hypothesis is that it's true. I myself would also guess that for the majority of the actively-dating population (ie teenagers and young adults), it's true.
BenThereDunThat Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I think the colors of the slices would change based on different age groups. This might have been true for me when I was in my late teens/early 20s. Now, at 40, you can switch the "Make her laugh" and "Ignore her" percentages. Actually, Ignore would be teeny tiny at this point. I'll spend a couple of days wondering, then will lose interest completely.
jtaime Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 The more attractive a female is the more it drives her out of her mind to be ignored. Lol! I'll be bothered! But it wont be for long.. then I'd just shut off and lose interest..
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 It depends on the size of the attractive person's ego and how they fuel their self-esteem. Read up on narcissistic personality disorder, not just for those with NPD but narcissistic tendencies, in general. If you solely rely on external validation to pump yourself up, for certain, this will work.
westernxer Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Hilarious! Invest a little, then withdraw... it does work, but it's best when you're young and at your most exposable. LOL
shadowplay Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 It depends on the size of the attractive person's ego and how they fuel their self-esteem. Read up on narcissistic personality disorder, not just for those with NPD but narcissistic tendencies, in general. If you solely rely on external validation to pump yourself up, for certain, this will work. Given that many (though not all) very attractive people have some narcissistic tendencies, this probably works on a good number. It also may work on people who just have low self esteem without the added layer of narcissism.
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Given that many (though not all) very attractive people have some narcissistic tendencies, this probably works on a good number. It also may work on people who just have low self esteem without the added layer of narcissism.NPDers and narcissistic people, ARE low self-esteem individuals. It's pure irony.
shadowplay Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 NPDers and narcissistic people, ARE low self-esteem individuals. It's pure irony. Yes, I realize that. You can't be narcissistic without having low self esteem, but you can have low self esteem without being narcissistic. It would work on both groups.
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Yes, I realize that. You can't be narcissistic without having low self esteem, but you can have low self esteem without being narcissistic. It would work on both groups.For the sake of discussion, let's pretend a person is a low self-esteem individual and is accustomed to being ignored. What happens when one more person ignores them? Not much, I would think. There are so many hooks out there to "get" people to date you. What any hook fails to mention is that if a person isn't already attracted to you in some way, it isn't happening, even if you can walk on air.
shadowplay Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 For the sake of discussion, let's pretend a person is a low self-esteem individual and is accustomed to being ignored. What happens when one more person ignores them? Not much, I would think. There are so many hooks out there to "get" people to date you. What any hook fails to mention is that if a person isn't already attracted to you in some way, it isn't happening, even if you can walk on air. I think it's a bit more complicated than that. At points in my life when my self esteem have been low, I can say what types of behaviors in men hooked me for the wrong reasons. I was most often drawn to guys who would show some initial interest and then pull back or blow hot and cold. A guy who completely ignored me I wouldn't even consider because I felt I had no chance with him. However, if he were to suddenly send me signs of interest, I would have found him more intriguing since he initially ignored me. Now I just completely dismiss guys who are rude or cold to me. I don't want to fall into that trap again.
Trialbyfire Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I think it's a bit more complicated than that. At points in my life when my self esteem have been low, I can say what types of behaviors in men hooked me for the wrong reasons. I was most often drawn to guys who would show some initial interest and then pull back or blow hot and cold. A guy who completely ignored me I wouldn't even consider because I felt I had no chance with him. However, if he were to suddenly send me signs of interest, I would have found him more intriguing since he initially ignored me. Now I just completely dismiss guys who are rude or cold to me. I don't want to fall into that trap again.The bolded portion is setting the hook. He already had your interest, then pulled without explanation. The withdrawal is setting the hook harder. If you know how to fish, that's how you do it. You bait the hook and when you feel the fish nibble, you set the hook firmly in the flesh of the fish, by giving the line a hard tug. Too hard and you stand to break the line. Too softly and the hook might not set. Good, don't fall for that kind of crap. If a man can't be consistent, let him blow himself hot and cold!
EddieN Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I unintentionally ignore a lot of girls (I might initially contact them, they contact me back, and then me forget to contact them again or just not care enough). Never noticed them coming to me after me doing that.
westernxer Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I unintentionally ignore a lot of girls (I might initially contact them, they contact me back, and then me forget to contact them again or just not care enough). Never noticed them coming to me after me doing that. You might have to go further than just the initial contact. LOL
mammax3 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 My first response was to say that it's true. Ignore a woman and it piques her interest. But it would depend on the type of woman sought. After reading the posts of others, I would be inclined to say that if relationships are the desired outcome then the ignoring technique wouldn't work so well. Making her laugh, being yourself (good way to determine long term compatibility!) etc would attract authentic women and women who also enjoy making others laugh, as well as being themselves - rather than game players.
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