andreww Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 i started no contact one week ago 3 months after the brake up. my ex broke no contact even though she thought it would be better for her not to speak to me because she was with some one new and it hurt me to much to see that. she sent me a message via facebook all it said was " hope your okay" but my question is should i say somthing back?
aboynamedmike Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 don't do it man. if she's with another guy and you're still hanging on to the thought of her don't reply. You've got the ball on your court by having not replied. She's gonna be wondering about you but you just need to do whats best for you man, and that's not talking to her.
CaliGuy Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 Delete her from Facebook. It's not healthy for her to be on your friends list while you're recovering. Make sure you make your profile private.
boogieboy Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 She wants you to update her...she wants to know that you havent moved on from her yet to feed her ego. SHe wants to know everything about you and she wants you to keep her in your head, dont respond to her at all. If you do, she will be satisfied that you are still wanting her. Dont let her know that!
Author andreww Posted July 26, 2009 Author Posted July 26, 2009 thanks guys i was thinking it was better not to reply. i was thinking she might have contacted me because she was feeling guilty about what she had done. i mean if i dont reply its not like ill never hear from her again because we are basicly in the same friends circle.
Author andreww Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 damn its so hard to not reply. i just want my best friend back. but i cant reply. im not allowed to. right?
wow123 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Don't do it. Trust me been there done that. What would you say anyway? Either you tell her "ya im good" which will relieve her guilt or "im not doing so good" which will make you look weak in her eyes. It's a lose lose. Sorry man I know what you're going through.
Author andreww Posted July 27, 2009 Author Posted July 27, 2009 maybe its just because of the fact she thought of me when i thought that bshe never did. i also want to know why she was at home at 11 30 on a sat night? so unlike her. dont worry i wont reply
CM2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 It's best you don't reply, if you do just say "Yeah im good" and keep it pushin. I messed up once w/ my fxw and said im not going good and getting upset at her which messed me up. But now that I look back on it I feel as if it made me soft but now I'm trying to tell you to learn my mistakes and do not and I repeat do not reply......
Road To Joy Posted July 27, 2009 Posted July 27, 2009 Do not reply. Do not reply. Do not reply. Like it was previously stated, if you say you're doing good, she'll be relieved from guilt. And if you say you're doing bad, it'll feed her ego. Delete and block her. This is a must.
CaliGuy Posted July 28, 2009 Posted July 28, 2009 thanks guys i was thinking it was better not to reply. i was thinking she might have contacted me because she was feeling guilty about what she had done. i mean if i dont reply its not like ill never hear from her again because we are basicly in the same friends circle. No she doesn't feel guilty. Most of the time when an ex contacts you, it's because they are seeking validation. They don't want you. They just want to know that YOU still want THEM.
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