littlewhiterose Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Whatever the situation- if you're just meeting someone, have been dating them for a few dates or longer than that- What's wrong with being blunt with your compliments? I'm talking about being sincere and making a comment in passing, in the course of a convo saying "...Your (insert characteristic) is very cute/attractive" or "I find you very sexy". I mean, if the other person wants to let it get to their head, then so be it. They are free to do with the compliment what they will- BUT... What's your take on paying someone a compliment like this? And how about the flip side? What are your thoughts on being on the receiving end of blunt compliments in passing?
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I see nothing wrong with paying compliments, as long as they're couched in a way that's tasteful. Too many compliments about the superficial can also get annoying. FAIL: Nice tits! SCORE: You've got gorgeous eyes.
LittleGuyBigIssues Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I see nothing wrong with paying compliments, as long as they're couched in a way that's tasteful. Too many compliments about the superficial can also get annoying. FAIL: Nice tits! SCORE: You've got gorgeous eyes. Hold on, is it ok for a guy to honestly give you a compliment for your breasts? "You got a nicely shaped chest, it suits you." ?
Le Rendezvous Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Hold on, is it ok for a guy to honestly give you a compliment for your breasts? "You got a nicely shaped chest, it suits you." ? I'm pretty sure no woman would ever take you serious if you said that to her.
Toasted Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 "Hold on, is it ok for a guy to honestly give you a compliment for your breasts? "You got a nicely shaped chest, it suits you." ? " I think if you've been given the oppourtunity to see them it's ok to compliment them... Otherwise yes - its all in the approach...I would agree 'nice tits' = FAIL If the person hasn't really experienced intimacy (emotional, not sexual) they may balk out of embaressment though. Some people just don't know how to accept a complimet gracefull and can come off as rude.
Trialbyfire Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Hold on, is it ok for a guy to honestly give you a compliment for your breasts? "You got a nicely shaped chest, it suits you." ?Not so directly, at least with me. Some women would probably be okay with it. If you're sleeping together, there are ways to express your pleasure, with touch and looks, without needing to get crude about it. Also, no pet names or descriptives, like the girls, etc.
LittleGuyBigIssues Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Now i personally wouldnt comment on a girl's chest unless she asks me what i think about them, or we are fooling around. Just wanted to see what the reaction would be.
Author littlewhiterose Posted July 25, 2009 Author Posted July 25, 2009 Hold on, is it ok for a guy to honestly give you a compliment for your breasts? "You got a nicely shaped chest, it suits you." ? HAHA....Nope. That's a FAIL. At least for me. Even with a sense of humor. I guess I prefer more unique compliments.
You'reasian Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Whatever the situation- if you're just meeting someone, have been dating them for a few dates or longer than that- What's wrong with being blunt with your compliments? I'm talking about being sincere and making a comment in passing, in the course of a convo saying "...Your (insert characteristic) is very cute/attractive" or "I find you very sexy". I mean, if the other person wants to let it get to their head, then so be it. They are free to do with the compliment what they will- BUT... What's your take on paying someone a compliment like this? And how about the flip side? What are your thoughts on being on the receiving end of blunt compliments in passing? Many women seem sensitive to the blunt compliment approach - if the two individuals in question don't know each other, they perceive the guy as coming on too strong. If they're not attracted to him, then he's considered creepy.
Thaddeus Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I do this on occasion, not very often but once in a while. Usually it's about something very specific (and NOT "say, nice titties you have there!"), maybe along the lines of, "That's an intriguing necklace (or whatever). It looks very attractive on you." 99 times out of 100, she'll respond with, "Why, thank you!" Then a smile, and that's the end of it. That 1 time in 100 the response might be a cold stare or complete oblivion. But that's OK. I've got no idea what's going on in her head so I certainly don't take it personally.
mammax3 Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 I think blunt comments along the sexy lines could be miscontrued either as sexual harassment or as an invitation. And similar to the poster who mentioned whether the reciever was accustomed to compliments (I'm notorious for brushing off compliments, out of embarassment, I suppose), it may depend on who is issuing the compliments. Being told that I have a cute/attractive characteristic from a dear friend who I trust will likely carry more weight than from a passing stranger. I'm all for it, though. I love issuing compliments. Hm. But why? Why would a person issue a blunt compliment?
IcemanJB Posted July 26, 2009 Posted July 26, 2009 The rule of thumb I live by is if you have ulterior motives by giving compliments, she'll pick up on it. I almost never compliment early on when getting to know a girl, but slowly start throwing things like "you changed your hair - I like it" or "the sunlight makes your eyes look gorgeous" as I'm getting to know her. usually they're completely flattered by it.
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