museumchick Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I posted a few days ago about when it's okay to ask for more after I'd been on a few dates with a guy I'm seeing. We went out last night and he shocked me when he told me that I appear to be holding back and that he suspects I like him more than I'm letting on. He's very sharp! I told him that yes, I do like him a lot (that was so hard for me!) and that it's hard for me to hold back, but I have been because I'm following his lead. I told him I need to know where we stand. Basically he likes me, loves spending time with me, etc. but he just moved here and wants to get acclimated to his job, make new friends, and keep seeing me on a casual level and "let the romantic part of his life fall into place." Not the best news, but not the worst. So, casual dating. I've never done that with someone I actually really like. Does it ever lead to more?
Toasted Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 I think it can - but you have to be careful and think about what you want. He's being honest with you and as he just moved into town and wants to settle in I can see his hesitation. You said you'd only seen him a few times, I wouldn't rush it. I think you just need to be honest with him and yourself. What is your definition of casual dating? Usually it means you both can see other people if you choose to do so. If that thought makes you uncomfortable then I'd recommend you take a step back and examine what your really looking for. From your post it sounds like your looking for a relationship - not casual dating...
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