wantsFreedom Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 i want to end my 10 1/2 year-marriage.. it really sucks... husband is so lazy, sleeps most of the time... i'm the breadwinner, when in fact he is healthy enough to work hard to provide for us.... what he does?... his girlfriend and him stays in the house all day, while i'm in the office from 8 to 5.... and my kid is in school, by the way..... its so unfair, i want to leave him .... how can i tell him that i want out..... i find the marriage so hopeless, he's been having girlfriends left and right..... help me, guys, i want out!.............
Gunny376 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Actually I ended up in a metallurgical and plastics lab as lab tech/mgr doing ISO and QC work All those chemistry and calculus classes were such a waste of time, effort and energy. Most of what I do is done with arithmetic, (adding, dividing, division etc) dealing with decimals and ppm (parts per million) My X was a damned fool to have divorced me! Short term decisions with long term consequences!
tojaz Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Actually I ended up in a metallurgical and plastics lab as lab tech/mgr doing ISO and QC work All those chemistry and calculus classes were such a waste of time, effort and energy. Most of what I do is done with arithmetic, (adding, dividing, division etc) dealing with decimals and ppm (parts per million) My X was a damned fool to have divorced me! Short term decisions with long term consequences! How did i end up hanging with all the smart people???? i want to end my 10 1/2 year-marriage.. it really sucks... husband is so lazy, sleeps most of the time... i'm the breadwinner, when in fact he is healthy enough to work hard to provide for us.... what he does?... his girlfriend and him stays in the house all day, while i'm in the office from 8 to 5.... and my kid is in school, by the way..... its so unfair, i want to leave him .... how can i tell him that i want out..... i find the marriage so hopeless, he's been having girlfriends left and right..... help me, guys, i want out!............. Wants Freedom, you'll find more help if you start a thread and tell us your story so people can see it. Sure we all would be happy to help. TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 How did i end up hanging with all the smart people???? TOJAZ LOL! I don't know about smart, stupid is as stupid does to quote a phrase. I do know that I will take my guitar anyday over a TI 85 calculator. Oh my!! How do we keep coming back around to this d*** calculator!!! AHHHHH!
tojaz Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Oh my!! How do we keep coming back around to this d*** calculator!!! AHHHHH! Yes folks Trippi suffers from Calculaphobia but for mere pennies a day you can help sweet Trippi and others like her, just dial the 1-900- number at the bottom of your screen! TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 Yes folks Trippi suffers from Calculaphobia but for mere pennies a day you can help sweet Trippi and others like her, just dial the 1-900- number at the bottom of your screen! TOJAZ LOL!! Good one!! :D
Author trippi1432 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 I really would like to find out how this program works.....it's scary how accurate it can be. we believe God wants you to know ... that every moment is an opportunity for you to be happy. God wants you to know....that every moment is an opportunity for you to be happy. You know how sometimes it seems that life is just throwing you one curved ball after another? Well, guess what, - you have a great way to respond! - you can use every opportunity, every single one, to be happy. Don't just take a shower - feel into and receive pleasure from the water on your skin. Don't just walk on the street - enjoy the fragrances of the trees and the flowers on your way. Don't just drive your car - sing karaoke to your favorite radio station.
tojaz Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Sounds like great advice for everyone! Lets all have a happy day today, I hope!
Author trippi1432 Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Sounds like great advice for everyone! Lets all have a happy day today, I hope! I took the advice from my message, got out and just drove to the mountains. It was the same trek that STBX and I did back in July when he came back....the only time that we did something together before he left 4 weeks later. The best thing about it....I did what I wanted to do this time!! It was peaceful and it didn't matter that I was alone....it mattered more that I wasn't with someone who was miserable and couldn't be happy.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 I really would like to find out how this program works.....it's scary how accurate it can be. we believe God wants you to know ... that every moment is an opportunity for you to be happy. God wants you to know....that every moment is an opportunity for you to be happy. You know how sometimes it seems that life is just throwing you one curved ball after another? Well, guess what, - you have a great way to respond! - you can use every opportunity, every single one, to be happy. Don't just take a shower - feel into and receive pleasure from the water on your skin. Don't just walk on the street - enjoy the fragrances of the trees and the flowers on your way. Don't just drive your car - sing karaoke to your favorite radio station. Hmmm, the mockery of life....sometimes, even God can be wrong....
Author trippi1432 Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Message from God program....again: God wants you to know... that you are only as free as you imagine yourself to be. There is nothing ''out there'' that's holding you down, - you are limiting yourself only with your own imagination. And your greatest limits are not even the ''cannot'' and the ''should not'', but the places where your imagination hasn't yet gone at all. There has never been a better time for you to open your eyes, let the imagination soar and see what more is possible.
tojaz Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Message from God program....again: God wants you to know... that you are only as free as you imagine yourself to be. There is nothing ''out there'' that's holding you down, - you are limiting yourself only with your own imagination. And your greatest limits are not even the ''cannot'' and the ''should not'', but the places where your imagination hasn't yet gone at all. There has never been a better time for you to open your eyes, let the imagination soar and see what more is possible. Couldn't possibly write a better message for the creative song writer. Dream big Trippi, DREAM BIG THEN JUMP! TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 The Bitter End We both know what's happening But we're frightened of the truth We both know, letting go Is the hardest thing to do. We could hang onto the past We could set each other free There's nothing but wounded pride and fear At the dark end of the street Chorus: Let's not go there, Let's remember Something good about the way we were We need some mercy, From all this hurting Don't ya think that's what a broken heart deserves? There's a place that I don't wanna get to I don't want to go to the Bitter End with you. We both know the answer We avoided it so long We're not meant to be together We're just fools to linger on When we only cause each other pain And the fight is all we know Disappointment is surely waiting Down that old familiar road. (Repeat chorus 2x) Let's be kind while we have the chance to I don't wanna go to the Bitter End with you............. We both know what's happening But we're frightened of the truth............
Author trippi1432 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 God wants you to know....that it's time you remembered who you really are. You are not your wallet, your job, your kids, your house. You are not your activities or your worries or the labels other people give you. Like an actor you play these roles, and like a good actor you sometimes forget who you really are. Time to wake up now, and remember that you are a being of immense power and breathtaking beauty created in the image of God.
tojaz Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 God wants you to know....that it's time you remembered who you really are. You are not your wallet, your job, your kids, your house. You are not your activities or your worries or the labels other people give you. Like an actor you play these roles, and like a good actor you sometimes forget who you really are. Time to wake up now, and remember that you are a being of immense power and breathtaking beauty created in the image of God. What were we saying about the New Trippi? This has got to be the best message yet. LIVE IT! TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 What were we saying about the New Trippi? This has got to be the best message yet. LIVE IT! TOJAZ Yeah, would love to, just trying to figure out where to start.....sorry, like Garfield, I hate Mondays.
tojaz Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Yeah, would love to, just trying to figure out where to start..... remember that you are a being of immense power and breathtaking beauty created in the image of God. Start there, the rest is what you make of it. TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 we believe God wants you to know ... that you've been talking to God too much, and not listening enough. God wants you to know....that you've been talking to God too much, and not listening enough. Prayer is when you talk to God. Meditation is when you become quiet and listen to God. You've learned how to talk and ask well. Time to learn how to listen and hear, because God has been answering you. Very interesting, how much do people do this? Again, not forcing religion, Lord knows I need to get a church more often myself....but when you look at this message, it's not just about listening to God, but meditation to learn more about yourself.
tojaz Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 we believe God wants you to know ... that you've been talking to God too much, and not listening enough. God wants you to know....that you've been talking to God too much, and not listening enough. Prayer is when you talk to God. Meditation is when you become quiet and listen to God. You've learned how to talk and ask well. Time to learn how to listen and hear, because God has been answering you. Very interesting, how much do people do this? Again, not forcing religion, Lord knows I need to get a church more often myself....but when you look at this message, it's not just about listening to God, but meditation to learn more about yourself. Not sure if I'm listening to god, but i spend a lot of time with my thoughts now and again. Don't know if thats meditation, but it can be very insightful to just let yourself ponder for awhile with no goals or purpose. Just see where your mind takes you. TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 (edited) Not sure if I'm listening to god, but i spend a lot of time with my thoughts now and again. Don't know if thats meditation, but it can be very insightful to just let yourself ponder for awhile with no goals or purpose. Just see where your mind takes you. TOJAZ Horoscope --> You can sense the change, but have no idea what direction it is coming from. Just give the change a moment and it will reveal its direction to you. When you're not sure of what to do, sometimes it is best to wait and let the situation show you what to do. Just thinking about this one, so much change...it's just constant...once you think you have a handle on things, SMACK, curve ball. That's what divorce is.....and we all sit out there trying to dodge those curve balls. I've been pondering...meditating, some about what a lot of folks on LS could read between the lines on about my STBX cheating and the the STBX's GF (who he claims is his "soul-mate"), who suddenly emerged out of nowhere, and yes...I do believe that she has been there for awhile. He will never admit it and they have both gone to some great lengths to hide it from everyone (kids, family...etc) even though he waited a month to tell me he was seeing someone now. He didn't want that "mark" on him, but internally he is carrying it. I actually think my STBX does feel remorse for what he has done, but change being constant, you have to move on. That's the easy part for leavers and the hard part for those left behind....it's like you forget what "safe" feels like....and there are so many different realms of that equation. You ponder when or if you will ever feel that again with anyone when life throws you that curve ball. It makes you just hold back when you want to grasp at opportunities like being asked out, or noticing when you are being checked out. Not having the best track record at picking husbands....I begin to doubt my own judgement....not my self-worth, or even what I deserve....I know that I deserve to be happy and I know that I deserve to be loved...and yes, I know that I am not defined by who I am with, but by who I am. Tojaz - you bring up a good point about meditation, no goals; no purpose....a person's mind can take them to so many places of introspection, realization, happiness and so on.... Edited November 19, 2009 by trippi1432
tojaz Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 I think in going through something like this especialy, that its important to explore yourself. Find thing in you rather then analyzing the ex or the relationship etc. The idea is not to dodge those curveballs, but to find the tools to knock them out of the park. it's like you forget what "safe" feels like....and there are so many different realms of that equation. You ponder when or if you will ever feel that again with anyone when life throws you that curve ball. It makes you just hold back when you want to grasp at opportunities like being asked out, or noticing when you are being checked out. Not having the best track record at picking husbands....I begin to doubt my own judgement....not my self-worth, or even what I deserve....I know that I deserve to be happy and I know that I deserve to be loved...and yes, I know that I am not defined by who I am with, but by who I am. The ability to trust and feel safe comes with time. Trust dosen't happen when your guarded and defensive, but when you find something worthwhile to be vulnerable to. Thats the catch to finding and proving trust and safety, it only happens when you think you have neither. TOJAZ TOJAZ
Author trippi1432 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 we believe God wants you to know ... that you've been skipping out on God's most important gift to man - love. Love is the blood of the soul. God wants all beings to have healthy and strong souls, so God created a simple law to nourish the soul: the more you give love, the more you receive love. Remember all the beings you love - people, animals - that you haven't thought of lately. Do not wait anymore, reconnect with them today and express your love.
tojaz Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 we believe God wants you to know ... that you've been skipping out on God's most important gift to man - love. Love is the blood of the soul. God wants all beings to have healthy and strong souls, so God created a simple law to nourish the soul: the more you give love, the more you receive love. Remember all the beings you love - people, animals - that you haven't thought of lately. Do not wait anymore, reconnect with them today and express your love. Not always true.
Author trippi1432 Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 God wants you to know... ... that you don't go to find meaning in life, you bring meaning to your life. Meaning isn't something out there waiting for you to discover. The meaning of your life is what you infuse it with - beauty or ugliness, happiness or sadness. It is totally your choice, and God wants it to be your choice because God gave you free will.
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