JHparkes Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Hi all, I'm currently dating a guy (6 years younger than me and I'm 30) who I've seen twice in two weeks. We have been out for drinks and got along well. Well last week he sends me a text asking when I'm going to cook for him. I said he'll have to wait and see but he keeps mentioning it. I can cook by the way. But the thing is, we haven't even been out for a meal yet and I would prefer to go out for a meal to begin with. Am I well within my rights to say, actually I'd rather go out for a meal and I'll cook for you the next time we go out or would it be better for me to just cook for him then suggest it the next time...? I dont' want to make it seem like I dont' want to do anything for him, but this would just be my preference at this early stage. What do you guys think?
New Again Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 Maybe he wants you to cook for him so he doesn't feel obligated to shell out for dinner? Or have you mentioned to him anything about your ability to cook? IMO, dating done right means that the second date is the date where you do an activity that you said you enjoy on the first date. I can understand where he's coming from if you had mentioned it on the first date. Since your first two dates were just for drinks (I'm assuming you meant alcoholic ones) it sounds kinda like he's just trying to hook up - having you cook for him at your house is an incredibly easy and lazy way for him to try to accomplish that. Regardless, if you don't want a stranger you've met twice in your home, and you don't want to cook for him yet, that's fine. It's perfectly acceptable for you to tell him you'd rather go out to dinner first. I would be really annoyed at someone nagging me to cook for him. He should offer to cook for YOU - esp. if he doesn't want to pay for a dinner out. That would be romantic and not irritating.
Toasted Posted July 25, 2009 Posted July 25, 2009 "I would be really annoyed at someone nagging me to cook for him. He should offer to cook for YOU - esp. if he doesn't want to pay for a dinner out. That would be romantic and not irritating. " Isn't that the best? My last boyfriend cooked for me all the time, I never felt so spoiled!
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